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There are some days you’d just rather not look at the phone, turn on a TV, scroll through any timeline or newsfeed, listen to the radio, or be connected in any way, shape, or form to the outside world. Bad news has a way of clouding bright and hopeful visions of society and humanity. The moment we begin to feel like there are steps being taken in the right direction, we’re quickly reminded of the relentlessness of those who hate.
There’s no wrapping your head around what is now labeled the deadliest mass shooting in US history and deadliest terrorist attack since 9/11. These are the things I honestly wish I did not have to write about. But there’s a lot to be said about the homophobia that still exists and remains to be an engine behind horrific attacks like what happened at Pulse Nightclub in Orlando, FL.
At least 50 people were killed and more than 50 others were wounded…
People generally don’t like to hear that we have a responsibility to one another, but I feel like that is only when it comes to showing others the right way. Homophobia is taught faithfully in our churches, in our homes, it is passed on so easily in our schools and even on the streets. To take the opportunity to teach others about acceptance seems like pulling teeth, and that may be because it conflicts with the morals of so many people. It’s easier to teach our sons and daughters that identifying or associating themselves with the LGBTQ community will lead to shame and ruin than it is to show them how gratifying and liberating it is to accept oneself and others. Where we go wrong is assuming that only LGBTQ people have a hard life, and that we’d rather not have that for the next generation. That’s only further perpetuating a cycle that we’re trying to avoid. No one wants a hard life, especially for their kids, but it shouldn’t have to cost things like dignity, integrity, or sometimes even lives, to pursue that. What we need to really understand to its fullest extent is realistically, there will be people out there who will dislike you regardless of how you identify. This shouldn’t stop any of us from pursuing our own happiness; we shouldn’t be stifled with fear because of paranoia.
On the other hand, we have moments like the attack on Pulse, where what was supposed to be a night of people enjoying themselves during LGBTQ Pride Month ended up being a killing spree for a terrorist (now identified as Omar Mateen). This only proves that we aren’t safe, even in the places where we’re limited to exist freely, without disrupting the societal norm. Mateen’s father said that Omar had recently gotten angry after seeing two men kissing, which may have inspired the attack. While I don’t want to minimize everything it took to bring this man to kill 50 people and wound 50+ others, I will say that there is nothing surprising about this. Homophobes tend to become so wrapped up in hurt when they see gay men specifically living their lives, simply existing, loving freely and openly. I’ve been exposed to it myself and will testify. They try to take matters into their own hands–which has lead to so many searchable hate crimes and killings that have been reported in the media. It’s sickening.
A word of advice and in relation to the very first sentence of this post: when tragedy strikes and you’re trying to avoid being angry because of it, stay away from social media. I did the wrong thing by searching hashtags and reading comments, even after expecting exactly what I read. Comments like “AIDS all over the dance floor” and other disgusting tweets were sent out in the wake of the massacre. It goes without saying that this shit is no laughing matter, but it takes a strong case of stupid to make a dark time a laughing matter. Ignorance is the breeding grounds for a hoard of other undesirable characteristics like bitterness, poor timing, and terrible sense of humor, just to name a few. Retweets and likes mean more to us than human lives. Validation from those we’ve never met holds more weight than the slain souls who could’ve easily been us. A wake up call for social media comedians is needed, and some of them get the reality slap they deserve. What drives people to make light of a massacre is beyond me, but what I do know is that there is power in just a little bit of research…
There are countless others who felt the need to chime in on the foolery, but we won’t shed anymore spotlights on assholes. They’re meant to stay in the dark. Moving on, it was reported earlier that the gunman was a regular at Pulse in Orlando and even had a profile on a gay dating app.
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THE INHERENT OPPRESSION IN WHITE QUEER SPACES
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If you’ve read any of my writing previously, or understand how I feel about intersectionality, then you are fully aware that I am getting ready to wage war on the Midtown-Moon, previously Burkhart’s, in Atlanta, GA.
Snuggled in one of the whitest areas of Atlanta, I was at first apprehensive about traveling to this predominantly White Queer Space, as the privilege in these spaces is often insurmountable. However, because I was reassured by my Black Queer brothers, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and practice the very thing that I preach: cultural immersion.
To give you an idea of the types of folx that venture here:
Let’s get back to why I proclaim that these White Queer spaces are indeed insurmountable: language, language, language.
For some ridiculously odd reason, White gay men love to make the most insensitive, racist, xenophobic, transphobic comments all in the name of a gotdamn joke. Do I look like a fucking joke to you? And do you know what the most unfortunate part about this is?
BLACK QUEER PEOPLE STILL WILLINGLY TRAVEL TO THESE SPACES AND ALLOW THEM TO PERPETUATE THESE IDEOLOGIES!
Moving right along. We walk inside Midtown-Moon and we’re greeted by a seemingly friendly karaoke host. His energy was great and kept the attention of someone like myself who honestly, doesn’t do well with large group outings. Cool.
It is important to note that while this is a predominantly White Queer venue, they sometimes cater (notice I used the word “cater”) to “People of Color (POC),” not Black people.
Let’s observe the quotation around POC. This simply means folx that they love the brown and black people who help them perpetuate the xenophobic, privileged, and internalized oppression all in the name of color. It’s like a false ass “kumbaya” moment.
On this particular Tuesday Karaoke night, about 67-70% of the patrons were visibly of color, mostly Black (get into it).
We’re moving right along with karaoke and on comes “1000 miles” by Vanessa Carlton. We all know this song! This excitement is now thrown out of the window because the overly obnoxious host decides to scream,
Oh bitch! You chose the whitest song ever! This is White privilege right here!
Immediately, I’m slightly disgusted. I’ll get back into why this comment is literally vermin.
After he rants, and rants, and screams these same sentiments almost throughout the ENTIRE song, the poor patron singing takes his exit.
Next on the list is “Bye, Bye, Bye” by none other than NSYNC. Our Xenophobic host was partnering with an individual by the last name of Sanchez. Here is the next rant:
Bitch! Immigration! Immigration! Somebody find Sanchez! Immigration! Somebody call ICE!
If you are not bothered by the above statement, you need to challenge your understanding of cultural insensitivity and xenophobia and its effects.
Why did this White gay man feel as if he had the space to make “light” of experiences that he will never have. Why will he never have this experience? BECAUSE HE IS WHITE! BECAUSE HE IS WHITE! BECAUSE HE IS WHITE! BECAUSE HE IS WHITE!
People, it’s time to wake the fuck up. Some of y’all are in the period of in between snoozes. I need you to wake all the way up.
As a privileged person, especially being White, it is not your place, nor will it ever be your place to make light of oppressive situations all in the name of a fucking joke.
Language folx, creates space for thoughts. These thoughts create space for feelings. These feelings create space for perceptions. These perceptions create space for actions. Actions create the space for marginalizing people, wrongfully incarcerating them at alarming rates, allowing environments to not have clean water for years, allowing the homeless to freeze to death, allowing a seventeen-year-old’s murderer to walk free, the abrogation of DACA, the slaying of young immigrant children, and the shutdown of a government to build a gotdamn wall that literally has no benefit.
To you people who claim that everyone is “too sensitive,” wake your dumbass up.
To the Black people and other POC who uphold these ideologies, wake your dumbass up.
To the people who are offended by me insulting your disregard for human life, wake your dumbass up.
Sidenote: As this raging xenophobe cracked his “jokes,” the rest of us just looked at him.
The Black people and the other People of Color were just there for good karaoke. That’s it.
White Queer people, if you would like for everything to be “kumbaya” and all inclusive like claim it should be, stop saying dumb shit that reinforces a divide. No, I don’t have to assimilate to oppressive bullshit.
-A Fed Up Black Queer Man
https://thegavoice.com/news/atlanta/burkharts-gm-responds-owners-racist-facebook-posts-uncovered/ (this one even points out the racist owner in the article)
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10s, 10s, 10s across the board! Teyana Taylor gave us body and brought it to the ballroom in her W.T.P. music video.
After leaving the platform because Def Jam didn’t release the video for WTP on time, Teyana is back. She returned to IG yesterday, posting a still frame from her video captioned with a touching message.
WTP is a self-directed ballroom tribute filled with cameos and references to Paris is Burning. Throughout the video, Teyana pays homage to the culture that helped her find herself. The video features queer dancers, models, and an iconic cameo from Lena Waithe. Establishing herself as the Muva of House Petunia, Teyana directed crews in New York, Atlanta, and L.A.. She even contributed to the editing and credits an all-female production company for the shoot.
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