In the Black community there are several things that we refuse to discuss, one of which is mental health. The stigma surrounding mental concerns as being a “White problem” frequently keeps people within the Black community from coming forward and when they do, their concerns are met with criticism. We say things like “You’re just having a bad day,” or “Man up” while simultaneously encouraging one another to check on our strong friend. So which is it? We owe it to ourselves to talk about the dark cloud of depression, anxiety, PTSD, and more or we’re doing our community and ourselves disservice.
I lived in denial
Mental health can encompass many things and for Mariah Carey, it’s tackling her Bipolar II disorder. For those of us old enough to have witnessed the unedited moment firsthand on MTV’s TRL, Mariah Carey had a breakdown in front of adolescents in July of 2001. She entered the set dressed in an oversized T-shirt and pushing an ice cream cart, only to shed her clothes and pass out treats while eating a popsicle seductively. Carson Daly stood in awe, uncertain why she arrived as she rambled “You’re my therapy session right now, Carson. Every now and then somebody needs a little therapy, and today is that moment for me.” She would soon be treated for “exhaustion” shortly after the ordeal, all while being ridiculed during her absence. I empathized.
I thought it was a severe sleep disorder
In an interview with People magazine, Mariah laments, “I didn’t want to believe it.” She believed her mental disorder was career-ending and lived in fear of someone exposing her. Speaking from experience, it can be an unmanageable burden to suffer in silence with a mental disorder, diagnosed or not. It can ruin job opportunities, relationships, friendships, and cause irreparable rifts in families. I mean, no offense, but look at Azealia Banks. The girl is fully capable of writing a bop but her outbursts and history of controversy keep her career in the shadows instead of the spotlight. Even in the midst of recognizing she needs help, her fan base and detractors alike withhold empathy because of her mouth. While this article isn’t intended to critique the shift of empathy based on one’s status as legendary, I will say this. It is *mighty* strange how Azealia has been open about the need for discussion and acceptance of those struggling with mental health issues for a while, but people are collectively deciding that empathy ends where problematic begins and I think that’s counterproductive.
It can be incredibly isolating
Like many Black artists who have struggled publicly and privately with depression, Mariah Carey hopes we can reach a point where the stigma surrounding mental health issues in America is lifted. She’s reached a point of comfort allowing herself a moment of clarity to express she’s in a good place and encourages others to seek treatment. “It does not have to define you and I refuse to allow it to define me or control me.” I wholeheartedly agree.
For anyone who is suffering in silence and needs help, you can reach out to the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance at dbsalliance.org. If you would like support via text message, you can text HOME to 741741 and a Crisis Counselor will respond. If you need to talk, call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Hotlin
50 Cent to Teairra Mari: “Where is my money?!”
Emerging victorious from the revenge porn lawsuit filed against him in May 2018, 50 Cent is wasting no time collecting his debt. Posting multiple photos to Instagram, Fiddy says Teairra better get him his money.
If there is one person you never want to de indebted to, it’s 50 Cent. He has been relentless in his pursuit of payment since winning his lawsuit 4 days ago. Filed in May 2018, Teairra Mari alleged 50 Cent was responsible for the leak of her racy photos and videos. However, a Los Angeles judge dismissed all claims against 50 Cent and ordered Teairra to pay $30,618. Originally, Fiddy demanded $161,550 to cover all legal expenses, but the judge declined, awarding him less than half of the requested amount.
Fiddy’s involvement in the case was questionable by all accounts. At the time, Teairra was dating Akbar Abdul-Ahad, a friend of 50. When she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her, she broke up with him. Shortly after, she saw images and video of herself on Akbar’s Instagram. 50 reposted the images, which Teairra says were uploaded “clearly to humiliate me”. During a press conference, Teairra alongside her representation, Lisa Bloom, released an emotional statement and announced they were pursuing legal action against 50. To counter her claims, Akbar posted audio clips of Teairra allegedly discussing the case, stating Fiddy was targeted for his friendship with her ex.
Now, 50 has taken to IG to get his laughs at Teairra’s expense. His heckling includes captions like, “Now Teairra you can cough up the money or 🧐 you can go with R. Kelly and sh*t in a bucket. LOL”.
In his recent jab, he says Teairra “better catch a date” to run him his coin.
“Not On My Watch” Iyanla Criticizes R Kelly, His Team
Iyanla Vanzant has added herself to the growing number of public figures denouncing R. Kelly and his controversy. During an interview with Sway, Iyanla admitted the singer came to her for help and she declined.
Proving some things are too much even for her, Iyanla told Sway during his morning show that R. Kelly reached out for her services. However, the Fix My Life life coach says R. Kelly “didn’t have…the emotional capacity. Just didn’t have it. And I know, based on what I was looking at — the paces that I would have to take him through — it would have been brutal.”
While she recognizes that R. Kelly is in dire need of mental health care, Iyanla doesn’t agree that he deserves prison. Suggesting incarceration is not the answer, Iyanla said the following on Twitter:
While I do not condone the behavior that has been shown by R. Kelly, it is important that we as a society understand that it represents a symptom of a bigger problem, which is that we do not honor, value, or protect our children.”
Referencing the admission by R. Kelly and supported by his brother Carey’s corroboration, Iyanla thinks of R. Kelly as a damaged boy who grew to become a damaged man. “I would never ever condone, or justify anything that he’s been accused of doing. but locking him up in jail? It’s not the answer… He’s sick… Just like the people he allegedly committed these acts with — they’re sick. This needs to be massive healing — them, him, all of them.”
Iyanla then said that the team surrounding R. Kelly is catching more heat from her than Kelly himself.
“The ones who gave the notes to the high school girls, the ones who sat around the studio knowing there was a bedroom in the middle of the recording studio. The ones who knew those girls were in there, the ones who didn’t care enough about him to hire a tutor to teach him how to read. I have issue with that…as well as with what he did.”
As Lady Gaga, and now Celine Dion, have stepped forward to condemn R. Kelly and remove their collaborative songs from streaming services, Kanye West has come forward…but not in the way you think. During a strange rant in front of a Black choir singing spirituals, Kanye took a moment between their songs to share his opinion. stating:
“They want art from the artist, but anytime they do anything erratic, they just gonna pull up the full documentaries on him. And then, they gonna come with the Michael documentary.”
While the excerpt seen earlier was alarming, Kim Kardashian has taken to Twitter to clear any suspicions that Kanye was referring to R. Kelly.
Kim Kardashian West has since released the full video for context on Kanye’s comments, adding:
“I want to make it very clear, he is not condoning anyone’s actions or unacceptable disgusting behavior. My husband’s words are being taken out of context due to timing.”
Let me be clear: jail is the answer for all of them. Put R. Kelly under the jail with his White Walker brother, Bruce, and call it a damn day. Let the people that helped R. Kelly face justice as well. We are not equipped, at this moment, for alternative justice that includes sipping green tea and sitting in a prayer circle. That’s just my take.
The Girls Are Fighting! Blac Chyna Throws Drink At Alexis Skyy
Love & Hip Hop’s Alexis Skyy got into an altercation with Blac Chyna at a private party in LA. After sharing a section, Skyy claims Chyna threw a drink and told her to leave.
Drop the pin!
Sometimes sh*t goes down when there’s $1000 in the club! Alexis Skyy took to Instagram following an altercation where she alleges Blac Chyna threw a drink at her and used drugs. Skyy claims that out of nowhere, the former Rob & Chyna star just flipped out, causing security to intervene.
Skyy wasn’t one to back down, continuously trying to reach out and touch Chyna, pushing past guests and screaming. After she left the premises, Alexis went on IG Live to share her side of the story, stating:
“I’m sitting down, minding my business, somebody said, ‘Yo, Chyna is at the party, she want to kick it wit you. So I went over there, I sat with her, we kicked it, we had a drink or two. After the second drink, we had some Red Bull, and out of nowhere this bitch starts, ‘Bitch, you gotta get the f—k up out of my section.’ I said, ‘Who the f—k are you talking to?’ She’s like, ‘You gotta get up right now.’”
Alexis continued, “So at that point, she starts throwing a drink, and when you start throwing drinks, I start throwing hands.”
Chyna didn’t post anything about the night aside from an unbothered selfie, but Alexis kept arguing by herself. In a since deleted post, Alexis said “Since you wanna throw a drink & run……I’m not leaving until u walk outside these gates!!! So see me b*tch!!!!”
In bitter baby mama fashion, Rob Kardashian has posted his support for Alexis Skyy, stating she was his WCW. Chyna has not responded to requests for comment.
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