Let’s talk about body shaming, body image, and self-esteem. I know these are touchy subjects but they should be discussed as many people often deal with them. I was watching an episode of the reality show, Basketball Wives and cast member Evelyn Lozada offered her cast mate Cristen Metoyer a makeover; because her style “was not up to par” and that she should learn how to dress per her body shape. Cristen’s reaction was not surprising because she took offense and immediately thought the other women were judging her body shape knowing that she gained weight due to a previous pregnancy.
Even though Evelyn claimed that she did not have any bad intentions with the makeover, you can tell that Cristen had some body image and self-esteem issues. I personally did not see anything wrong with the young lady’s body shape. But Cristen’s body shape may not have been considered the “norm” or what society thinks is right, especially in comparison to the other women on the show.
Unfortunately when you are surrounded by beautiful women who you do not look like, it is easy to have low self-esteem, especially when they are quick to body shame others. So I can truly relate to how Cristen felt when she was offered the makeover by another beautiful woman.
I myself deal with body image and self -esteem issues. I had 2 children in the last two years and the pregnancies had a tremendous toll on my weight. After gaining so much weight, it became difficult for me to accept my body as is and truly feel good about myself. People tell me that I look great, especially for having 3 children but I still point out something that is wrong. I have not been body shame by someone else but I often do it to myself because I am very body conscious in social settings or when I go shopping thinking someone is going to ridicule me because of my weight (especially if they knew me when I was smaller).
Good news I am learning how to accept my body and make the necessary changes in order to be healthy, not to “fit in.” I am going, to be honest, it is sometimes difficult to be positive because you often see the men and women on TV or on social media who has the “perfect” bodies and are often glorified. Now I know the “society standards” for body shapes are very unrealistic but it is still hard for me not to feel some type of way about my own. When I feel some type of way about my body I just turn the negatives into positives and it keeps moving.
I am a working progress myself but I can offer some advice. If you are unhappy with your body shape, just determine what needs to be done for you to be comfortable in your own skin but in the meantime still, love yourself! ❤
Have you ever been put in a situation like Cristen? Where it was clear someone was body shaming you? Tell us how you handled it?
Rolling Ray Undergoes Surgery After Wig Catches On Fire
Social media star Rolling Ray underwent surgery Tuesday morning to treat serious burns on his body after his terrible wig accident last week.
In a series of IG stories, he let his audience follow along as he prepped for surgery.
Last week Rolling Ray announced he was hospitalized after his wig caught on fire! During a January 13 Instagram Live session hosted straight from his hospital bedside, he showed his severely burnt and damaged face telling viewers his “whole skin, legs, arms, feet, and everything” were burned.
In a more recent Live, Ray explained the incident that led to his whole wig catching on fire: an unfortunate smoking accident. “It just, like, lit on fire when I tried to light the cigarette,” he recounted. “So I get to trying to snatch the wig off. B***h, the fire goes to my f*****g shirt, to my feet, to my legs, to my back. It’s a fire everywhere, it’s a fire in the whole room.”
Of course the internet trolled him in a disgusting display of ableism and heartlessness. Comments like “Rolling Ray should have stopped, dropped, and rolled” and “karma’s a b***h” had social media conflicted in its feelings about his accident. His sensation comes from his harsh and, often, below-the-belt reads (just last month he told Yung Miami to “dig (sic) up” her dead baby father. However, the criticism didn’t stop him from responding on Twitter.
Rolling Ray might be problematic as all get-out, but we do not tolerate ableism here. We wish him well as he heals.
Fantasia Reveals Gender of Baby On the Way!
On Tuesday singer-songwriter and “American Idol” winner Fantasia Barrino took to social media to reveal that she is having a baby girl, her first child with husband Kendall Taylor.
In a series of Instagram stories, Fantasia showed pink fireworks being shot off during a gender reveal party, to her and her hubby’s excitement! She continued by sharing what her daughter-to-be’s name will be: Keziah London Taylor.
The news comes after the couple revealed they had struggled to conceive since their 2015 marriage. During a November episode of her IG Live show “Taylor Talks,” she described continuously praying for a child with her husband. Fantasia, a deeply devout Christian, was obviously elated when she shared the news.
“God I Want To Thank You!” she said in an Instagram caption. “You Gave Us A Seed even when the Doctor said that one of my Tubes [was] Closed you said Different. @salute1st I Love You King and I can’t wait to see who He or She acts Like.”
We can see Fantasia and family are all super excited to be welcoming a baby girl into their lives. All congratulations to her.
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West Are Getting Divorced, Report Says
In a story published Tuesday evening, Page Six is reporting that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are getting divorced, with the two already in settlement talks. The news comes after the couple spent the holiday season separately – Kanye at his ranch outside Cody, Wyoming, Kim and the kids with her famous family in southern California.
A source close to Kardashian was quoted saying, “Kim got Kanye to go up there so they could live separate lives and quietly get things sorted out to separate and divorce. She’s done.” Kardashian, 40, and West, 43, are said to be splitting because of marital problems directly related to Kanye’s very public mental health struggles.
For several years the rapper’s various antics have caused fans to worry. After coming out as a Trump supporter, West then announced his own 2020 presidential bid under a new political party: the Birthday Party. At a campaign rally in South Carolina, he was seen rambling, debating individual audience members, and at times, crying. In various interviews, he has rambled on almost incoherently, and his tweetstorms are now infamous.
For her part, Kim has always supported her husband and has openly discussed the difficulties of their marriage. Back in June, she shared on social media, “Anyone who has [bipolar disorder] or has a loved one in their life who does, knows how incredibly complicated and painful it is to understand… People who are unaware or far removed from this experience can be judgmental and not understand that the individual (has) to engage in the process of getting help no matter how hard family and friends try.”
It appears she has finally reached her limit in the union with the unnamed source saying, “She is serious about taking the bar exam and becoming a lawyer, she is serious about her prison reform campaign. Meanwhile Kanye is talking about running for president and saying other crazy s**t, and she’s just had enough of it.”
Separately, a source close to Kanye alleges the rapper is sick of his wife and her family, which might have some truth to it since he has tweeted some pretty nasty things about them in the past. “I been trying to get divorced since Kim met with Meek at the Warldolf [sic] for ‘prison reform,’” he said in a now-deleted July tweet. Recently, he hasn’t been featured on his wife’s Instagram and has largely remained out of the public eye.
With the news yet to be confirmed, the “divorce is imminent” reports are just rumors for now. We’ll be following the news as more information comes out.