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White Woman: We need to keep the Civil War monuments in public spaces because we need to remember the Civil War.

Me: Do you need to have a Hitler monument to remember the Holocaust?

White Woman: No.  I am appalled.

Me: (Blank Stare) I don’t need to see Civil War monuments in public spaces every single day to be reminded of the Civil War.

White Woman: But it is art.

Me: Would those monuments of Hitler generals be art if they are in public spaces in Germany?

White Woman: I would leave the country.

Me: (Blank Stare) I am four generations away from a plantation.

White Woman: Oh, that is recent.

As a black woman, I have not been vocal about taking down the Civil War monuments that were erected during the Civil Rights Movement in predominately African American areas.  I enjoy history, so I appreciate the value in understanding the history of the Civil War.  I, actually, enjoy reading history books and gaining a stronger understanding of the complicated history of those who were apart of the earlier days of the United States.  I am intrigued.  Yet, it is this conversation that made me second guess my position.

I often wondered about the Civil War monuments because I wondered if it is possible to tear down every racist, slave owner, Confederate soldier monument.  In addition, is it possible to even tear down every monument or rename every school since American history is a bit complicated?  Yet, this woman gave me a perspective that people really do believe African Americans need to be reminded of the Civil War.  This led me to emphatically explain this, “Every day I wake up, I am aware of the Civil War because I look at my skin.  I cannot divorce history from my skin, which is a lens of my perspective.”  This statement was said eye-to-eye.

We do need to remember the Civil War, but maybe I don’t need a monument to remember it.  Maybe the predominately White neighborhood needs to remember it.  I will trade the Robert E. Lee Middle School in the Black neighborhood to go to the predominately White neighborhood while we will rename the school to be Robert Kennedy, Jr. Middle School in the predominately Black neighborhood.  My proposal is a bit cheesy, but I want you to realize that these artifacts are continual reminders of the Civil War and the years of oppression Blacks have endured then and now.

If these monuments are just “art,” then why did it take over a decade of Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. to sell bricks that would fund the misquoted Martin Luther King, Jr. monument in Washington, D.C.?  Our America would not fund the monument 100%, so with Alpha Phi Alpha leading the way, the rest of the African American fraternities and sororities donated to pay a portion for that monument to be erected.  These monuments, clearly, have value and significance.  

American history needs to be taught.  We should be able to walk in a monumental mall and see the history of the Civil War.  We should give tours that explain the troubled, darker history of the Civil War.  It is not a dark history because we are still living in the shadows of the Civil War; therefore, it is a darker history.  These monuments should not be dispersed around the cities in America, so we can “appreciate” these lives.  One way to start respecting each other is to begin to understand each other’s perspective and the skin that they live within.

 

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Match Black Women brings Hi-tech Love to Matchmaking Services

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Match Black Woman brings Hi-tech Love to Matchmaking Services
New dating site offers innovative solutions for Black women 

Atlanta, GA: MatchBlackWoman.com offers dating and networking solutions for women of African ancestry to find compatible suitors. An innovating dating service, the site offers membership levels and business opportunities to not only connect with others, but monetize their time and investment.

Built on the belief that voluntarily connecting people who share common interests can lead to greater compatibility, the platform seeks to propose a solution by bridging the gap of a tough online dating market while providing a service for individuals who have an interest in dating Black Women.

The site has a number of features designed to help seekers find a potential mate. Women can meet single men, network with other women, receive matchmaking services, video chat, and participate in forums. There are also unique search options based on music preferences, eating habits, lifestyle, and more.

MatchBlackWomen.com is a social networking dating site designed from a womanist perspective. It includes the interests of women and includes forums to discuss issues relating to Black women and the broader community. It’s time we had our own space. This is a way to make things fun, interesting, and connect with like-minded people.

There are three membership options: Free, Gold, and Black Diamond. Free members can create a profile, post three photos and conduct member searches. The Gold level allows members to add up to six photos, send and receive unlimited messages, video chat, post on an activity wall, have access to forums and news, and set privacy limits. The premium Black Diamond level has all the features of the Gold level, with unlimited photos.

Business people have an added incentive: become an affiliate! Earn 55% commission per signup, making finding true love while getting paid even better! For more information on the site, or to express interest in the business opportunity, contact [email protected].

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Mom Gets Criticized for Showing Toddlers Kissing on The Mouth

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Mother of 3, Ashlee Muhammed receives backlash for her parenting skills, due to a viral video of her twin boys kissing on the lips.

Although most people seemed to think that the video showed an innocent sign of affection, others were not feeling the brotherly love.

All You NEED Is LOVE 🌹@supernovaandjetman

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One follower called Muhammed’s parenting skills reckless, despite her intended message.

Majority of the negative comments were received by black men.

They accused Muhammed of highlighting perversion and sexuality amongst toddlers. However, Muhammed defends her video.

She states that “The World needs more love like this”.

What are your thoughts, did she take brotherly love too far?

In the African-American community, it seems like we’re so afraid to teach boys to show affection because we’re in fear of them being gay. However, that’s a disturbing label to put on toddlers.

Do you think this warranted the drag session she received in the comments? She decided not to take the video down despite its controversy.

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Money Moves: New Year’s Financial Checklist Part 2

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Thanks for checking out Part 1, and we’re back with Part 2!  Let’s get to it!

Do you have savings?  This may sound like a silly question, but it may surprise you.  Did you know that 57% of Americans have less than $1000 in savings?  Are you included in that group?  If so, don’t feel bad.  You can turn this around.  The old saying is “plan for a rainy day”.  Well my new saying is “plan for a tsunami”.  An emergency fund of $1000 is a great place to start for savings. This will come in handy to pay for unexpected car repairs or medical bills, or an array of actual “emergencies”. $1000 may seem like a lot, but if you could put away $20 a week for one year you can attain this goal.

After you have allocated your emergency fund, you can focus on your general savings. A great way to save is to set savings goals.  Do you want to buy a new house? Are you in the market for a new car?  Perhaps you’ve been eyeing a new designer bag or shoes.  Whatever it may be, set savings goals and be diligent about achieving them.

Also, did the holidays hit you hard?  Have you been dying to take that trip to Dubai?  Creating a holiday fund account can ease the unnecessary stress of Christmas shopping, and reduce the risk of going into debt.  Summer will be here before you know it.  If you start saving now in a vacation account, you can take that dream vacation and do it in style.

 

Stay tuned for Part 3!  Have questions? We love to help!  Leave a comment or for more specific questions, email me at [email protected]

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