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Evelyn Lozada Was Body Shaming Cristen, Let’s Be Honest…

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Let’s talk about body shaming, body image, and self-esteem. I know these are touchy subjects but they should be discussed as many people often deal with them. I was watching an episode of the reality show, Basketball Wives and cast member Evelyn Lozada offered her cast mate Cristen Metoyer a makeover; because her style “was not up to par” and that she should learn how to dress per her body shape. Cristen’s reaction was not surprising because she took offense and immediately thought the other women were judging her body shape knowing that she gained weight due to a previous pregnancy.

Even though Evelyn claimed that she did not have any bad intentions with the makeover, you can tell that Cristen had some body image and self-esteem issues. I personally did not see anything wrong with the young lady’s body shape. But Cristen’s body shape may not have been considered the “norm” or what society thinks is right, especially in comparison to the other women on the show.

Unfortunately when you are surrounded by beautiful women who you do not look like, it is easy to have low self-esteem, especially when they are quick to body shame others. So I can truly relate to how Cristen felt when she was offered the makeover by another beautiful woman.

I myself deal with body image and self -esteem issues. I had 2 children in the last two years and the pregnancies had a tremendous toll on my weight. After gaining so much weight, it became difficult for me to accept my body as is and truly feel good about myself. People tell me that I look great, especially for having 3 children but I still point out something that is wrong. I have not been body shame by someone else but I often do it to myself because I am very body conscious in social settings or when I go shopping thinking someone is going to ridicule me because of my weight (especially if they knew me when I was smaller).

Good news I am learning how to accept my body and make the necessary changes in order to be healthy, not to “fit in.” I am going, to be honest, it is sometimes difficult to be positive because you often see the men and women on TV or on social media who has the “perfect” bodies and are often glorified. Now I know the “society standards” for body shapes are very unrealistic but it is still hard for me not to feel some type of way about my own. When I feel some type of way about my body I just turn the negatives into positives and it keeps moving.

I am a working progress myself but I can offer some advice. If you are unhappy with your body shape, just determine what needs to be done for you to be comfortable in your own skin but in the meantime still, love yourself! ❤

 

Have you ever been put in a situation like Cristen? Where it was clear someone was body shaming you? Tell us how you handled it? 

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  1. MJ

    May 22, 2017 at 8:24 pm

    The women on the show dress a certain way and want to give you a look when you see them. They gave Royce a hard time because she wasn’t into the name brands and wasn’t also dressed to the 9’s as they felt she should have been. They are now shaming this poor woman who is in a delicate time in her life, it’s trashy. I’m not talking about how it’s trendy to say “trashy” i mean uncouth, uncalled for and hurtful! This poor woman lost a child and trying to regain and build while being a mother and keeping her house going. While trying to rebuild and make a life she is trying to befriend these selfish superficial woman. I feel bad for her because it seemed like her and Evelyn clicked on a good note and could have actually bonded and been decent friends. Now she has been publicly shamed for the world to see. I think the entire thing is tacky! To police what somebody wears because you have an “image” to uphold, naw sis. Further more they totally body shamed her and nobody addressed it, everybody played yes men and had a Kiki about how her fashions were late.

    Anyway I love the piece you wrote it was very thought provoking.

    • Jameka Nicole

      May 23, 2017 at 7:23 pm

      Thank you for your insightful response. I definitely agree. Remember when Evelyn and Jennifer were talking about Tami when she first got on the show! It was not for her body shape but she was talked about because she didn’t rock the same fashions as them smh.

  2. Roro

    May 22, 2017 at 8:45 pm

    I understand the girl Cristen had reservations and is self conscious about her body. Most women are… But she doesn’t dress nicely and I don’t think she likes how she dresses either. She just didn’t want to be told she didn’t look good.

    • Jameka Nicole

      May 23, 2017 at 7:26 pm

      I get where you coming from but most women would probably not want to be told that they don’t dress nice unless it is someone they are really close with vs. A lady they just met. Maybe that is what bothered Christen as well. Thank you for reading.

  3. Dana Wright

    May 22, 2017 at 11:13 pm

    I don’t necessarily think that the group was attempting to body shame Cristen, those are her own feelings about her body. I agree with Evelyn, she needs a makeover. As a plus sized woman I know there are beautiful stylish and fashionable choices for plus sized women. I don’t even think of Cristen as plus sized, she has a large chest. While she is working on losing weight she can continue to look stylish. She is a young woman, she dresses like someone over 40.

    • Jameka Nicole

      May 23, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      Not a women over 40!!! I think if Evelyn felt some type of way about Christen’s choice of clothes she could have done it differently. Maybe Evelyn could have talked to Christen in private and go on from there. Thank you for reading.

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Mo’Nique Sues Netflix for Gender/Race Discrimination

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A lawsuit two years in the making has finally hit the streaming titan. Alleging racial and gender discrimination, Oscar winning actress and comedian Mo’Nique has filed a 39-page suit against Netflix.

As the fight for equal pay within the entertainment industry wages on, Mo’Nique has upped the ante by suing Netflix after years of callouts. Claiming the streaming giant attempted to underpay her for a stand-up special in comparison to other comedic heavyweights, Mo’Nique has highlighted gender and racial bias in the suit. Stating that she had a choice to make, Mo’Nique’s decision to stand against Netflix stems from a desire level the playing field. In a post on Instagram, she said “I could accept what I felt was pay discrimination or I could stand up for those who came before me and those who will come after me. I chose to stand up.”

Citing the offers received by Jerry Seinfeld, Dave Chappelle, Chris Rock, and Amy Schumer, Mo’Nique alleges that Netflix’s offer of $500,000 was tawdry at best. The lawsuit states, “When the talent was not a Black woman, Netflix offered to pay, and did pay, astronomically more than it pays to Black women like it offered to Mo’Nique.” Seinfeld’s deal with Netflix was allegedly $100 million for two specials and his interview series Comedians in Cars Getting Coffee. Dave Chappelle’s deal for three specials was reportedly worth $60 million. Both Chris Rock and Ricky Gervais allegedly received $40 million for two show deals. Even Amy Schumer commanded $11 million for a single special. Disrespected by her offer, Mo’Nique’s suit accuses the company of perpetuating the drastic wage gap forced upon Black women in America’s workforce.

Not only offended by having her talent undervalued, Mo’Nique’s suit claims the streaming company’s former Chief Communications Officer Jonathan Friedland used the N-word in a meeting. Friedland was reported by several employees for his insensitive remarks for which he refused to apologize. Even after speaking in front of a Black employees, Friedland refused to denounce his behavior. His lack of racial awareness and sensitivity, Friedland was eventually fired by Netflix.

While Mo’Nique has spoken out to confirm that she is suing Netflix, she asks only for support and love at this time, offering no further comments.

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Did Wendy Williams Shade Nicki Minaj?

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It’s no secret that the Queen of Media and Queen of Rap do not get along. Targeting a certain “soon to be washed-up rapper”, Wendy’s inflammatory comments have drawn the ire of Nicki’s ruthless fanbase, The Barbz.

Tensions between Wendy Williams and Nicki Minaj are at an all-time high following the daytime talk show host’s comments about the rapper’s husband. Wendy drew first blood when she pointed to Kenneth Petty’s violent past. Discussing it on air, Wendy said “I don’t know what he does for a living. I just know that he did time in jail for — he’s a sex offender.” Wendy continued her assessment by stating Nicki is no stranger to such behavior because of her brother’s incarceration before returning to her thoughts on Kenneth. “Well, first-degree manslaughter. Now, he served seven years in prison and he’s also a sex offender. So that means that he…is manslaughter a killer? Okay. So, he’s a killer and a sex offender…Well, Nicki. Congratulations.”

Hearing how critical Wendy Williams has been of her marriage to Kenneth Petty, Nicki Minaj lashed out during an episode of Queen Radio. Hitting back at Williams for her criticism with “It’s not about doing your job.” Nicki says Wendy goes too far. “There are people who report the news and there are people who do it with an evil intent in their heart, viciousness.” Feeling entitled to counter the disrespect, Nicki alluded to Wendy’s failing marriage, saying “And I pray for you because I know you’re hurting and I know you must be sick and humiliated.”

During Nicki’s episode of Queen Radio she continued to air out Wendy’s marital issues with Kevin Hunter. Bringing up his extramarital affair, Nicki targeted what she believed was the source of Wendy’s bitterness. “You’re sat up there being vicious all this time, and paid for that man’s mistress all these years. You paid for her shopping sprees, you paid for her hotels — Bitch, you probably even paid for her GYN bills, you paid to have that baby delivered, ho. How you doin’, stupid?” Seemingly unphased by Nicki’s callout, Wendy had this to say during her show:

“There’s this soon-to-be washed up rapper who can’t keep my name out of it’s mouth. I love it. I sit here like, ‘OK, keep talking. Say some more.'”

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“Where is Frank Ocean?” Drake Booed off Camp Flog Gnaw Stage

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Boo this man! Boooo! Drake thought a surprise appearance at Tyler, The Creator’s Camp Flog Gnaw festival would go better than this. The Canadian rapper was booed off the stage after attempting to surprise fans by performing before Frank Ocean’s set.

Drake’s surprise appearance at Camp Flog Gnaw was cut short after he was interrupted by boos. The rapper, who arranged the surprise with Tyler The Creator’s approval, stopped in the middle of “Wu-Tang Forever” to gauge the crowd. Saying, “I’m up here for you tonight. If you want to keep going, I will keep going.” Drake asked “What’s up?” Unfortunately, during the pause, some members of the crowd began booing loudly. Bowing out gracefully, Drake said “It’s been love.” and exited stage left. Hoping Frank Ocean would take the stage soon after, fans were met with further disappointment — he refused to perform.

After waiting nearly 15 minutes for Frank Ocean’s performance to begin, fans came to the realization that he wouldn’t take the stage. Presumably punishing the audience for causing Drake to end his set 20 minutes early, fans are agreeing with Frank Ocean’s decisions. One Twitter user commented “Frank not performing is exactly what a crowd who would boo Drake deserves.” Another user echoed their sentiments, saying “Drake, I’m sorry, bro. I’m so sorry. They didn’t deserve you.”

Although Frank Ocean has yet to release a statement, rumors are swirling that Drake was called in to replace the rapper altogether. Frank Ocean allegedly canceled his scheduled appearance at Camp Flog Gnaw, but there is no indication he stepped down on any of his official social media profiles. However, his name was missing from the lineup of the 2-day festival.

With ticket prices ranging from $270 to $1045, fans are sharing their mixed feelings. Some are disappointed they sold their passes and lost the chance to see Drake, others are furious they held on to their tickets and didn’t get to see Frank Ocean.

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