Within a decade, we had a black woman in outer space. We had a black president and first lady. We had a few black billionaires and even our first hip-hop artist to be a billionaire. We now have our first black woman marrying into UK royal family.
The news hit my iWatch at 6 am in the morning. I was barely awake as I read the news. I wiped my eyes and said whatever, as I rolled over in the bed. I paused again and looked at the news. Stunned. I was completely and utterly stunned. We got a black princess ya’ll.
My daughter at the age of 4 told me that after she wanted to be a professor, a doctor, a lawyer, a teacher, and a professional golfer, she wanted to be a princess. I never want to say no – period, but I did tell her that she is going to college and get a career. She firmly believed she was going to be a princess.
“You have to meet someone who is a prince for him to marry you.”
“Okay. I can meet them at school.”
“You don’t go to a school with a prince.”
“You need to go overseas and meet someone there.”
“So, there is still hope.”
I guess is what I mumbled to myself. Just like a decade ago, when I never thought I would see a black man become president, I never thought I would see a black princess. Why? Every movie that has a prince meeting a regular person and marrying them has been a white girl, and the occasional brunette white woman. We don’t ever see a handsome prince select a minority woman of any color. Why would we ever think he could select a minority woman in real life when it can’t even happen in our fantasy?
Prince Harry changed the image of a black woman in a second. We all saw him date her as privately as a prince can, but that didn’t mean anything. He is 5th (and soon to be 6th) in line. So, we just knew that it was just dating. Never did we think it could be marriage. But, him deciding to propose to a black woman solidifies that black women are not just beautiful to date, but they are beautiful to marry.
In the midst of this, people are upset that she is called black, while others are upset that she is not black enough.
“She has straight hair, so she is denying her ‘blackness.’” Tell me which black woman has never straightened her hair once in her life. The versatility of a black woman’s hair is unique enough that she can have straight hair one day, and curly hair the next. The selection of hair does not mean one hates the hair on her head.
“She is too light, so she isn’t that ‘black.’” This reminds me of the years in school, in which I spoke to properly to be black. Or, in college, I was “not” that black because I was too fair skinned. Yet, I was not light enough to pass, and I am definitely not dark enough to truly be considered black. When I pledged Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc., the joke would surround me about how I would pass the paper bag test. I guess that is amusing.
This continual measurement of blackness is interesting because are we now disowning Barack Obama’s blackness or Halle Berry’s blackness, or maybe Alicia Keys or Mariah Carey is not black enough? Is it Meghan’s features not distinct enough in order for her to be classified as black enough?
You may not be excited, but I am excited for myself and this generation of black girls who can see themselves as having hope to do whatever and be whatever too. This is not a fantasy; rather, this is the reality.
We got a black princess, ya’ll.
Rolling Ray Undergoes Surgery After Wig Catches On Fire
Social media star Rolling Ray underwent surgery Tuesday morning to help treat the burns on his body after his terrible wig accident last week.
In a series of IG stories, he let his audience follow along as hot prepped for surgery.
Last week Rolling Ray announced he was hospitalized after his wig caught on fire! During a January 13 Instagram Live session from inside a hospital room, he showed his severely burnt and damaged face telling viewers he burnt his “whole skin, legs, arms, feet, and everything.”
In a more recent Live, Rolling Ray explained what happened that led to his whole wig catching on fire. Apparently, it was just an unfortunate smoking accident. “It just, like, lit on fire when I tried to light the cigarette,” he recounted. “So I get to trying to snatch the wig off. B***h, the fire goes to my f*****g shirt, to my feet, to my legs, to my back. It’s a fire everywhere, it’s a fire in the whole room.”
Of course the internet trolled him in a disgusting display of ableism and heartlessness. Comments like “Rolling Ray should have stopped, dropped, and rolled”and “karma’s a b***h” had social media split about his accident. His social media sensation comes from his harsh and, often, below-the-belt reads (just last month he told Yung Miami to “dig (sic) up” her dead baby father). However, the criticism didn’t stop him from responding on Twitter.
Rolling Ray might be problematic as all get-out, but we do not tolerate ableism here. We wish him well as he heals.
Fantasia Reveals Gender of Baby On the Way!
On Tuesday singer-songwriter and “American Idol” winner Fantasia Barrino took to social media to reveal that she is having a baby girl, her first child with husband Kendall Taylor.
In a series of Instagram stories, Fantasia showed pink fireworks being shot off during a gender reveal party, to her and the hubby’s excitement! She continued by sharing what her daughter-to-be’s name will be, Keziah London Taylor.
The news comes after the couple revealed they struggled to conceive since their marriage in 2015. During a November episode of her IG Live show “Taylor Talks,” she described continuously praying for a child with her husband. Fantasia, a deeply devout Christian, was obviously elated when she shared the news.
“God I Want To Thank You!” she said in an Instagram caption. “You Gave Us A Seed even when the Doctor said that one of my Tubes [was] Closed you said Different. @salute1st I Love You King and I can’t wait to see who He or She acts Like.”
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We can see Fantasia and family are all super excited to be welcoming a baby girl into their lives. All congratulations to her.
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West Are Getting Divorced, Report Says
In a story published Tuesday evening, Page Six is reporting that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are getting divorced, with the two already in settlement talks. The news comes after the couple spent the holiday season separately – Kanye at his ranch outside Cody, Wyoming, Kim and the kids with her famous family in southern California.
A source close to Kardashian was quoted saying, “Kim got Kanye to go up there so they could live separate lives and quietly get things sorted out to separate and divorce. She’s done.” Kardashian, 40, and West, 43, are said to be splitting because of marital problems directly related to Kanye’s very public mental health struggles.
For several years the rapper’s various antics have caused fans to worry. After coming out as a Trump supporter, West then announced his own 2020 presidential bid under a new political party: the Birthday Party. At a campaign rally in South Carolina, he was seen rambling, debating individual audience members, and at times, crying. In various interviews, he has rambled on almost incoherently, and his tweetstorms are now infamous.
For her part, Kim has always supported her husband and has openly discussed the difficulties of their marriage. Back in June, she shared on social media, “Anyone who has [bipolar disorder] or has a loved one in their life who does, knows how incredibly complicated and painful it is to understand… People who are unaware or far removed from this experience can be judgmental and not understand that the individual [themself] have to engage in the process of getting help no matter how hard family and friends try.”
It appears she has finally reached her limit in the union with the unnamed source saying, “She is serious about taking the bar exam and becoming a lawyer, she is serious about her prison reform campaign. Meanwhile Kanye is talking about running for president and saying other crazy s**t, and she’s just had enough of it.”
Separately, a source close to Kanye alleges that the rapper is sick of his wife and her family, which might have some truth to it since he has tweeted some pretty nasty things in the past. “I been trying to get divorced since Kim met with Meek at the Warldolf [sic] for ‘prison reform,’” he said in a now-deleted July tweet. Recently, he hasn’t been featured on his wife’s Instagram and has largely remained out of the public eye.
With the news yet to be confirmed, the “divorce is imminent” reports are just rumors for now. We’ll be following the news as more information comes out.