It’s a thin line between love and hate.
I’ve never really watched TI and Tiny: The Family Hustle, however, this season has definitely been interesting. On the most recent episode, TI and Tiny dive into the issues that led to the dissolution of their marriage. Tiny confirmed what the rumor mill has been saying for years, TI was unfaithful. Apparently, the infidelity was even more hurtful because it was a woman that used to work for her. Tiny revealed that this was why she decided to get her own home. TI’s rebuttal: He accused Tiny of sleeping with someone else too. Of course, the leads people to continue to speculate about whether Tiny slept with Floyd Mayweather, while we all know about TI and Bernice Burgos. The entire scene plays out like a sad soap opera in a restaurant.
Let’s unpack this.
Of course, we don’t know all of what happened in TI and Tiny’s relationship. We only know what they have revealed through their show, interviews, Instagram feuds, etc. Rumors have flown around for years that TI and Tiny lived the fast life; having threesomes, drugs, pretty much a little of everything. Tiny herself eluded to some form of “openness” in her interview with Wendy Williams. The reality of relationships is that no matter how progressive or liberal you think you are, any time you invite someone else into your relationship there will be problems.
I’m sure that Tiny thought if she was complicit and they did it together, this would prevent him from cheating. I’m not blaming Tiny because it takes two. She has more than proven her loyalty, even catching a felony charge for TI. Unfortunately, her loyalty has not been rewarded, at least in the way she had hoped. In TI’s mind, spending a substantial amount of money compensates her for the pain he’s caused. It seems like Tiny just wanted to feel valued and respected.
TI did what most people do when confronted with their shortcomings, he deflected. Tiny has always maintained that she was never unfaithful to TI. Even if that isn’t true, you can’t blame someone else for your behavior. Be accountable for your actions. Pointing out what Tiny may or may not have done doesn’t change or excuse his poor choices.
The biggest thing ruining relationships isn’t infidelity, it’s selfishness. Cheating, lying, all of these things stem from selfishness. The basic principle of “do unto others, as you would have them do unto you” has been forgotten. When you agree to be in a committed relationship, your partner’s feelings matter as much as your own. If monogamy isn’t for you, then don’t subscribe to it. Too many people get into relationships, knowing they aren’t ready to fully commit to one person. Again, selfishness. You want or need your partner for one reason or another, but you also want to go out and do your own thing.
What’s really sad, is to watch the breakdown of their relationship play out so publicly. When I mentioned bringing another person in your relationship, I wasn’t just referring to cheating. When you tell all of your relationship business to other people, that is also inviting people into your relationship. Once you invite people in, you can’t kick them out. Tiny’s friends have had their say on social media, some going too far in what they think is support of her. TI has posted his own response to the critics on IG, all the while having filmed this season of their reality show.
What I take from this situation is to keep your relationships private, in all sense of the word. Keep others out verbally and physically. The goal should be to end the relationship with the same dignity and integrity that it began.
What your thought about TI and Tiny airing dirty laundry?
Uncle Snoop Get Your Apology to Ari Lennox Ready
Apparently, everyone’s favorite uncle likes apologizing. Fresh off of his apology tour for his controversial comments towards broadcast journalists Gayle King, Snoop Dogg decided to comment on Ari Lennox’s Instagram live to instruct her to “grow your own hair.”
Yesterday, the Dreamville songbird took to Instagram Live in true Ari fashion to document her trying on a new lace front wig. Not known for wearing wigs, she struggled with figuring out how much lace to cut and securing the hair as she entertained her followers with hilarious gestures and commentary.
Eventually, a snippet of the video ended up on The Shade Room for everyone’s viewing pleasure.
Moments later, Snoop was unnecessarily commenting under the video.
In no time, women were coming to Ari’s defense, reminding the legendary rapper that his wife and daughter are no strangers to wigs.
You’d think men would know to leave their opinions to themselves when it comes to women’s hair, especially black women, but clearly, Uncle Snoop forgot to read that particular memo.
Once Ari caught wind of Snoop’s comments, she delivered a lovely little shade tree, posting a photo of Snoop wearing a blonde wig with the caption, “Uncle I just…I just thought we had an understanding….”
Following the backlash that he’s currently receiving, I can already envision the apology that’s sure to follow. Perhaps someone should remind Uncle Snoop that the best apology is changed behavior…
DJ D-Nice Has Spun His Way Into the Living Rooms of Thousands
Every day, legendary DJ D-Nice (a.k.a. Derrick Jones) spends countless hours helping thousands of global citizens forget about the coronavirus pandemic and financial woes with his “Homeschool” parties.
Initially jumping on Instagram Live to cure his boredom while “self-isolating,” D-Nice had an audience of a few hundred, mostly friends. As word began to spread, it grew to a few thousand. By Sunday, over 160,000 people joined his live for a virtual party that included the heavyweights such as Michelle Obama, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett-Smith, 9th Wonder, Jimmy Fallon, and Vice President Joe Biden.
During a CBS This Morning interview, D-Nice shared, “I literally just played what feels good. I wanted people to feel good. I wanted their experience to be lifted through music, just one song at a time.” And he’s done just that. While on live, his comment section is a constant stream of cheers, shout outs, and music-lovers asking, “Where the drinks at?” It feels like the best VIP section you’ll ever experience but from your living room.
“No matter what your problems are, you can put on a good tune and it just takes you away and I was trying to do that,” he explained. “It wasn’t just the music, it was the whole experience and everyone escaping what’s going on today just for a few hours.”
While some of his neighbors have complained about the noise, D-Nice is committed to keeping the party going as the universal language of music is playing a vital role in keeping us all connected.
We have DJ D-Nice to thank for that!
Jay Electronica & Joe Budden Used Their Twitter Fingers to Exchange Insults
It took 10 years for Jay Electronica to release his highly-anticipated album, A Written Testimony. While some are singing his praises, others are incredibly disappointed. One such person is former rapper turned media personality, Joe Budden.
Budden used his platform, The Joe Budden Podcast episode Dry Snitching to express his disappointment. Budden proclaimed, “You’ve been missing for ten years- which is cool, ’cause you’ve been living life. But that confidence that I thought you might’ve been living life with is suppressed…that lens that I’m looking through paints the story of a different MC. And that MC is one that would get smacked around by Hov on every song.”
In response, Electronica took to Twitter and posted a video clip of DaBaby saying “fuck it,” directing the tweet at Rory, one of the co-hosts on Budden’s podcast.
Shortly after, Budden responded referring to Jay-Z’s performance on A Written Testimony, where he appears on eight of ten tracks. “I never got absolutely mopped around on my own project either… @ me, not Rory.”
Here’s how the rest of that conversation went:
The tirade ended with Electronica demanding credit for “lighting up” the podcast episode.
Electronica released A Written Testimony on Friday, March 13th. It’s his first solo album after more than ten years of delays with features by Jay-Z, The-Dream and Travis Scott, with additional production by The Alchemist, No ID, Swizz Beatz and Hit-Boy.