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Charlamagne and the Pervasiveness of Rape Culture

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What else can I say about Lenard tha God? I want to write something important and critical about misogyny and rape culture and Black men and media gatekeepers, but what difference does it make? Nothing changes. No matter how hard we yell, nothing changes and the people who have a little bit of a voice that people maybe, might listen to, they use their powers for evil instead of good, and then I’m disappointed again, and the cycle continues…I’m tired.

Usually, this cycle starts with a Black man and this week’s Black man is Charlamagne tha God formerly known as Lenard Larry McKelvey. Here are the facts, and I call them facts because Lenard, of sound mind, in the same voice he uses every morning on the Breakfast Club, same goofy giggle and all, admits on several recordings that he does not mind, not one bit, having sex with a woman who cannot and did not consent.

Early in the month, a young woman and her mother shared her story of being allegedly (said with all the sarcasm) raped by Lenard McKelvey. The young woman explains that in 2001, she and her friend attended a party hosted by the then 22-year old Lenard tha God. At this party, she and her friend were given an alcoholic beverage. She explains that she and her friend began to feel sick. The story goes on, you can read her account here and get links to court documents. According to the young woman, she did not testify in court because her mother refused to let her testify. I’m not a mother and I cannot say what I would have done in that situation, but also, I understand. Rape cases, especially where the assailant is “intimately known” by the victim rarely, if ever, make it to a courtroom, and once there, rarely, if ever, is the assailant found guilty. So, I can understand wanting to spare your child from that heartbreak.

Just so you know…nobody’s “coming up” from being raped, let’s dead that. Click To Tweet

Side note – There’s been lots of talk about the evils of capitalism lately, but this is also what capitalism does – if a woman decides to sue her assailant in civil court where she is much more likely to receive some level of compensation for her trauma, she’s disparaged for trying to “come up” on someone’s brother. I’ve been thinking about this for days, and I promise I can run through all the Black male celebrities accused of some level of sexual misconduct yet, I can’t think of one of their victims’ names. Ain’t that some shit? Even in this blog post, the one I’m writing right now, it’s about Lenard tha God, not her, so you know…nobody’s “coming up” from being raped, let’s dead that.

Anyway, that was the event that triggered the re-emergence of Lenard tha God’s history of having sex with women unable to consent.

Some years ago, Lenard tha God gets interviewed by DJ Akademiks, and during the interview, he tells his version of how he almost caught a rape charge in his early 20s. Needless to say, his version of events is much different from the victims and the court documents. His version paints him as some chivalrous young lad who was just trying to do right by all the other upstanding gentleman he was hanging with at the time. Lenard tha God says, out of his own mouth, that he voluntarily walked into a police station and volunteered to accept full responsibility for the charges of rape against a minor (that he claims he did not know; she says they were friends) at the party he merely hosted but was barely old enough to buy alcohol for. Sit with that for a minute. Do you know any Black person willingly walking into police stations to accept charges for (according to Lenard) nonexistent crimes? Then, this fool said his cousins were playing a prank, that’s why he went to the police station in the first place. My cousins play a lot of games, but not that kind. What about y’all? Your cousins, your kin, they setting you up to go to the police in South Carolina and turn yourself in for a rape charge? You know how you can tell when people are lying, they get to adding all kinds of details that don’t make any sense, none at all. Wooo chile…

Then the clips from his own show, the podcast he hosts with the little racist white boy, Brilliant Idiots. More evidence that he gave us…with his own words…back in 2015, y’all.

There is a clip from the “Rape Culture” episode of Brilliant Idiots published in 2015 where Lenard that God admits to drugging a young woman, knowing she was “wasted” (his words) and incoherent (his sentiments), and letting his friend(s) look at the girl naked while she was unable to consent. Now the little racist white boy did call it rape as he listened intently to Lenard sharing every detail of the experience. Finally, with much exasperation, Lenard said it wasn’t rape because he and this woman (who up until this time had not had sexual intercourse with him) had “every intention” of having sex?

Even though he and this woman had never actually had sex, he presumed they would be having sex. He and the woman “intended” to have sex. Words mean things, and ‘intend’ means to make plans to do something. We all know the best laid plans go astray, so intending to have sex is not actually consent. I just wanted to take a moment and make that clear. The fact that she hadn’t had sex with you implies to me that perhaps her intentions were to never have sex with you. I mean, based on the evidence provided by Lenard, that seemed to be the plan she was making.

And if this wasn’t enough, Madam Noire broke another story on Monday (7/23) and dropped another clip of Lenard talking about how he and his wife (according to his own words) agree their first sexual encounter was more like rape. He said that this woman who for one whole ass year did not have sex with him, got wasted one night, passed out and this would be the first time they had sex.

Evidently, this morning (7/24), he called his wife to back him up and explain to the world that her first sexual experience with him was completely consensual and of course she did all of that because what else is she going to do? The fact that Lenard tha God would place that burden on his wife is disgusting and also tells me what kind of man he is; he would rather throw his wife to the wolves, even though she is not a media personality and by all accounts seems to enjoy her anonymity. Who cares about her well-being and her peace (I know her mentions are in shambles). Lenard tha God preferred to have his wife do his heavy lifting as if that somehow will absolve him of all the harm he’s done. Is that y’all king? For real?

Also, these stories he’s told — these are the version of events that he feels comfortable sharing. Can you imagine what the real story is??

Anyway, the fact that all these clips are from media that’s been out in the universe for three to five years and the fact that he’s been able to prosper and gain the status as probably one of the most influential Black media gatekeepers tells us who his audience is — a bunch of other rapey mofos and the women that love them. It also tells us that being a sexual predator doesn’t matter if you are a Black man with a largely Black following. I mean who in the R. Kelly is going to tell me differently?

Side note — Some of the most bigoted, homophobic, sexist, ridiculous nonsense is attached to the Breakfast Club. It’s like Black celebrities specifically go to the Breakfast Club just to make bigoted, nonsensical statements.  Imagine Wiz Khalifa going on Good Morning America talking about men shouldn’t eat bananas. You can’t imagine it, can you? Because it would never happen.

Anyway, Fuck Lenard tha God.

Instead, I’d like to send love and light to all the victims dealing with the trauma of sexual assault every day, who have to get up and go to work and take care of kids and significant others and try to smile and find joy and love Jesus, your neighbor, and sex, all while the rage and frustration and hurt and anxiety are swirling inside of you. Maybe one day Black people collectively will stand on the side of the victim rather than the predator. That’s all I can give you – a maybe one day.

#MeToo…Except when it comes to holding Black men accountable

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Amber Rose: “I Tried Selling Crack”

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Amber Rose Van Lathan

In a shocking admission, Amber Rose opened up to Van Lathan on his podcast, ‘The Red Pill‘. Sharing a story she’s never told anyone, Amber said she tried selling crack to support her family.

Celebs oftentimes have backgrounds as troubled as their fans. We’ve grown accustomed to hearing stories about rappers who sold drugs to support their children or women who turned to exotic dancing at night to pay the bills. But it’s rare that a woman admits she did both. Opening up to Van Lathan, Amber Rose said to make ends meet in her teens, she sold drugs, but local dealers quickly shut it down.

“I tried selling drugs — I tried selling crack in my neighborhood, and they were like ‘No’.”

Saying that she was too pretty and would be an easy target for robbery, Amber found herself off the corner and in the kitchen. She said, “I would weigh it and I would bag up the crack rocks for them.” They paid her for work, but it turned out to not be enough. After seeing a woman in a nice vehicle with a designer bag, Amber made the decision to go into stripping. Just 15 at the time, Amber said she had to do what was necessary to provide for her family after her parents divorce.

While Amber was reluctant to share her past because she thought it would be a sob story, she made a valid point. Male rappers are glorified for dealing drugs, but she will face a double standard. Amber’s drug-dealing past is far behind her now. Later in the interview she shared that Instagram makes her a cute coin, something to the tune of $2 million per year.

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50 Cent to Teairra Mari: “Where is my money?!”

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Emerging victorious from the revenge porn lawsuit filed against him in May 2018, 50 Cent is wasting no time collecting his debt. Posting multiple photos to Instagram, Fiddy says Teairra better get him his money.

If there is one person you never want to de indebted to, it’s 50 Cent. He has been relentless in his pursuit of payment since winning his lawsuit 4 days ago. Filed in May 2018, Teairra Mari alleged 50 Cent was responsible for the leak of her racy photos and videos. However, a Los Angeles judge dismissed all claims against 50 Cent and ordered Teairra to pay $30,618. Originally, Fiddy demanded $161,550 to cover all legal expenses, but the judge declined, awarding him less than half of the requested amount.

Fiddy’s involvement in the case was questionable by all accounts. At the time, Teairra was dating Akbar Abdul-Ahad, a friend of 50. When she found out her boyfriend was cheating on her, she broke up with him. Shortly after, she saw images and video of herself on Akbar’s Instagram. 50 reposted the images, which Teairra says were uploaded “clearly to humiliate me”. During a press conference, Teairra alongside her representation, Lisa Bloom, released an emotional statement and announced they were pursuing legal action against 50. To counter her claims, Akbar posted audio clips of Teairra allegedly discussing the case, stating Fiddy was targeted for his friendship with her ex.

Now, 50 has taken to IG to get his laughs at Teairra’s expense. His heckling includes captions like, “Now Teairra you can cough up the money or 🧐 you can go with R. Kelly and sh*t in a bucket. LOL”.

In his recent jab, he says Teairra “better catch a date” to run him his coin.

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“Not On My Watch” Iyanla Criticizes R Kelly, His Team

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Iyanla Vanzant on Sway in the morning

Iyanla Vanzant has added herself to the growing number of public figures denouncing R. Kelly and his controversy. During an interview with Sway, Iyanla admitted the singer came to her for help and she declined.

Proving some things are too much even for her, Iyanla told Sway during his morning show that R. Kelly reached out for her services. However, the Fix My Life life coach says R. Kelly “didn’t have…the emotional capacity. Just didn’t have it. And I know, based on what I was looking at — the paces that I would have to take him through — it would have been brutal.”

While she recognizes that R. Kelly is in dire need of mental health care, Iyanla doesn’t agree that he deserves prison. Suggesting incarceration is not the answer, Iyanla said the following on Twitter:

While I do not condone the behavior that has been shown by R. Kelly, it is important that we as a society understand that it represents a symptom of a bigger problem, which is that we do not honor, value, or protect our children.”

Referencing the admission by R. Kelly and supported by his brother Carey’s corroboration, Iyanla thinks of R. Kelly as a damaged boy who grew to become a damaged man. “I would never ever condone, or justify anything that he’s been accused of doing. but locking him up in jail? It’s not the answer… He’s sick… Just like the people he allegedly committed these acts with — they’re sick. This needs to be massive healing — them, him, all of them.”

Iyanla then said that the team surrounding R. Kelly is catching more heat from her than Kelly himself.

“The ones who gave the notes to the high school girls, the ones who sat around the studio knowing there was a bedroom in the middle of the recording studio. The ones who knew those girls were in there, the ones who didn’t care enough about him to hire a tutor to teach him how to read. I have issue with that…as well as with what he did.”

As Lady Gaga, and now Celine Dion, have stepped forward to condemn R. Kelly and remove their collaborative songs from streaming services, Kanye West has come forward…but not in the way you think. During a strange rant in front of a Black choir singing spirituals, Kanye took a moment between their songs to share his opinion. stating:

“They want art from the artist, but anytime they do anything erratic, they just gonna pull up the full documentaries on him. And then, they gonna come with the Michael documentary.”

While the excerpt seen earlier was alarming, Kim Kardashian has taken to Twitter to clear any suspicions that Kanye was referring to R. Kelly.

https://twitter.com/KimKardashian/status/1084865437953740804

Kim Kardashian West has since released the full video for context on Kanye’s comments, adding:

“I want to make it very clear, he is not condoning anyone’s actions or unacceptable disgusting behavior. My husband’s words are being taken out of context due to timing.”

Let me be clear: jail is the answer for all of them. Put R. Kelly under the jail with his White Walker brother, Bruce, and call it a damn day. Let the people that helped R. Kelly face justice as well. We are not equipped, at this moment, for alternative justice that includes sipping green tea and sitting in a prayer circle. That’s just my take.

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