In the Black community there are several things that we refuse to discuss, one of which is mental health. The stigma surrounding mental concerns as being a “White problem” frequently keeps people within the Black community from coming forward and when they do, their concerns are met with criticism. We say things like “You’re just having a bad day,” or “Man up” while simultaneously encouraging one another to check on our strong friend. So which is it? We owe it to ourselves to talk about the dark cloud of depression, anxiety, PTSD, and more or we’re doing our community and ourselves disservice.
I lived in denial
Mental health can encompass many things and for Mariah Carey, it’s tackling her Bipolar II disorder. For those of us old enough to have witnessed the unedited moment firsthand on MTV’s TRL, Mariah Carey had a breakdown in front of adolescents in July of 2001. She entered the set dressed in an oversized T-shirt and pushing an ice cream cart, only to shed her clothes and pass out treats while eating a popsicle seductively. Carson Daly stood in awe, uncertain why she arrived as she rambled “You’re my therapy session right now, Carson. Every now and then somebody needs a little therapy, and today is that moment for me.” She would soon be treated for “exhaustion” shortly after the ordeal, all while being ridiculed during her absence. I empathized.
I thought it was a severe sleep disorder
In an interview with People magazine, Mariah laments, “I didn’t want to believe it.” She believed her mental disorder was career-ending and lived in fear of someone exposing her. Speaking from experience, it can be an unmanageable burden to suffer in silence with a mental disorder, diagnosed or not. It can ruin job opportunities, relationships, friendships, and cause irreparable rifts in families. I mean, no offense, but look at Azealia Banks. The girl is fully capable of writing a bop but her outbursts and history of controversy keep her career in the shadows instead of the spotlight. Even in the midst of recognizing she needs help, her fan base and detractors alike withhold empathy because of her mouth. While this article isn’t intended to critique the shift of empathy based on one’s status as legendary, I will say this. It is *mighty* strange how Azealia has been open about the need for discussion and acceptance of those struggling with mental health issues for a while, but people are collectively deciding that empathy ends where problematic begins and I think that’s counterproductive.
It can be incredibly isolating
Like many Black artists who have struggled publicly and privately with depression, Mariah Carey hopes we can reach a point where the stigma surrounding mental health issues in America is lifted. She’s reached a point of comfort allowing herself a moment of clarity to express she’s in a good place and encourages others to seek treatment. “It does not have to define you and I refuse to allow it to define me or control me.” I wholeheartedly agree.
For anyone who is suffering in silence and needs help, you can reach out to the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance at dbsalliance.org. If you would like support via text message, you can text HOME to 741741 and a Crisis Counselor will respond. If you need to talk, call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Hotlin
Uncle Snoop Get Your Apology to Ari Lennox Ready
Apparently, everyone’s favorite uncle likes apologizing. Fresh off of his apology tour for his controversial comments towards broadcast journalists Gayle King, Snoop Dogg decided to comment on Ari Lennox’s Instagram live to instruct her to “grow your own hair.”
Yesterday, the Dreamville songbird took to Instagram Live in true Ari fashion to document her trying on a new lace front wig. Not known for wearing wigs, she struggled with figuring out how much lace to cut and securing the hair as she entertained her followers with hilarious gestures and commentary.
Eventually, a snippet of the video ended up on The Shade Room for everyone’s viewing pleasure.
Moments later, Snoop was unnecessarily commenting under the video.
In no time, women were coming to Ari’s defense, reminding the legendary rapper that his wife and daughter are no strangers to wigs.
You’d think men would know to leave their opinions to themselves when it comes to women’s hair, especially black women, but clearly, Uncle Snoop forgot to read that particular memo.
Once Ari caught wind of Snoop’s comments, she delivered a lovely little shade tree, posting a photo of Snoop wearing a blonde wig with the caption, “Uncle I just…I just thought we had an understanding….”
Following the backlash that he’s currently receiving, I can already envision the apology that’s sure to follow. Perhaps someone should remind Uncle Snoop that the best apology is changed behavior…
DJ D-Nice Has Spun His Way Into the Living Rooms of Thousands
Every day, legendary DJ D-Nice (a.k.a. Derrick Jones) spends countless hours helping thousands of global citizens forget about the coronavirus pandemic and financial woes with his “Homeschool” parties.
Initially jumping on Instagram Live to cure his boredom while “self-isolating,” D-Nice had an audience of a few hundred, mostly friends. As word began to spread, it grew to a few thousand. By Sunday, over 160,000 people joined his live for a virtual party that included the heavyweights such as Michelle Obama, Jennifer Lopez, Jada Pinkett-Smith, 9th Wonder, Jimmy Fallon, and Vice President Joe Biden.
During a CBS This Morning interview, D-Nice shared, “I literally just played what feels good. I wanted people to feel good. I wanted their experience to be lifted through music, just one song at a time.” And he’s done just that. While on live, his comment section is a constant stream of cheers, shout outs, and music-lovers asking, “Where the drinks at?” It feels like the best VIP section you’ll ever experience but from your living room.
“No matter what your problems are, you can put on a good tune and it just takes you away and I was trying to do that,” he explained. “It wasn’t just the music, it was the whole experience and everyone escaping what’s going on today just for a few hours.”
While some of his neighbors have complained about the noise, D-Nice is committed to keeping the party going as the universal language of music is playing a vital role in keeping us all connected.
We have DJ D-Nice to thank for that!
Jay Electronica & Joe Budden Used Their Twitter Fingers to Exchange Insults
It took 10 years for Jay Electronica to release his highly-anticipated album, A Written Testimony. While some are singing his praises, others are incredibly disappointed. One such person is former rapper turned media personality, Joe Budden.
Budden used his platform, The Joe Budden Podcast episode Dry Snitching to express his disappointment. Budden proclaimed, “You’ve been missing for ten years- which is cool, ’cause you’ve been living life. But that confidence that I thought you might’ve been living life with is suppressed…that lens that I’m looking through paints the story of a different MC. And that MC is one that would get smacked around by Hov on every song.”
In response, Electronica took to Twitter and posted a video clip of DaBaby saying “fuck it,” directing the tweet at Rory, one of the co-hosts on Budden’s podcast.
Shortly after, Budden responded referring to Jay-Z’s performance on A Written Testimony, where he appears on eight of ten tracks. “I never got absolutely mopped around on my own project either… @ me, not Rory.”
Here’s how the rest of that conversation went:
The tirade ended with Electronica demanding credit for “lighting up” the podcast episode.
Electronica released A Written Testimony on Friday, March 13th. It’s his first solo album after more than ten years of delays with features by Jay-Z, The-Dream and Travis Scott, with additional production by The Alchemist, No ID, Swizz Beatz and Hit-Boy.
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