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With Thanksgiving coming soon! Not only have Struggle Plates been on my mind, but who gets fed first? Do you fix your husband a plate first or do you fix your children’s plate first?

 

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imageI would think you feed your kids first considering they might not be able to just yet. On the other hand, your husband might be the primary source of income in the household. The husband might need to be fed first so he can have the energy to be able to make money to support the household. Although, at the same time, children are growing and need all the nourishment they can get. Now, I don’t have a man and I don’t know who should eat first. You all need to help me.

Also, what do you do when Ebony to fixes your husband a plate while you were in the restroom? So many questions! I need answers!

Can a man fix his on plate? Personally I wouldn’t if he is expecting it, but I don’t have a man lol.

Do we keep it old shool and pooch to the kitchen and fix your man a plate or do you say he can get his on?

 

Ladies who do you feed first? Be HONEST and help JustinJ out…

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  1. Melanie

    November 26, 2015 at 1:32 am

    I’m traditional, so my husband to me it’s a respect thing

  2. Keisha

    November 26, 2015 at 2:20 am

    my husband and I both agree that are children come before us but I usually either serve them simultaneously or hubby first then my babies.

  3. Oodie

    November 26, 2015 at 2:44 am

    I’m glad I don’t have these issues because I’m not fixing another grown ass able bodied person’s plate. If that is a factor of love, y’all can have that shit. Besides, kids matter more to me anyway, so they’d be eating first if I had any. Either he fixes his own plate or starve, but I’m eating.

    • Petranilla

      November 26, 2015 at 1:09 pm

      He’s better get his arse up and serve himself ESPECIALLY if I did all the cooking without help!! I am tired!!!!!!!!

      • Mindie

        November 30, 2015 at 5:14 pm

        I agree!

      • Anne

        December 1, 2015 at 6:20 am

        Agree. I’m not making shit. I done stood up and cooked all this shit, you make my plate!

      • Tj

        October 8, 2016 at 10:32 pm

        You black aint you?

    • Danielle

      December 10, 2015 at 12:20 pm

      Word!

  4. BinkiBianca

    November 26, 2015 at 3:17 am

    I believe the husband should be fed first. He’s the head of the family.

    • Tierra

      November 26, 2015 at 4:58 am

      I have to agree! Me as a mother and wife I usally fix my husband’s plate first then my two children. It’s not like it’s only enough food for just my husband. Everybody gets fed and its only like a minute between when my husband gets his plate and when my kids receive theirs. My husband will fix his own plate and ours no problem if necessary. That’s how I grew up seeing my grandmother fix my grandfather’s plate and she still does to this day.

  5. Sherry

    November 26, 2015 at 5:34 am

    I fix my stepson’s plate and then my husband’s at home. If we are out eating at someone else’s, we all usually make our own. I don’t know what kind of dishes they may or may not want that someone else cooked. They might want to try something that I might not realize. I also make my 75 year old mama a plate, even though she gets around just fine and is studying that vodka cocktail more than a plate. I don’t mind making men’s plates, however, grown ass, able bodied people really do need to make their own plates. Happy Thanksgiving, Justin and all the Jays!

  6. Jessica Holland

    November 26, 2015 at 6:17 pm

    Everyone should fix their own plate.. unless they are physically unable to do so

  7. CandE

    November 27, 2015 at 12:10 am

    Good article Justin. This is a good question, and since I don’t have a man either I’ll reference my knowledge of married women in my family. I believe you feed your husband first unless he insist you make the kids plates first. Lol better beat cousin faith to it.

  8. Danielle J

    November 27, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    If I had a man, I wouldn’t fix his plate for him since he do have two fucking hands and legs that work perfectly good…

    • Vera

      November 29, 2015 at 5:16 pm

      Lol! I’m with you on the two fucking hands lol

    • Tj

      October 8, 2016 at 10:33 pm

      Thats why you dont have one.

  9. Renee S.

    November 28, 2015 at 1:25 am

    Look Ladies,

    We live in the year of 2015 and things are going to change every year for us women and the next generation of women. Me personally, I would fix my children’s plate first because as being a full time mother all day they deserve it more than we do because we made that sacrifice to have kids in the first place. When Women have kids, everything changes in our lives physically, mentally, and emotionally when it comes to having children so by being a full time mother making sure they eat first is very important. Now however being traditional is not a bad thing, but as the year changes…were doing things differently now which is focusing more on feeding our kids first. Now to makes this simple and so easy to accomplish just feed your whole family and they will be happy. 🙂 I hope I sum this up well for ya’ll to understand.

  10. moniee

    November 29, 2015 at 12:27 am

    I don’t have either but, I would fix the kids plate first knowing that it involves knives and cutting and such then fix the mans plate. At then end of the day when we sit at the table everybody is suppose to wait until all plates are served, say grace, then eat so it really shouldn’t be that much of an issue if the man have to wait for his plate anyways.

  11. Vera

    November 29, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    We just pass the dishes around. When my grandfather was alive, we had to do it in counterclockwise. Don’t ask me why cause I still don’t get it. But anyway- husband sits at head of table and he gets what’s passed to him. An adult is sitting between children to help them. I’m usually sitting closest to the kitchen so I can get up 5 billion times for things I’ve forgotten.

  12. LC

    November 30, 2015 at 4:36 pm

    I haven’t seen a man have his “plate fixed” in my family since my great grandfather was still alive.

  13. Mindie

    November 30, 2015 at 5:21 pm

    Depending on age I think children should be first. After that I feel whom ever cooked the meal should be next. I have been married almost 19 years, together 21 yeats. I have probably fixed my husbands plate a dozen times. That was only because he had had knee surgery. Fixing your mans plate is not key to a happy marriage.

  14. Anne

    December 1, 2015 at 6:22 am

    That’s what’s wrong with this country. Women always putting themselves last. I’m not with that serving a man shit. I’m just not.

  15. Tanisha

    December 3, 2015 at 2:43 pm

    When I was growing up, my grandmother would always fix my grandfather’s plate before we could fix our own plate. Sometimes he just wouldn’t eat if she wasn’t home to fix his plate. Now that I have a family of my own, I cook and I fix my children’s plates first. It is my job as their mother to take care of them. My husband isn’t left out. I do cook!! He’ll it’s woman that don’t even do that..

  16. Danielle

    December 10, 2015 at 12:23 pm

    Yeah, I feed the 2 men of my home first, meaning before me. The 2 men are my 2 boys Kingston and Kendall. All my kids eat first in my home. I don’t have a man but if I did that ass is not a priority to eating before my kids.

  17. Lauren C

    March 21, 2016 at 12:50 pm

    There is nothing wrong with fixing your hard working husband a plate. Now if you have a grown ass man that does nothing, that’s a different story. To each their own, but I serve my husband first, then my kids, then myself, but we all eat at the same time so…

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