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Evelyn Lozada Was Body Shaming Cristen, Let’s Be Honest…

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Let’s talk about body shaming, body image, and self-esteem. I know these are touchy subjects but they should be discussed as many people often deal with them. I was watching an episode of the reality show, Basketball Wives and cast member Evelyn Lozada offered her cast mate Cristen Metoyer a makeover; because her style “was not up to par” and that she should learn how to dress per her body shape. Cristen’s reaction was not surprising because she took offense and immediately thought the other women were judging her body shape knowing that she gained weight due to a previous pregnancy.

Even though Evelyn claimed that she did not have any bad intentions with the makeover, you can tell that Cristen had some body image and self-esteem issues. I personally did not see anything wrong with the young lady’s body shape. But Cristen’s body shape may not have been considered the “norm” or what society thinks is right, especially in comparison to the other women on the show.

Unfortunately when you are surrounded by beautiful women who you do not look like, it is easy to have low self-esteem, especially when they are quick to body shame others. So I can truly relate to how Cristen felt when she was offered the makeover by another beautiful woman.

I myself deal with body image and self -esteem issues. I had 2 children in the last two years and the pregnancies had a tremendous toll on my weight. After gaining so much weight, it became difficult for me to accept my body as is and truly feel good about myself. People tell me that I look great, especially for having 3 children but I still point out something that is wrong. I have not been body shame by someone else but I often do it to myself because I am very body conscious in social settings or when I go shopping thinking someone is going to ridicule me because of my weight (especially if they knew me when I was smaller).

Good news I am learning how to accept my body and make the necessary changes in order to be healthy, not to “fit in.” I am going, to be honest, it is sometimes difficult to be positive because you often see the men and women on TV or on social media who has the “perfect” bodies and are often glorified. Now I know the “society standards” for body shapes are very unrealistic but it is still hard for me not to feel some type of way about my own. When I feel some type of way about my body I just turn the negatives into positives and it keeps moving.

I am a working progress myself but I can offer some advice. If you are unhappy with your body shape, just determine what needs to be done for you to be comfortable in your own skin but in the meantime still, love yourself! ❤

 

Have you ever been put in a situation like Cristen? Where it was clear someone was body shaming you? Tell us how you handled it? 

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  1. MJ

    May 22, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    The women on the show dress a certain way and want to give you a look when you see them. They gave Royce a hard time because she wasn’t into the name brands and wasn’t also dressed to the 9’s as they felt she should have been. They are now shaming this poor woman who is in a delicate time in her life, it’s trashy. I’m not talking about how it’s trendy to say “trashy” i mean uncouth, uncalled for and hurtful! This poor woman lost a child and trying to regain and build while being a mother and keeping her house going. While trying to rebuild and make a life she is trying to befriend these selfish superficial woman. I feel bad for her because it seemed like her and Evelyn clicked on a good note and could have actually bonded and been decent friends. Now she has been publicly shamed for the world to see. I think the entire thing is tacky! To police what somebody wears because you have an “image” to uphold, naw sis. Further more they totally body shamed her and nobody addressed it, everybody played yes men and had a Kiki about how her fashions were late.

    Anyway I love the piece you wrote it was very thought provoking.

    • Jameka Nicole

      May 23, 2017 at 7:23 pm

      Thank you for your insightful response. I definitely agree. Remember when Evelyn and Jennifer were talking about Tami when she first got on the show! It was not for her body shape but she was talked about because she didn’t rock the same fashions as them smh.

  2. Roro

    May 22, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    I understand the girl Cristen had reservations and is self conscious about her body. Most women are… But she doesn’t dress nicely and I don’t think she likes how she dresses either. She just didn’t want to be told she didn’t look good.

    • Jameka Nicole

      May 23, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      I get where you coming from but most women would probably not want to be told that they don’t dress nice unless it is someone they are really close with vs. A lady they just met. Maybe that is what bothered Christen as well. Thank you for reading.

  3. Dana Wright

    May 22, 2017 at 11:13 pm

    I don’t necessarily think that the group was attempting to body shame Cristen, those are her own feelings about her body. I agree with Evelyn, she needs a makeover. As a plus sized woman I know there are beautiful stylish and fashionable choices for plus sized women. I don’t even think of Cristen as plus sized, she has a large chest. While she is working on losing weight she can continue to look stylish. She is a young woman, she dresses like someone over 40.

    • Jameka Nicole

      May 23, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      Not a women over 40!!! I think if Evelyn felt some type of way about Christen’s choice of clothes she could have done it differently. Maybe Evelyn could have talked to Christen in private and go on from there. Thank you for reading.

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