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Charlamagne and the Pervasiveness of Rape Culture

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What else can I say about Lenard tha God? I want to write something important and critical about misogyny and rape culture and Black men and media gatekeepers, but what difference does it make? Nothing changes. No matter how hard we yell, nothing changes and the people who have a little bit of a voice that people maybe, might listen to, they use their powers for evil instead of good, and then I’m disappointed again, and the cycle continues…I’m tired.

Usually, this cycle starts with a Black man and this week’s Black man is Charlamagne tha God formerly known as Lenard Larry McKelvey. Here are the facts, and I call them facts because Lenard, of sound mind, in the same voice he uses every morning on the Breakfast Club, same goofy giggle and all, admits on several recordings that he does not mind, not one bit, having sex with a woman who cannot and did not consent.

Early in the month, a young woman and her mother shared her story of being allegedly (said with all the sarcasm) raped by Lenard McKelvey. The young woman explains that in 2001, she and her friend attended a party hosted by the then 22-year old Lenard tha God. At this party, she and her friend were given an alcoholic beverage. She explains that she and her friend began to feel sick. The story goes on, you can read her account here and get links to court documents. According to the young woman, she did not testify in court because her mother refused to let her testify. I’m not a mother and I cannot say what I would have done in that situation, but also, I understand. Rape cases, especially where the assailant is “intimately known” by the victim rarely, if ever, make it to a courtroom, and once there, rarely, if ever, is the assailant found guilty. So, I can understand wanting to spare your child from that heartbreak.

Just so you know…nobody’s “coming up” from being raped, let’s dead that. Click To Tweet

Side note – There’s been lots of talk about the evils of capitalism lately, but this is also what capitalism does – if a woman decides to sue her assailant in civil court where she is much more likely to receive some level of compensation for her trauma, she’s disparaged for trying to “come up” on someone’s brother. I’ve been thinking about this for days, and I promise I can run through all the Black male celebrities accused of some level of sexual misconduct yet, I can’t think of one of their victims’ names. Ain’t that some shit? Even in this blog post, the one I’m writing right now, it’s about Lenard tha God, not her, so you know…nobody’s “coming up” from being raped, let’s dead that.

Anyway, that was the event that triggered the re-emergence of Lenard tha God’s history of having sex with women unable to consent.

Some years ago, Lenard tha God gets interviewed by DJ Akademiks, and during the interview, he tells his version of how he almost caught a rape charge in his early 20s. Needless to say, his version of events is much different from the victims and the court documents. His version paints him as some chivalrous young lad who was just trying to do right by all the other upstanding gentleman he was hanging with at the time. Lenard tha God says, out of his own mouth, that he voluntarily walked into a police station and volunteered to accept full responsibility for the charges of rape against a minor (that he claims he did not know; she says they were friends) at the party he merely hosted but was barely old enough to buy alcohol for. Sit with that for a minute. Do you know any Black person willingly walking into police stations to accept charges for (according to Lenard) nonexistent crimes? Then, this fool said his cousins were playing a prank, that’s why he went to the police station in the first place. My cousins play a lot of games, but not that kind. What about y’all? Your cousins, your kin, they setting you up to go to the police in South Carolina and turn yourself in for a rape charge? You know how you can tell when people are lying, they get to adding all kinds of details that don’t make any sense, none at all. Wooo chile…

Then the clips from his own show, the podcast he hosts with the little racist white boy, Brilliant Idiots. More evidence that he gave us…with his own words…back in 2015, y’all.

There is a clip from the “Rape Culture” episode of Brilliant Idiots published in 2015 where Lenard that God admits to drugging a young woman, knowing she was “wasted” (his words) and incoherent (his sentiments), and letting his friend(s) look at the girl naked while she was unable to consent. Now the little racist white boy did call it rape as he listened intently to Lenard sharing every detail of the experience. Finally, with much exasperation, Lenard said it wasn’t rape because he and this woman (who up until this time had not had sexual intercourse with him) had “every intention” of having sex?

Even though he and this woman had never actually had sex, he presumed they would be having sex. He and the woman “intended” to have sex. Words mean things, and ‘intend’ means to make plans to do something. We all know the best laid plans go astray, so intending to have sex is not actually consent. I just wanted to take a moment and make that clear. The fact that she hadn’t had sex with you implies to me that perhaps her intentions were to never have sex with you. I mean, based on the evidence provided by Lenard, that seemed to be the plan she was making.

And if this wasn’t enough, Madam Noire broke another story on Monday (7/23) and dropped another clip of Lenard talking about how he and his wife (according to his own words) agree their first sexual encounter was more like rape. He said that this woman who for one whole ass year did not have sex with him, got wasted one night, passed out and this would be the first time they had sex.

Evidently, this morning (7/24), he called his wife to back him up and explain to the world that her first sexual experience with him was completely consensual and of course she did all of that because what else is she going to do? The fact that Lenard tha God would place that burden on his wife is disgusting and also tells me what kind of man he is; he would rather throw his wife to the wolves, even though she is not a media personality and by all accounts seems to enjoy her anonymity. Who cares about her well-being and her peace (I know her mentions are in shambles). Lenard tha God preferred to have his wife do his heavy lifting as if that somehow will absolve him of all the harm he’s done. Is that y’all king? For real?

Also, these stories he’s told — these are the version of events that he feels comfortable sharing. Can you imagine what the real story is??

Anyway, the fact that all these clips are from media that’s been out in the universe for three to five years and the fact that he’s been able to prosper and gain the status as probably one of the most influential Black media gatekeepers tells us who his audience is — a bunch of other rapey mofos and the women that love them. It also tells us that being a sexual predator doesn’t matter if you are a Black man with a largely Black following. I mean who in the R. Kelly is going to tell me differently?

Side note — Some of the most bigoted, homophobic, sexist, ridiculous nonsense is attached to the Breakfast Club. It’s like Black celebrities specifically go to the Breakfast Club just to make bigoted, nonsensical statements.  Imagine Wiz Khalifa going on Good Morning America talking about men shouldn’t eat bananas. You can’t imagine it, can you? Because it would never happen.

Anyway, Fuck Lenard tha God.

Instead, I’d like to send love and light to all the victims dealing with the trauma of sexual assault every day, who have to get up and go to work and take care of kids and significant others and try to smile and find joy and love Jesus, your neighbor, and sex, all while the rage and frustration and hurt and anxiety are swirling inside of you. Maybe one day Black people collectively will stand on the side of the victim rather than the predator. That’s all I can give you – a maybe one day.

#MeToo…Except when it comes to holding Black men accountable

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Back to Da Cell! ‘Real Housewives of Atlanta’ Alum Apollo Nida Arrested AGAIN After Violating Parole

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Apollo Nida just celebrated his release from prison last week and now the RHOA alum is behind bars again! According to Page Six, US Marshals detained Apollo for breaking a technical condition of his release.

Having just finished five years behind bars, Nida was headed for a prison release program. But now he’ll have to postpone reuniting with his children and fiance because he violated his probation. According to a representative, Nida isn’t quite arrested, but there “was an order of the court bring him into custody”. While the terms of Apollo’s release aren’t public, he was allegedly detained for violating conditions of his release.

Apollo, who was released early due to credit for time served, was initially sentenced to 96-months behind bars. He was expected to complete a prison release program in Philadelphia. Now, it’s questionable what the future holds for the two-time felon.

Apollo’s fiance, Sherien Almufti hasn’t released a formal statement explaining what happened. However, she did post a recent photo of herself and Nida on Instagram with a scathing caption calling out his probation officer. Sherien said “For those who are confused @apollonida03 didn’t violate a goddamn thing. Another crime against a black man in the system. Jealousy is a disease and his PO will die mad!!”

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Chris Brown Dragged For Insulting Victor Cruz, Karrueche Tran

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Chris Brown’s recent behavior is a lesson that domestic violence has no limitations. The singer and proven abuser has shown his true colors again by leaving harassing comments beneath Victor Cruz’s Instagram post.

Targeting the fashion sense of Karrueche’s longtime boyfriend Victor Cruz, Chris Brown left several disparaging comments in close succession. Stating he needed a stylist and she should “upgrade ya man,” Chris Brown is still attacking his ex after five years of separation.

The one-time couple split in 2015 after a very public shouting match following Karrueche’s discovery that Chris fathered a love child with Nia Guzman, a stripper from Texas. During the lengthy argument, Chris forced himself into Karrueche’s vehicle and despite being dropped off at a different location, he arrived at her home to argue at 3 am. This led to Karrueche securing a restraining order against the singer in 2017, approved for 5 years.

During the hearing where Karrueche petitioned for a restraining order against Chris Brown, she provided evidence of threatening messages and testified that Chris had physically abused her. To make matters worse the physical violence took place while Chris Brown was on probation for the brutal abuse of Rihanna! The text messages Karrueche received contained threats like “Bitch I will beat the sh*t out of you” and “I will make your life hell.”

The comments Chris made beneath the photo of Karrueche and Victor were not light humor. In the past, Chris Brown left threatening messages beneath a photo of Tran and Michael B. Jordan. Stating “Imma kill blood”, Chris Brown threatened her and the actors lives, making good on his promise to “make you hate me even more.”

Fans of Karrueche were quick to point out how childish and threatening Chris Brown’s messages were. But what’s more important is that Chris Brown’s comments may violate the terms of his restraining order. If Karrueche’s terms include clauses for social media use, CB could be in trouble. Karrueche’s current order doesn’t expire until 2022, so maybe the singer should focus on backflips before he lands in jail.

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Wendy Williams’ Gets Her Groove Back With 27-Year-Old Ex-Con

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Spotted in the vehicle as TMZ ran up for a potentially staged paparazzi session, Wendy’s mystery man was been a hot topic. Fans of the talk show host and those supporting her best life as she divorces Kevin Hunter, want to know who her flavor of the month is. Thanks to Bossip, we now know that 54-year-old Williams is getting cozy with a 27-year old named Marc Tomblin.

Bossip discovered the identify of Wendy’s new man and quickly uncovered his criminal history. While Wendy is aware of his muddy past, she says she knows what she’s doing. Let’s hope, sis!

Wendy’s new beau is a convicted felon who claims to be a financial investigator and blogger according to his LinkedIn profile. But before he hooked up with Wendy, Tomblin was arrested for robbery with a dangerous weapon and breaking and entering. Still, Wendy doesn’t care about his past and is declaring it a hot girl summer with the rest of us.

Ms. Wendy Thee Show Pony called out Kevin for having “a full baby with a woman he was involved with for 15 years” while keeping her cooped up. Proud to be living her best life, Wendy is just enjoying Marc Tomblin’s company despite their May-December age difference.

As for whether things will ever get serious for her again, Wendy says not so fast! During a recent taping of The Wendy Williams Show, she gushed about her newfound freedom. Stating, “I don’t have a boyfriend, but I must admit I am rediscovering my love of men.”, Wendy has made it clear she’s not looking for a long time, just a good one.

Are you here for the new Wendy?

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