I have been watching The Real Housewives of Atlanta for the better part of my adult life. I’ve sat through the boring episodes, I’ve laughed at the funny episodes, I’ve yelled on the Internet at the women and their poor choices. I have given Bravo my Sunday evenings for ten years, and now, with heaviness in my heart, I have to let RHOA go. It’s not me, it actually is you. We have come to the end of the road. *cue Wanya and them*
Why is that when its Black girl time, some White woman has to crash the party and “white” it all up? The Black girls certainly aren’t over in New York or Beverly Hills or Orange County or Houston stretching their voice across the dinner table or dancing on beat at their parties, but I digress…
I really tried to enjoy RHOA this season, I promise I did, but Bravo dragging Kim Zolciak from whatever swamp she built her house on and dropping her off on my Sunday evenings was the last straw. Ten years ago, when we were still living in the afterglow of our first Black president and still had the warm and fuzzy feeling that perhaps, just maybe, racism was dying, Kim was only a minor annoyance with a bad wig. Now that the antichrist has taken office and we officially understand, in the immortal words of Classic Kanye, “Racism still alive, they just be concealing it,” seeing Kim and her White privilege stumble across my screen with her dollar store red cup just feels like more than a Black woman should have to bear. I am not entertained.
This is what makes Kim so hard to watch – she walks on set and pretends to be completely oblivious about how her own actions, within the context of the way America is set up and the current political climate, can be construed, at the least, as racially-motivated. Being called a racist is not the same thing as being called a nigger (with the hard -er) and she, along with all the other racially-inept Whites, have got to stop pretending that it is.
Any time anyone says they don’t see color, be afraid, be very afraid; however, when a person who holds racial privilege claims to not see color, this means they are either stupid (which could be true, because public education is lacking, but that’s another story for another day) or it means they are purposefully ignoring the race-based hierarchal structure that has existed in these United States of America since inception. They are most likely ignoring it because they benefit from it. It is nearly impossible for any person, of any race, to not develop an anti-Black ideology. This country was built on anti-Blackness.
When a person says they don’t see color, that means to me, that they have never critically analyzed the way in which something as insignificant and uncontrollable as race provides privilege to some while silencing others. This also means that if that person has never critically thought about it, they can’t correct their children or friends or spouses or neighbors. The cycle continues. And that’s how this new generation of dummies end up on the Internet telling everybody about how they poisoned their Black roommate or how they can say nigger because they are in the South now. You see how that works?Not seeing color in no way absolves a person of confronting the racism that exists in this world, nor does it excuse a person’s clearly, racially-coded language and behavior. Click To Tweet
Not seeing color in no way absolves a person of confronting the racism that exists in this world, nor does it excuse a person’s clearly, racially-coded language and behavior. So, let Kim go back to her show where I can continue to ignore her existence or pack her family up and move on down to Houston and get a check there. I don’t care where Kim goes, I just want her to leave RHOA alone.
If Bravo can do me that favor, then maybe we can make it last forever.
Uncle Snoop Get Your Apology to Ari Lennox Ready
Apparently, everyone’s favorite uncle likes apologizing. Fresh off of his apology tour for his controversial comments towards broadcast journalists Gayle King, Snoop Dogg decided to comment on Ari Lennox’s Instagram live to instruct her to “grow your own hair.”
Yesterday, the Dreamville songbird took to Instagram Live in true Ari fashion to document her trying on a new lace front wig. Not known for wearing wigs, she struggled with figuring out how much lace to cut and securing the hair as she entertained her followers with hilarious gestures and commentary.
Eventually, a snippet of the video ended up on The Shade Room for everyone’s viewing pleasure.
Moments later, Snoop was unnecessarily commenting under the video.
In no time, women were coming to Ari’s defense, reminding the legendary rapper that his wife and daughter are no strangers to wigs.
You’d think men would know to leave their opinions to themselves when it comes to women’s hair, especially black women, but clearly, Uncle Snoop forgot to read that particular memo.
Once Ari caught wind of Snoop’s comments, she delivered a lovely little shade tree, posting a photo of Snoop wearing a blonde wig with the caption, “Uncle I just…I just thought we had an understanding….”
Following the backlash that he’s currently receiving, I can already envision the apology that’s sure to follow. Perhaps someone should remind Uncle Snoop that the best apology is changed behavior…
DJ D-Nice Has Spun His Way Into the Living Rooms of Thousands
Every day, legendary DJ D-Nice (a.k.a. Derrick Jones) spends countless hours helping thousands of global citizens forget about the coronavirus pandemic and financial woes with his “Homeschool” parties.
Initially jumping on Instagram Live to cure his boredom while “self-isolating,” D-Nice had an audience of a few hundred, mostly friends. As word began to spread, it grew to a few thousand. By Sunday, over 160,000 people joined his live for a virtual party that included the heavyweights such as Michelle Obama, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett-Smith, 9th Wonder, Jimmy Fallon, and Vice President Joe Biden.
During a CBS This Morning interview, D-Nice shared, “I literally just played what feels good. I wanted people to feel good. I wanted their experience to be lifted through music, just one song at a time.” And he’s done just that. While on live, his comment section is a constant stream of cheers, shout outs, and music-lovers asking, “Where the drinks at?” It feels like the best VIP section you’ll ever experience but from your living room.
“No matter what your problems are, you can put on a good tune and it just takes you away and I was trying to do that,” he explained. “It wasn’t just the music, it was the whole experience and everyone escaping what’s going on today just for a few hours.”
While some of his neighbors have complained about the noise, D-Nice is committed to keeping the party going as the universal language of music is playing a vital role in keeping us all connected.
We have DJ D-Nice to thank for that!
Jay Electronica & Joe Budden Used Their Twitter Fingers to Exchange Insults
It took 10 years for Jay Electronica to release his highly-anticipated album, A Written Testimony. While some are singing his praises, others are incredibly disappointed. One such person is former rapper turned media personality, Joe Budden.
Budden used his platform, The Joe Budden Podcast episode Dry Snitching to express his disappointment. Budden proclaimed, “You’ve been missing for ten years- which is cool, ’cause you’ve been living life. But that confidence that I thought you might’ve been living life with is suppressed…that lens that I’m looking through paints the story of a different MC. And that MC is one that would get smacked around by Hov on every song.”
In response, Electronica took to Twitter and posted a video clip of DaBaby saying “fuck it,” directing the tweet at Rory, one of the co-hosts on Budden’s podcast.
Shortly after, Budden responded referring to Jay-Z’s performance on A Written Testimony, where he appears on eight of ten tracks. “I never got absolutely mopped around on my own project either… @ me, not Rory.”
Here’s how the rest of that conversation went:
The tirade ended with Electronica demanding credit for “lighting up” the podcast episode.
Electronica released A Written Testimony on Friday, March 13th. It’s his first solo album after more than ten years of delays with features by Jay-Z, The-Dream and Travis Scott, with additional production by The Alchemist, No ID, Swizz Beatz and Hit-Boy.