Already in shock that Shangela was barricaded from the top two, I was preparing myself for a Kennedy Davenport win. Kennedy utterly slayed the final lip-sync to an unimpressive song that mostly favored the other queen. Kennedy performed better than her competitor throughout the season, which was not hard seeing that the other half of the top two did not win a single challenge. Because I like to be naive at times, as it can be cute and endearing, I hoped Kennedy would be the choice. However, my ancestors and the spirits who hold my past traumas spoke to me and said, “Sis, you know better than that- we’ve already prepared you for this moment.” So, as RuPaul announced the country queen as the winner, this complicated feeling swept over me. It was a mixture between surprise and this intense calm.
Because I at times commit to poor decisions, I decided to watch the finale at a local bar- one that is queer friendly. Well, white queer friendly. The crowning was accompanied by the whitest and loudest applause I’ve heard in a bar setting- applause and noise that rivaled any sporting event I’ve ever watched in a public space. This reminds me that I am never safe in this Black fat body, no matter if the setting is queer and well-intentioned.Yes, I know RPDR is riddled with every ism and phobia, but still I thought better of these people. Click To Tweet
I feel guilty for being angry, because I know this show remains problematic in many ways. However, I am legit sadden by this expected surprise. Yes, I know this show is riddled with every ism and phobia, but still I thought better of these people. And of course someone will soon hop on my timeline telling me that I shouldn’t care so much- and honestly I will probably cuss them the phuck out. I would hope I’d respond differently, but I know my brand. Smh.
This season, this episode, triggered some bad memories and emotions for me. Once again, it told me that I will never be enough in this fat, Black, queer body. Whiteness and white mediocrity will often be the victor, will often be praised, and will do their best to gaslight you when it’s all said and done.
Here are a few insights I must get off my heart. In the tradition of Paris is Burning, I honor the Black and brown queens who made drag what it is today…
The library is open, hunty.
Kennedy Davenport doesn’t deserve your pity. She deserves no one’s pity because she is a boss. She is a champion with or without the crown. She deserved to be in the Top four, and deserved to beat that other gurl in the final two. Not a read, just true.
Shangela was the clear winner. CLEARLY. And her face showed me that she knew she was morally better than most queens in that room, in that moment. Halleloo.
RuPaul once said that drag pokes fun at the rules (a loose interpretation of something he actually said), but in practice has successfully helped white cis-heteropatriarchy thrive in drag. RuPaul is committed to uplifting whiteness, as it is attached to capitalism. Sis wants another Emmy and a much larger check- the internalized anti-Blackness has runneth over, all over those pretty suits and pretty gowns. RuPaul must have sincerely been flattered by the winner’s impersonation of him in the Snatch Game.
…And he is a legend and a trailblazer.
Beware of white people who think this chick with the ethnic puff on the top of her head deserved to win. They are the same people who whisper #AllLivesMatter to one another in Black and brown spaces. They are the same people who love having Black friends, but are absent when violent shyt goes down. They are the same people who are hypercritical of Black queens, but then show up to their shows and events to steal dance moves and drag techniques. They are the Toros of life, a la the white cheerleaders in Bring it On.
The white queen whose name rhymes with silk, and makes me proud to be lactose intolerant is…spolied.
Bebe Zahara Benet is me if I ever do drag. Muva is unshakable. It was clear that she didn’t define her worth by what these other queens thought. She doesn’t have to be crowned the queen because she already knows she is one.
The white queen who dons dreadlocks showed her anti-Black and classist ass in her original season by how she treated both Bob The Drag Queen and Chi Chi DeVayne. <sigh> Some things never change. However, she was the only queen who voted for Shangela to be in the top two.
I was waiting for Aja to conjure Crystal LaBeija once Ru announced the top two. However, Aja chose the Milwaukee queen over Shangela to be in the top two, so perhaps LaBeija was out to lunch with Monique.I’m noticing on social media that a lot of the Black and brown queens are on this condragulations tour- celebrating a queen that had no business winning, and avoiding any of the racialized critiques. To them, I say be careful. Click To Tweet
I’m noticing on social media that a lot of the Black and brown queens are on this condragulations tour- celebrating a queen that had no business winning, and avoiding any of the racialized critiques. To them, I say be careful. There are young Black and brown queens who are looking up to you, and learning how to address racism and anti-Blackness in this industry by carefully observing your every move. However, I understand that your speaking up puts your booking fee at risk, your livelihood at risk. This is how white supremacy traps Black and brown bodies.
White queens who talk about white supremacy, misogyny, and queer and transantagonism on their platforms, I await your voice in this conversation. It is your responsibility to challenge your fellow white queens, and your problematic followers. Get to it.
I also want to be clear. I believe the winner of the third cycle of All Stars identifies as biracial/multiracial with roots to the Ojibwe people, and that matters in their journey to the crown. And, in this industry, this human still benefits from white privilege in some truly complex ways. Trixie, you have a responsibility in this conversation as well.
The Library is closed, officially.
All (Monique) heart, we love you, Shangela. We love you, Bebe. And we love you, Kennedy. Please continue to shine for us. Here is my love letter to you all.
Cody Charles is the author of Mudbound: Uncovering The Parts Of Ourselves We Sacrifice In Order To Survive, A Dream Undeterred: 10 Dreams I Want To Live Out In My Black Fat Queer Body In 2018, Our Favorite Blackity Black Quotes In Black Cinema, Engaging My Black Fat Body, Re-Imagining Black Love, You Can’t Outdo Black People, Black Joy, We Deserve It, The Night The Moonlight Caught My Eye: Not a Review but a Testimony on the Film Moonlight, 5 Tips For White Folks, As They Engage Jordan Peele’s Get Out. (No Spoilers), and What Growing Up Black And Poor Taught Me About Resiliency. Join him for more conversation on Twitter (@_codykeith_) and Facebook (Follow Cody Charles). Please visit his blog, Reclaiming Anger, to learn more about him.
Back to Da Cell! ‘Real Housewives of Atlanta’ Alum Apollo Nida Arrested AGAIN After Violating Parole
Apollo Nida just celebrated his release from prison last week and now the RHOA alum is behind bars again! According to Page Six, US Marshals detained Apollo for breaking a technical condition of his release.
Having just finished five years behind bars, Nida was headed for a prison release program. But now he’ll have to postpone reuniting with his children and fiance because he violated his probation. According to a representative, Nida isn’t quite arrested, but there “was an order of the court bring him into custody”. While the terms of Apollo’s release aren’t public, he was allegedly detained for violating conditions of his release.
Apollo, who was released early due to credit for time served, was initially sentenced to 96-months behind bars. He was expected to complete a prison release program in Philadelphia. Now, it’s questionable what the future holds for the two-time felon.
Apollo’s fiance, Sherien Almufti hasn’t released a formal statement explaining what happened. However, she did post a recent photo of herself and Nida on Instagram with a scathing caption calling out his probation officer. Sherien said “For those who are confused @apollonida03 didn’t violate a goddamn thing. Another crime against a black man in the system. Jealousy is a disease and his PO will die mad!!”
Chris Brown Dragged For Insulting Victor Cruz, Karrueche Tran
Chris Brown’s recent behavior is a lesson that domestic violence has no limitations. The singer and proven abuser has shown his true colors again by leaving harassing comments beneath Victor Cruz’s Instagram post.
Targeting the fashion sense of Karrueche’s longtime boyfriend Victor Cruz, Chris Brown left several disparaging comments in close succession. Stating he needed a stylist and she should “upgrade ya man,” Chris Brown is still attacking his ex after five years of separation.
The one-time couple split in 2015 after a very public shouting match following Karrueche’s discovery that Chris fathered a love child with Nia Guzman, a stripper from Texas. During the lengthy argument, Chris forced himself into Karrueche’s vehicle and despite being dropped off at a different location, he arrived at her home to argue at 3 am. This led to Karrueche securing a restraining order against the singer in 2017, approved for 5 years.
During the hearing where Karrueche petitioned for a restraining order against Chris Brown, she provided evidence of threatening messages and testified that Chris had physically abused her. To make matters worse the physical violence took place while Chris Brown was on probation for the brutal abuse of Rihanna! The text messages Karrueche received contained threats like “Bitch I will beat the sh*t out of you” and “I will make your life hell.”
The comments Chris made beneath the photo of Karrueche and Victor were not light humor. In the past, Chris Brown left threatening messages beneath a photo of Tran and Michael B. Jordan. Stating “Imma kill blood”, Chris Brown threatened her and the actors lives, making good on his promise to “make you hate me even more.”
Fans of Karrueche were quick to point out how childish and threatening Chris Brown’s messages were. But what’s more important is that Chris Brown’s comments may violate the terms of his restraining order. If Karrueche’s terms include clauses for social media use, CB could be in trouble. Karrueche’s current order doesn’t expire until 2022, so maybe the singer should focus on backflips before he lands in jail.
Wendy Williams’ Gets Her Groove Back With 27-Year-Old Ex-Con
Spotted in the vehicle as TMZ ran up for a potentially staged paparazzi session, Wendy’s mystery man was been a hot topic. Fans of the talk show host and those supporting her best life as she divorces Kevin Hunter, want to know who her flavor of the month is. Thanks to Bossip, we now know that 54-year-old Williams is getting cozy with a 27-year old named Marc Tomblin.
Bossip discovered the identify of Wendy’s new man and quickly uncovered his criminal history. While Wendy is aware of his muddy past, she says she knows what she’s doing. Let’s hope, sis!
Wendy’s new beau is a convicted felon who claims to be a financial investigator and blogger according to his LinkedIn profile. But before he hooked up with Wendy, Tomblin was arrested for robbery with a dangerous weapon and breaking and entering. Still, Wendy doesn’t care about his past and is declaring it a hot girl summer with the rest of us.
Ms. Wendy Thee Show Pony called out Kevin for having “a full baby with a woman he was involved with for 15 years” while keeping her cooped up. Proud to be living her best life, Wendy is just enjoying Marc Tomblin’s company despite their May-December age difference.
As for whether things will ever get serious for her again, Wendy says not so fast! During a recent taping of The Wendy Williams Show, she gushed about her newfound freedom. Stating, “I don’t have a boyfriend, but I must admit I am rediscovering my love of men.”, Wendy has made it clear she’s not looking for a long time, just a good one.
Are you here for the new Wendy?