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Charlamagne and the Pervasiveness of Rape Culture

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What else can I say about Lenard tha God? I want to write something important and critical about misogyny and rape culture and Black men and media gatekeepers, but what difference does it make? Nothing changes. No matter how hard we yell, nothing changes and the people who have a little bit of a voice that people maybe, might listen to, they use their powers for evil instead of good, and then I’m disappointed again, and the cycle continues…I’m tired.

Usually, this cycle starts with a Black man and this week’s Black man is Charlamagne tha God formerly known as Lenard Larry McKelvey. Here are the facts, and I call them facts because Lenard, of sound mind, in the same voice he uses every morning on the Breakfast Club, same goofy giggle and all, admits on several recordings that he does not mind, not one bit, having sex with a woman who cannot and did not consent.

Early in the month, a young woman and her mother shared her story of being allegedly (said with all the sarcasm) raped by Lenard McKelvey. The young woman explains that in 2001, she and her friend attended a party hosted by the then 22-year old Lenard tha God. At this party, she and her friend were given an alcoholic beverage. She explains that she and her friend began to feel sick. The story goes on, you can read her account here and get links to court documents. According to the young woman, she did not testify in court because her mother refused to let her testify. I’m not a mother and I cannot say what I would have done in that situation, but also, I understand. Rape cases, especially where the assailant is “intimately known” by the victim rarely, if ever, make it to a courtroom, and once there, rarely, if ever, is the assailant found guilty. So, I can understand wanting to spare your child from that heartbreak.

Just so you know…nobody’s “coming up” from being raped, let’s dead that. Click To Tweet

Side note – There’s been lots of talk about the evils of capitalism lately, but this is also what capitalism does – if a woman decides to sue her assailant in civil court where she is much more likely to receive some level of compensation for her trauma, she’s disparaged for trying to “come up” on someone’s brother. I’ve been thinking about this for days, and I promise I can run through all the Black male celebrities accused of some level of sexual misconduct yet, I can’t think of one of their victims’ names. Ain’t that some shit? Even in this blog post, the one I’m writing right now, it’s about Lenard tha God, not her, so you know…nobody’s “coming up” from being raped, let’s dead that.

Anyway, that was the event that triggered the re-emergence of Lenard tha God’s history of having sex with women unable to consent.

Some years ago, Lenard tha God gets interviewed by DJ Akademiks, and during the interview, he tells his version of how he almost caught a rape charge in his early 20s. Needless to say, his version of events is much different from the victims and the court documents. His version paints him as some chivalrous young lad who was just trying to do right by all the other upstanding gentleman he was hanging with at the time. Lenard tha God says, out of his own mouth, that he voluntarily walked into a police station and volunteered to accept full responsibility for the charges of rape against a minor (that he claims he did not know; she says they were friends) at the party he merely hosted but was barely old enough to buy alcohol for. Sit with that for a minute. Do you know any Black person willingly walking into police stations to accept charges for (according to Lenard) nonexistent crimes? Then, this fool said his cousins were playing a prank, that’s why he went to the police station in the first place. My cousins play a lot of games, but not that kind. What about y’all? Your cousins, your kin, they setting you up to go to the police in South Carolina and turn yourself in for a rape charge? You know how you can tell when people are lying, they get to adding all kinds of details that don’t make any sense, none at all. Wooo chile…

Then the clips from his own show, the podcast he hosts with the little racist white boy, Brilliant Idiots. More evidence that he gave us…with his own words…back in 2015, y’all.

There is a clip from the “Rape Culture” episode of Brilliant Idiots published in 2015 where Lenard that God admits to drugging a young woman, knowing she was “wasted” (his words) and incoherent (his sentiments), and letting his friend(s) look at the girl naked while she was unable to consent. Now the little racist white boy did call it rape as he listened intently to Lenard sharing every detail of the experience. Finally, with much exasperation, Lenard said it wasn’t rape because he and this woman (who up until this time had not had sexual intercourse with him) had “every intention” of having sex?

Even though he and this woman had never actually had sex, he presumed they would be having sex. He and the woman “intended” to have sex. Words mean things, and ‘intend’ means to make plans to do something. We all know the best laid plans go astray, so intending to have sex is not actually consent. I just wanted to take a moment and make that clear. The fact that she hadn’t had sex with you implies to me that perhaps her intentions were to never have sex with you. I mean, based on the evidence provided by Lenard, that seemed to be the plan she was making.

And if this wasn’t enough, Madam Noire broke another story on Monday (7/23) and dropped another clip of Lenard talking about how he and his wife (according to his own words) agree their first sexual encounter was more like rape. He said that this woman who for one whole ass year did not have sex with him, got wasted one night, passed out and this would be the first time they had sex.

Evidently, this morning (7/24), he called his wife to back him up and explain to the world that her first sexual experience with him was completely consensual and of course she did all of that because what else is she going to do? The fact that Lenard tha God would place that burden on his wife is disgusting and also tells me what kind of man he is; he would rather throw his wife to the wolves, even though she is not a media personality and by all accounts seems to enjoy her anonymity. Who cares about her well-being and her peace (I know her mentions are in shambles). Lenard tha God preferred to have his wife do his heavy lifting as if that somehow will absolve him of all the harm he’s done. Is that y’all king? For real?

Also, these stories he’s told — these are the version of events that he feels comfortable sharing. Can you imagine what the real story is??

Anyway, the fact that all these clips are from media that’s been out in the universe for three to five years and the fact that he’s been able to prosper and gain the status as probably one of the most influential Black media gatekeepers tells us who his audience is — a bunch of other rapey mofos and the women that love them. It also tells us that being a sexual predator doesn’t matter if you are a Black man with a largely Black following. I mean who in the R. Kelly is going to tell me differently?

Side note — Some of the most bigoted, homophobic, sexist, ridiculous nonsense is attached to the Breakfast Club. It’s like Black celebrities specifically go to the Breakfast Club just to make bigoted, nonsensical statements.  Imagine Wiz Khalifa going on Good Morning America talking about men shouldn’t eat bananas. You can’t imagine it, can you? Because it would never happen.

Anyway, Fuck Lenard tha God.

Instead, I’d like to send love and light to all the victims dealing with the trauma of sexual assault every day, who have to get up and go to work and take care of kids and significant others and try to smile and find joy and love Jesus, your neighbor, and sex, all while the rage and frustration and hurt and anxiety are swirling inside of you. Maybe one day Black people collectively will stand on the side of the victim rather than the predator. That’s all I can give you – a maybe one day.

#MeToo…Except when it comes to holding Black men accountable

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Cardi B, Keke Palmer, and J Lo to star in Stripper Revenge Film Titled Hustlers

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Cardi B is making money moves to the big screen! The Grammy winning rapper has signed on to star in the stripper revenge film ‘Hustlers’, alongside J. Lo, Keke Palmer, and Constance Wu.

When we saw J. Lo twirling on the pole a few weeks ago, we thought she was just trying something new for A-Rod. Turns out, she was training for a new film. Titled ‘Hustlers’ and set for release later this year, the film is set during the 2008 financial crisis. The film centers around a team of strippers who want revenge on their Wall Street Johns and hope to scam their former clients out of hundreds of thousands of dollars.

Written and directed by Lorene Scafaria, this will be Cardi’s first feature film. She will be sharing the screen with the likes of Julia Stiles and Lili Reinhart. Quite the step up from her Love & Hip Hop days! But this isn’t Cardi’s first time acting. She did have a guest role on BET’s Being Mary Jane in 2017.

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Wendy Williams Reveals She’s Been Living in “Sober Home”

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For years people scolded Wendy for never spilling her own tea. Well, here it is. Wendy Williams has been living in a “sober home” to quietly get treatment for a long unresolved addition to cocaine.

Revealing a secret known only to her husband, Kevin Hunter, Wendy says although she has always been candid about her cocaine use, she never sought treatment. The daytime television gossip queen shared with her audience that after each episode is filmed she goes to her Pilates class and then heads to several meetings across the city before ultimately returning to her group home. Driven by a “24-hour sober coach”, Wendy has been rooming at a facility where it’s “doors locked by 10 pm, lights out by 10pm.” Detailing her evenings, she says, “I go to my room and stare at the ceiling and fall asleep to come here and see you.”

“It’s my truth.”

Over the course of her career, Wendy Williams has discussed her drug use multiple times. However, when it comes to how she stopped, Wendy says, “I never went to a place to get the treatment — I didn’t know how, except God was just sitting on my shoulder and I just stopped.” While she was seeking professional help for her addiction, Wendy said she did not confide in her other family members. As for whether her stay in the group home contributed to her absence from January to March 4th, we can’t be sure. A fractured shoulder and ongoing battle with Graves’ disease are credited as responsible for her extended break.

Wendy’s admission has been applauded by many who want to remove the stigma surrounding drug addiction discussions. Many have taken to Twitter to share their love and support for her. Recently, Wendy’s foundation partnered with an organization geared toward branching treatment and long-term recovery. She hopes that by being open about her struggle, other will be inspired to get the help they need.

If you or someone you know is in need of treatment or counseling for substance abuse, please contact the helpline at 1-888-633-3239 or visit drughelpline.org for further assistance.

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After Saying “F*ck Y’all” For Islamophobic Comments, Jess “Ain’t” Hilarious Offers Half Ass Apology

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Jess Hilarious finally offers an excuse to why she racially profiled 4 Sikh men while boarding a plane. The incident took place Sunday afternoon and after being called out Jess with the Mess & also xenophobia continued to post on her Instagram account as she didn’t have a care in the world. Sis responded to fans that by deleting comments and twerked on to the beat of bigotry.

Now she has a 4 Page Letter on her notes app that she wants to try to read in an Instagram video. Take a look at the video and tell us what you think.

Please don’t believe everything you see and hear, this is what it really is.

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Jess claims no PR manager helped her with it but you can believe your ass that executives over at FOX told her to get it together.

 

Do you think the apology was genuine? 

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