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The attacks on Paris November 13th, 2015 have left 129 killed so far and over 300 injured. Some users on Facebook changed their profile picture to show solidarity and some people were not here for it.

 

imageChhhh it seems that you can only support one movement at a time in this day and age. Sometimes, I do think people hop on social media trends, but it’s hard to tell who the difference. I myself have never changed my profile picture for anything. Personally I don’t think you have to do all of that to show support for anything. It does seem that the media does give extra attention to “certain people”. Maybe some were just upset at the constant media bias.

It just seems now to be a battle of hashtags and I am nobody’s Pokémon Master. “Black Lives Matter” “Gay Lives Matter” “Turkey Lives Matter” Chhhh at this point all I wanna say is

 

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Please do not get me wrong. I care about the movements and the awareness many of these campaigns have brought. But to be honest, some of these individuals have made Facebook depressing and I’m not here for it.

AdrianXpression summed all of it in exactly 2:16 Check it out below…

 

So until it’s cleared and they go back to laughing at somebody choke on Patti’s Pies you can catch me on BlackPlanet & MySpace….

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  1. Vera

    November 16, 2015 at 1:40 am

    You write well too? You are truly a triple threat!

    • Vera

      November 16, 2015 at 1:42 am

      #jaysdoitallwell

    • mm

      Justin J

      November 16, 2015 at 2:22 am

      I’m trying Vera. I’m working on it but thank you!

  2. Meghan

    November 16, 2015 at 9:26 pm

    so true, bandwagon-ing is played.

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After a chance meeting with a New York legend, Chaédria LaBouvier, the Guggenheim Museum’s first black female curator, promised herself if she experienced another special encounter on New York’s MTA bus service, she would live-tweet it for the world. Probably sooner than she expected, she found herself giving her followers a play-by-play of a man and woman discussing their relationship, its problems, and how they can solve them.

According to LaBouvier, everything began with the man telling his girlfriend, “I love you and I want to make this work but you’re mean AS FUCK and it’s wearing me down.” Her tweets then went on to describe the man explaining that she doesn’t know how to communicate her concerns in a healthy and productive way with him and pleading with her to seek help from a mental health professional. 

The woman acknowledges not only his concerns but also her own frustration with her actions and her reservations about therapy. “’I know I don’t communicate my feelings…I didn’t grow up with that and I had to teach myself… what if therapy doesn’t work for me? What if I’m just angry?’”

To some, LaBouvier’s tweets hearkened back to the problematic “#PlaneBae” incident in which a comedian’s live-tweets of flirtatious meet-cute between two fellow passengers on her flight from New York to Dallas included photos of the unsuspecting pair. Many, though, are hailing the unidentified MTA man’s devotion to his relationship and LaBouvier’s (@chaedria on Twitter) account as a beautiful example of love, commitment, patience, and compromise. 

In the exchange, the man affirms his girlfriend’s feelings about her anger and recognizes how difficult it can be to change learned behaviors, especially when the raw emotion of a lover’s quarrel come into play. Often times, couples fail to acknowledge the impact of their actions while focusing on the recipient, but both participants here succeed in validating the other and showing empathy for one another at the same time. “’I want a better YOU not someone else… would it help you if I went with you [to therapy]? I’ll ask my mom if she has any recommendations,’” the man offers 

However, what he likely doesn’t understand is that just any old “therapy” isn’t always the answer. Our MTA heroine arguably needs a trauma therapist specializing in PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder – as evidenced by her brief detail of her childhood experience and the shame she feels every night. By her own admission she continually tries to correct her behavior yet fails, and a trauma specialist could not only better understand her situation, but also potentially reduce the pain she feels, slow the frequency of her “blackouts,” and address any other side effects. 

When thinking of the traumas that can affect any of us, it’s important to remember that what scars us individually may not scar us collectively. Whatever she experienced may not be immediately understandable or accessible to us (or her boyfriend whose race remains a mystery while LaBouvier identifies her as a woman of color), but it still grieves her daily. Imagine breaking a limb – you may get a cast and lollipop at the hospital, but that pain still remains until the injury is fully healed. Equally, that pain still affects our interactions with other others. All human interaction is dependent on our relationships and when our feelings are hurt, those relationships are thrown into chaos until the injury is healed or at least back in a working state.

This couple’s relationship may not be perfect, but their willingness to work together through their weaknesses is a sign all love is not lost. While therapy is not a cure-all, the right therapy can heal a lot of injuries. 

Check out the full thread on the flip and let us know what you think. Can therapy help their relationship? Do you have a personal experience you’d like to share?

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