This piece was originally posted on Cody’s blog, Reclaiming Anger
Like Darell J. Hunt says,
“You can’t outdo Black people.”
This is just a reminder that Black folk can’t be outdone, won’t be outdone.
Won’t ever become undone.
We are otherworldly.
Please enjoy this collection of Black brilliance and Black creation, at a variety of beautiful intersections. This is not meant to be a perusal for one sitting, but perhaps something you can come back to often. This collection is best on a tough day of dealing with institutional -isms. This (collection) pairs well with a cup of hot chocolate, or a liquor of your choosing on the rocks. Please use the comment section to nominate other videos to be added to Part II of the collection (to come at a later date).
Moreover, if you know someone who shows up in the collection below, please tag them referencing this piece. Share. Share. Share!
*Throughout this piece captions are provided- either embedded in the video or through hyperlinks. Click on TRANSCRIPTION or LYRICS for accommodations.
How do we not begin with this hysterical Soul Train commentary from Darell J. Hunt? So many quotable moments. Peep the pure joy in Darell’s voice, alongside a lil shade…just a tad-bit.
Look at his fine ass- Trevante Rhodes. Damn. Truth be told, I’ve given myself to him several times in the past year…yes, in my very vivid dreams. Important to note, every fantasy encounter included enthusiastic consent. 🙂 Below is one of the best scenes in film history, in one of the best films ever made. FIGHT ME.
LYRICS to Hello Stranger by Barbara Lewis
Literally, the only child I like. You won’t find anything cuter…or fiercer on the inter-webs! “Do it for the vine?”
To love should be this simple…
Baddass, Nina Simone! Perhaps all the unpaid writers for Ebony should pull a Nina for those lost checks…oops. #EbonyOwes
One of my favorite people on planet earth (next to Kandi Burruss). Audra deserves so much more shine for her tremendous talent. And please know that I’ve peeped she’s only an Oscar away from an EGOT (Emmy, Grammy, Oscar, and Tony). She’s brilliant.
LYRICS to The Glamorous Life: *Audra McDonald singing Glamorous Life*
I love when Black people queer white spaces. They are more entertaining (and talented) than most of the performers at this year’s (2017) BET Awards…oops, again.
After watching this, I feel….tired. And yes, protect Black children at all cost!
Celebratory shouts and dancing to Wedgie by Taylor Girls- LYRICS
Protect black children at all costs this was so lit. pic.twitter.com/NwsqXd4Bab
— Règ (@GoldCorazon) March 1, 2017
Just hit play…
LYRICS to Four Women by Nina Simone
Just Black children being exceptional…nothing out of the ordinary.
Classic. But lowkey, this was an important declaration for the group, hence this fake CNN opening and closing.
Kelly Rowland: I’m the second lead vocalist for the group.
Latavia: *coughs* I’m Latavia
This is the young Black woman who created “on fleek.” I swear creation is the key to our liberation. Pay Peaches here.
Peaches: “We in this bitch, finna get crunk. Eyebrows on fleek, da fuck.”
June 21,2014 Was day I made history and created a word that will never be forgotten Happy Fleek Day 💪🏾😂🙈 https://t.co/AwvqsgHdJa
— Peaches 💋✨🤑 (@peaches_monroee) June 21, 2015
Because Black girls tell the truth. TRUST BLACK GIRLS and WOMEN.
Black Girl with 45: “You’re a disgrace to the world.”
Me if I ever meet Cheeto Voldemort pic.twitter.com/a51ZBXdd6D
— @TerroirNoir (@terroirnoir) May 10, 2017
Now you know we all have one of these “faux gifted” people in our family. If you don’t know who this person is, then it’s you!
Pay close attention to the hand geometry…
Dancing to Wet Dollars by Tink- LYRICS
Said this to my therapists the other day…
“Because it’s an inner cry bitch”
Miss Jay is damn good- I could almost believe that this is a real business concept…
Ugh. Soul melting voice. But why is this song called Redbone tho? (Please answer in the comments)
Sings Redbone by Childish Gambino- LYRICS
Be mad! Please be mad. This Black girl below is more helpful than most Black adults. read: Black cis het men
Black Feminist thought in a sea of white feminists…
And somehow we still equate talent to success, and success to happiness…
I hate this song, but love his voice.
Mike Yung singing Unchained Melody- LYRICS
Reminder from the Lorde.
“There is No Hierarchy of Oppressions” by Audre Lorde: *reading the essay found here*
I mean, I guess Sheree had the last laugh with Chateau Sheree, but it definitely was a journey…a long journey…
One of the best singers ever…EVER…FIGHT ME…I’ll win.
Because Tituss is SO much more than Tina Fey’s prop #MoreThanTinaFeysProp
Black, Queer, and Trans People not only on the margins, but at the origins…
Lowkey…I’m with auntie ‘Retha, this pie is flat out nasty. But I love Patti and this video. Just sayin’.
Hamilton meets Beyoncé Giselle Knowles…ahem, Carter. Can we ask for more? AND India Carney (in the center) is all things and everything all at the same damn time.
Listen. And then listen again. Wait an hour, and repeat!
Poet recites the poem “Black Privilege”
This is what I tell the students I work with…
I include Iyanla’s laugh, but exclude the centering of ashy Black men. Oops.
Black Panther talking to the Avengers pic.twitter.com/6AsI1saFFA
— Geeks of Color (@GeeksOfColor) July 6, 2017
Again, we come from a creative people. We’re too damn much. Bahahaha.
Cue the tears…and anger, as white supremacy was the root cause for David and Ava not receiving Oscars for his performance and her direction. Tho, white validation can never be a measure of Black excellence.
And how Tasty, or Sweetie, or whomever she is didn’t get up and leave the table is still a loss to me…
Most of you think this look and performance only took a black trash bag…but look closer (I’m still unsure of what you’ll find).
Dancing to Missy Elliot’s “Rain” (Supa Dupa Fly)- LYRICS
The woman’s reaction in the front row is typically my reaction when I realllllyyyy like something. Keep that in mind potential suitors…actually I react that way to good food too.
Because drunk Crissle is really the best of all of us… #TeamHarriet
I feel similarly about Red Lobster’s cheddar biscuits. And I’m waiting on someone to remix this with a Nina Simone track. Tew much?
But fo’real, who got this recipe?
And cold-blooded- sending a message to her competitors, like the Terminator, “I’LL BE BACK…on top. Soon.”
One of the best television characters to ever flee the paper to the big screen…Rest in Peace and Power Nelsan Ellis.
Because I love you Janet, I know you would want to be placed near Bey.
— Logo 🏳️🌈 (@LogoTV) July 13, 2017
Share. Share. Share! And like James Wright says, “Support Black Businessessss”
This is the work of Cody Charles; claiming my work does not make me selfish or ego-driven, instead radical and in solidarity with the folk who came before me and have been betrayed by history books and storytellers. Historically, their words have been stolen and reworked without consent. This is the work of Cody Charles. Please discuss, share, and cite properly.
Cody Charles is the author of Re-Imagining Black Love, Getting To Know Rosa Lee: An Overdue Conversation With My Mother, Black Joy, We Deserve It, The Night The Moonlight Caught My Eye: Not a Review but a Testimony on the Film Moonlight, 5 Tips For White Folks, As They Engage Jordan Peele’s Get Out. (No Spoilers), Student Affairs is a Sham, 19 Types of Higher Education Professionals, and What Growing Up Black And Poor Taught Me About Resiliency. Join him for more conversation on Twitter (@_codykeith_) and Facebook (Follow Cody Charles). Please visit his blog, Reclaiming Anger, to learn more about him.
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What a Viral Twitter Thread Can Teach Us About Love and Trauma
After a chance meeting with a New York legend, Chaédria LaBouvier, the Guggenheim Museum’s first black female curator, promised herself if she experienced another special encounter on New York’s MTA bus service, she would live-tweet it for the world. Probably sooner than she expected, she found herself giving her followers a play-by-play of a man and woman discussing their relationship, its problems, and how they can solve them.
According to LaBouvier, everything began with the man telling his girlfriend, “I love you and I want to make this work but you’re mean AS FUCK and it’s wearing me down.” Her tweets then went on to describe the man explaining that she doesn’t know how to communicate her concerns in a healthy and productive way with him and pleading with her to seek help from a mental health professional.
The woman acknowledges not only his concerns but also her own frustration with her actions and her reservations about therapy. “’I know I don’t communicate my feelings…I didn’t grow up with that and I had to teach myself… what if therapy doesn’t work for me? What if I’m just angry?’”
Oooff. Overhearing this relationship in trouble on the shuttle bus and the guy just told the girl, “I love you and I want to make us work but you’re mean AS FUCK and it’s wearing me down.”— No Quarter Will Be Given (@chaedria) December 1, 2019
She’s just looking at him like she knows he’s right but doesn’t know what to do about it.
LADY PLEASE GO TO THERAPY SO YOU CAN KEEP THIS MAN IN A GORGEOUS TWEED COAT WHO LOVES YOU— No Quarter Will Be Given (@chaedria) December 1, 2019
I want them to get through this
Her: “Therapy just makes me feel like I’m failing all of the time and you don’t…I know I don’t communicate my feelings…I didn’t grow up with that and I had to teach myself. I know I go off, believe me. I just… what if therapy won’t work for me? What if i’m just angry.”— No Quarter Will Be Given (@chaedria) December 1, 2019
To some, LaBouvier’s tweets hearkened back to the problematic “#PlaneBae” incident in which a comedian’s live-tweets of flirtatious meet-cute between two fellow passengers on her flight from New York to Dallas included photos of the unsuspecting pair. Many, though, are hailing the unidentified MTA man’s devotion to his relationship and LaBouvier’s (@chaedria on Twitter) account as a beautiful example of love, commitment, patience, and compromise.
I’m armoring up for a bad relationship talk tonight. This thread has reminded me to bring a little less armor and a little more consideration. Thank you, and them, for the reminder.— outofupfor (@outofupfor) December 2, 2019
He sounds like he has done a lot of the work he is hoping to convince her to go through. He is expressing needs, setting boundaries, and withholding judgment in a way few could manage without some coaching.— Andrew Langmead (@alangmead) December 2, 2019
I love the hope in this.— Stephen Black (@stephenablack) December 2, 2019
They’ve already gotten through a lot:
1) Acknowledging the problem
2) Taking responsibility
3) Wanting to change
4) Accepting therapy
All that’s left, and it’s a big one, is doing the hard work in therapy.
I wish them the best. Thanks for sharing ❤️
In the exchange, the man affirms his girlfriend’s feelings about her anger and recognizes how difficult it can be to change learned behaviors, especially when the raw emotion of a lover’s quarrel come into play. Often times, couples fail to acknowledge the impact of their actions while focusing on the recipient, but both participants here succeed in validating the other and showing empathy for one another at the same time. “’I want a better YOU not someone else… would it help you if I went with you [to therapy]? I’ll ask my mom if she has any recommendations,’” the man offers
However, what he likely doesn’t understand is that just any old “therapy” isn’t always the answer. Our MTA heroine arguably needs a trauma therapist specializing in PTSD – post-traumatic stress disorder – as evidenced by her brief detail of her childhood experience and the shame she feels every night. By her own admission she continually tries to correct her behavior yet fails, and a trauma specialist could not only better understand her situation, but also potentially reduce the pain she feels, slow the frequency of her “blackouts,” and address any other side effects.
When thinking of the traumas that can affect any of us, it’s important to remember that what scars us individually may not scar us collectively. Whatever she experienced may not be immediately understandable or accessible to us (or her boyfriend whose race remains a mystery while LaBouvier identifies her as a woman of color), but it still grieves her daily. Imagine breaking a limb – you may get a cast and lollipop at the hospital, but that pain still remains until the injury is fully healed. Equally, that pain still affects our interactions with other others. All human interaction is dependent on our relationships and when our feelings are hurt, those relationships are thrown into chaos until the injury is healed or at least back in a working state.
This couple’s relationship may not be perfect, but their willingness to work together through their weaknesses is a sign all love is not lost. While therapy is not a cure-all, the right therapy can heal a lot of injuries.
Check out the full thread on the flip and let us know what you think. Can therapy help their relationship? Do you have a personal experience you’d like to share?
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