Online bullying and harassment is real. Many of the drag race queens have had to endure heinous comments and vicious attacks by folks who call themselves fans. I’ve heard several horror stories, as some queens have shared accounts of their own online experiences.
I think it was Morgan McMichaels who was told to kill herself by an angry (and irrational) fan of BenDeLaCreme in response to a disagreement the two talented queens had on drag race. Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and all the other social media platforms are often unkind and disturbing spaces.
The further you are on the margins, the more harassment and violence you are susceptible to. I struggle to imagine the experiences of Black trans disabled poor undocumented women on any of the aforementioned platforms, let alone in their lives outside the computer screen and the latest iPhone.
Again, online harassment is real- it takes the form of disgusting words and images, erasure, racism, misogyny, misogynoir, queer and trans antagonism, ableism, and all the other isms. It is sickening (not in the drag way), and a reflection of the times we live in.
As we continue to have critical conversations, it is important that we don’t conflate online harassment with the calling out of white supremacist cisheteropatriarchy which drag race is entrenched in. I feel confident that many queens are intentionally confusing the two to evade accountability, and labeling liberation seekers as attackers.
When a socially conscious fan says, “I think Trixie’s proximity to whiteness was a significant reason she won All Stars 3,” that’s not an act of bullying to Trixie- that is a critique of the violent system we live in.
When a fan says, “Milk’s disrespect of Kennedy Davenport and her drag felt much like anti-Blackness,” again, that’s not an attack on Milk- this is an attempt to hold Milk accountable for their actions, and hopefully spur a conversation that prepares us all to interrogate the ways in which anti-Blackness shows up in our lives.
We live in a system that privileges some folks, and deeply marginalizes others. Drag is not exempt from this system or this conversation; actually, RuPaul has placed drag smack dab in the heart of pop culture. Although we are all queer, that doesn’t mean violence doesn’t exist intracommunity- in particular to Black and brown trans and gender non-conforming folks.
Moreover, when a queen labels social critique as an attack, they themselves are committing violence. They are gaslighting the folks who have a legitimate concern with how the people on the margins of the margins are experiencing a system meant to extinguish their fire. Additionally, we throw away an opportunity to have a meaningful conversation on liberation and accountability.
Although difficult, it’s time for us to be honest. If we’re going to engage these critical conversations, let’s center truth(s). I am observing a lot of conversation on online harassment, and rightfully so. However, I’ve not heard any queen talk about how this toxic system infiltrates drag culture.
There is a reason why. Let’s talk.
Cody Charles is the author of Mudbound: Uncovering The Parts Of Ourselves We Sacrifice In Order To Survive, A Dream Undeterred: 10 Dreams I Want To Live Out In My Black Fat Queer Body In 2018, Our Favorite Blackity Black Quotes In Black Cinema, Engaging My Black Fat Body, Re-Imagining Black Love, You Can’t Outdo Black People, Black Joy, We Deserve It, The Night The Moonlight Caught My Eye: Not a Review but a Testimony on the Film Moonlight, 5 Tips For White Folks, As They Engage Jordan Peele’s Get Out. (No Spoilers), and What Growing Up Black And Poor Taught Me About Resiliency. Join him for more conversation on Twitter (@_codykeith_) and Facebook (Follow Cody Charles). Please visit his blog, Reclaiming Anger, to learn more about him.
Back to Da Cell! ‘Real Housewives of Atlanta’ Alum Apollo Nida Arrested AGAIN After Violating Parole
Apollo Nida just celebrated his release from prison last week and now the RHOA alum is behind bars again! According to Page Six, US Marshals detained Apollo for breaking a technical condition of his release.
Having just finished five years behind bars, Nida was headed for a prison release program. But now he’ll have to postpone reuniting with his children and fiance because he violated his probation. According to a representative, Nida isn’t quite arrested, but there “was an order of the court bring him into custody”. While the terms of Apollo’s release aren’t public, he was allegedly detained for violating conditions of his release.
Apollo, who was released early due to credit for time served, was initially sentenced to 96-months behind bars. He was expected to complete a prison release program in Philadelphia. Now, it’s questionable what the future holds for the two-time felon.
Apollo’s fiance, Sherien Almufti hasn’t released a formal statement explaining what happened. However, she did post a recent photo of herself and Nida on Instagram with a scathing caption calling out his probation officer. Sherien said “For those who are confused @apollonida03 didn’t violate a goddamn thing. Another crime against a black man in the system. Jealousy is a disease and his PO will die mad!!”
Chris Brown Dragged For Insulting Victor Cruz, Karrueche Tran
Chris Brown’s recent behavior is a lesson that domestic violence has no limitations. The singer and proven abuser has shown his true colors again by leaving harassing comments beneath Victor Cruz’s Instagram post.
Targeting the fashion sense of Karrueche’s longtime boyfriend Victor Cruz, Chris Brown left several disparaging comments in close succession. Stating he needed a stylist and she should “upgrade ya man,” Chris Brown is still attacking his ex after five years of separation.
The one-time couple split in 2015 after a very public shouting match following Karrueche’s discovery that Chris fathered a love child with Nia Guzman, a stripper from Texas. During the lengthy argument, Chris forced himself into Karrueche’s vehicle and despite being dropped off at a different location, he arrived at her home to argue at 3 am. This led to Karrueche securing a restraining order against the singer in 2017, approved for 5 years.
During the hearing where Karrueche petitioned for a restraining order against Chris Brown, she provided evidence of threatening messages and testified that Chris had physically abused her. To make matters worse the physical violence took place while Chris Brown was on probation for the brutal abuse of Rihanna! The text messages Karrueche received contained threats like “Bitch I will beat the sh*t out of you” and “I will make your life hell.”
The comments Chris made beneath the photo of Karrueche and Victor were not light humor. In the past, Chris Brown left threatening messages beneath a photo of Tran and Michael B. Jordan. Stating “Imma kill blood”, Chris Brown threatened her and the actors lives, making good on his promise to “make you hate me even more.”
Fans of Karrueche were quick to point out how childish and threatening Chris Brown’s messages were. But what’s more important is that Chris Brown’s comments may violate the terms of his restraining order. If Karrueche’s terms include clauses for social media use, CB could be in trouble. Karrueche’s current order doesn’t expire until 2022, so maybe the singer should focus on backflips before he lands in jail.
Wendy Williams’ Gets Her Groove Back With 27-Year-Old Ex-Con
Spotted in the vehicle as TMZ ran up for a potentially staged paparazzi session, Wendy’s mystery man was been a hot topic. Fans of the talk show host and those supporting her best life as she divorces Kevin Hunter, want to know who her flavor of the month is. Thanks to Bossip, we now know that 54-year-old Williams is getting cozy with a 27-year old named Marc Tomblin.
Bossip discovered the identify of Wendy’s new man and quickly uncovered his criminal history. While Wendy is aware of his muddy past, she says she knows what she’s doing. Let’s hope, sis!
Wendy’s new beau is a convicted felon who claims to be a financial investigator and blogger according to his LinkedIn profile. But before he hooked up with Wendy, Tomblin was arrested for robbery with a dangerous weapon and breaking and entering. Still, Wendy doesn’t care about his past and is declaring it a hot girl summer with the rest of us.
Ms. Wendy Thee Show Pony called out Kevin for having “a full baby with a woman he was involved with for 15 years” while keeping her cooped up. Proud to be living her best life, Wendy is just enjoying Marc Tomblin’s company despite their May-December age difference.
As for whether things will ever get serious for her again, Wendy says not so fast! During a recent taping of The Wendy Williams Show, she gushed about her newfound freedom. Stating, “I don’t have a boyfriend, but I must admit I am rediscovering my love of men.”, Wendy has made it clear she’s not looking for a long time, just a good one.
Are you here for the new Wendy?