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If you’ve read any of my writing previously, or understand how I feel about intersectionality, then you are fully aware that I am getting ready to wage war on the Midtown-Moon, previously Burkhart’s, in Atlanta, GA.

Snuggled in one of the whitest areas of Atlanta, I was at first apprehensive about traveling to this predominantly White Queer Space, as the privilege in these spaces is often insurmountable. However, because I was reassured by my Black Queer brothers, I decided to step out of my comfort zone and practice the very thing that I preach: cultural immersion. 

To give you an idea of the types of folx that venture here:

Let’s get back to why I proclaim that these White Queer spaces are indeed insurmountable: language, language, language.

For some ridiculously odd reason, White gay men love to make the most insensitive, racist, xenophobic, transphobic comments all in the name of a gotdamn joke. Do I look like a fucking joke to you? And do you know what the most unfortunate part about this is?

Come closer…closer…


Moving right along. We walk inside Midtown-Moon and we’re greeted by a seemingly friendly karaoke host. His energy was great and kept the attention of someone like myself who honestly, doesn’t do well with large group outings. Cool.

It is important to note that while this is a predominantly White Queer venue, they sometimes cater (notice I used the word “cater”) to “People of Color (POC),” not Black people.

Let’s observe the quotation around POC. This simply means folx that they love the brown and black people who help them perpetuate the xenophobic, privileged, and internalized oppression all in the name of color. It’s like a false ass “kumbaya” moment.

On this particular Tuesday Karaoke night, about 67-70% of the patrons were visibly of color, mostly Black (get into it).

We’re moving right along with karaoke and on comes “1000 miles” by Vanessa Carlton. We all know this song! This excitement is now thrown out of the window because the overly obnoxious host decides to scream,

Oh bitch! You chose the whitest song ever! This is White privilege right here!

Immediately, I’m slightly disgusted. I’ll get back into why this comment is literally vermin.

After he rants, and rants, and screams these same sentiments almost throughout the ENTIRE song, the poor patron singing takes his exit.

Next on the list is “Bye, Bye, Bye” by none other than NSYNC. Our Xenophobic host was partnering with an individual by the last name of Sanchez. Here is the next rant:

Bitch! Immigration! Immigration! Somebody find Sanchez! Immigration! Somebody call ICE!

If you are not bothered by the above statement, you need to challenge your understanding of cultural insensitivity and xenophobia and its effects.

Why did this White gay man feel as if he had the space to make “light” of experiences that he will never have. Why will he never have this experience? BECAUSE HE IS WHITE! BECAUSE HE IS WHITE! BECAUSE HE IS WHITE! BECAUSE HE IS WHITE!

People, it’s time to wake the fuck up. Some of y’all are in the period of in between snoozes. I need you to wake all the way up.

As a privileged person, especially being White, it is not your place, nor will it ever be your place to make light of oppressive situations all in the name of a fucking joke.

Language folx, creates space for thoughts. These thoughts create space for feelings. These feelings create space for perceptions. These perceptions create space for actions. Actions create the space for marginalizing people, wrongfully incarcerating them at alarming rates, allowing environments to not have clean water for years, allowing the homeless to freeze to death, allowing a seventeen-year-old’s murderer to walk free, the abrogation of DACA, the slaying of young immigrant children, and the shutdown of a government to build a gotdamn wall that literally has no benefit.

To you people who claim that everyone is “too sensitive,” wake your dumbass up.

To the Black people and other POC who uphold these ideologies, wake your dumbass up.

To the people who are offended by me insulting your disregard for human life, wake your dumbass up.

Sidenote: As this raging xenophobe cracked his “jokes,” the rest of us just looked at him.

The Black people and the other People of Color were just there for good karaoke. That’s it.

White Queer people, if you would like for everything to be “kumbaya” and all inclusive like claim it should be, stop saying dumb shit that reinforces a divide. No, I don’t have to assimilate to oppressive bullshit.

-A Fed Up Black Queer Man

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Trump Administration Cuts Protections for Transgender Americans



On Friday, the Trump administration announced it would be rolling back an Obama-era rule protecting transgender Americans from discrimination in health care. 

Under the Obama administration, Section 1557 of the Affordable Care Act expanded the definition of sex discrimination to include discrimination based on one’s gender identity. Under a revised version of the rule, the Department of Health and Human Services will enforce Section 1557 “by returning to the government’s interpretation of sex discrimination according to the plain meaning of the word ‘sex’ as male or female and as determined by biology” beginning in mid-August. In other words, doctors and insurance companies receiving funding from the Fed can legally refuse any patient needing transition-related medical care.

Of course, as quickly as the rule was finalized, many LGBTQ+ organizations including the ACLU,announced intentions to sue the Trump administration over this new language. “The Trump admin has issued a rule that will embolden health care discrimination against transgender people.. All while a global pandemic is occurring.” said the ACLU in a tweet. 

Forget a global pandemic, ACLU. Friday’s announcement came on the fourth anniversary of the Pulse nightclub tragedy, a mass shooting at a popular Florida gay nightclub that left 49 people and the shooter dead.

President Trump has made it clear how he feels about the nearly 1.4 million transgender people in this country, his fellow Americans – he doesn’t feel anything.



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Dwyane Wade Reveals 12-Year-Old Child Now Goes By Zaya




With all of the obstacles that exist within our society, it’s incredible to see 13-time NBA All-Star and former player, Dwyane Wade and his wife Gabrielle Union empowering their pre-teen, Zaya, to live her truth.

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Wade recently appeared on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” to promote the upcoming ESPN documentary D Wade: Life Unexpected. Following a clip from the documentary, he shared that his middle child, formerly known as Zion, now identifies as “her” and goes by the name Zaya. 

As DeGeneres praised him for his support of Zaya, Wade replied, “Me and my wife Gabrielle Union are proud parents of a child in the LGBTQ+ community. And we are proud allies as well. We take our roles and our responsibility as parents very seriously.”

He went on to share that Zaya expressed her desire to live her truth at 9-years-old. “I don’t know if everyone knows, originally named Zion, born as a boy — came home and said, ‘Hey, I want to talk to you guys. I think going forward I’m ready to live my truth. I want to be referenced as she and her, I would love for you guys to call me Zaya,” he explained.

Immediately the parents began to educate themselves and seek advice from members of the LGBTQ+ community, Union reaching out to the cast of the popular FX series, Pose. For Wade, it’s all about giving her “the best opportunity to be her best self” while preparing her to live life openly.

According to Wade, “Once Zaya came home and said, ‘I want you to call me Zaya and I’m ready to take on this,’ I looked at her and said, ‘You are a leader. And this is our opportunity to allow you to be a voice.’ Right now it’s through us, because she’s 12 years old, but eventually, it will be through her.”

For more on his journey post-career and as the father of an openly gay pre-teen, tune in to D Wade: Life Unexpected. The ESPN documentary airs Sunday, February 23rd. 



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Welcome to Uncle Tom’s Haus of Koonery




So in light of the great news of President Trump getting impeached. I was sent an article from a few twitter mutuals of an interview done by Mikelle Street interviewing everyone’s favorite problematic porn star Max Konner. I knew at that moment I would not receive any peace this week. The article at hand denoted that Konner was beginning his own talent agency for people of color. I did a double-take, but I been on this earth long enough to know a stunt when I see one. In the article, Konnor mentioned the need for porn actors of color needing proper tutelage and education before entering the pornography industry. Which I do agree with, but we also know that seeing the phrasing “people of color” does not mean black people and why would Konner exclusively help his own people? He wouldn’t, but that’s been made very clear that he has no intention of helping the Black LGBTQIA+ community after his behavior during the PR nightmare which and is still

Noir Male

I have to be honest that I found the interview to be amazing and at minimal a cross-examination of Konner’s work history, work ethics, and very sorted and messy racially insensitive history. Konner acknowledges that there will be criteria for all those that apply to join the slaveshi-, sorry the Haus of Konner. 

He says in the article:

“Right now we have three exclusives: Derek ClineJabari Clutch, and Asher Lee. I have a bunch of other submissions but I’m taking my time to go through everything because it is a boutique talent management company. I am not just accepting everybody that applies. I’m trying to pick models who I feel like have what it takes to make it.”

Now, what this statement could subversively say so many things. Firstly, Jabari is the only black presenting model. Derek is racially ambiguous and Asher is Asian. Even in the first stride of selection, there is only one Black person in the mix (pun intended). Secondly, “boutique talent management company” is reading as “no fats, no fem” because knowing the shortness of sight that Konner has he may only present body boys and cis actors that are racially palatable.

Mr. Street follows up with the question:

“The release says that you all are prioritizing “models of color.” Are you referencing all models of color, specifically Black models, or will it be all models with an emphasis on models of color?”

Konner responds with:

“As of right now we are looking at all models of color. I’m trying to decide if I want to have one or two models that don’t necessarily fit that because in doing this I don’t want to become the problem that I’m trying to fight. There are so many avenues and so many arenas where we as models of color are shut down or shut out because of the color of our skin, and I don’t want this to be a thing where we say: OK it’s all models of color and anyone who is not that, get out. So I’m still toying around that, but right now we are exclusively models of color.”

My thoughts are that this is basically saying that “I’m gonna have some good ole boys in the club because I don’t want massa upset with me none.” I’m just saying. Rather than doing the right and altruistic thing and doing an all-black agency. Konner is going to appease the comfort of his white fan base in spite of the fact his black fan base was there for him when he was the porn actor Isaiah Foxx. Which if anything he owes that little boy the world because Konner is fully aware and present on the issues that BLACK porn actors face and what Isaiah a black bottom porn actor felt.

The thing that is further disturbing in the article is when Konnor says this:

“I do plan to send models from Haus of Konnor over to Noir Male but one of my big things is: if I send a model to a studio there’s agreement between me and that studio that nothing that has to do with that model’s race or nothing pertaining to the “BBC experience” is what that model is participating in. I’ve been on jobs where I’ve had no clue what I’ve been working on and then the movies come out and it’s like ‘Oh god!’”

This sounds very historically familiar. So during the slave trade, the Caribbean Islands was used as a large space for sex farms for slaves and “buck breaking”. 

Noted on

“These male slaves were purchase based entirely on the prerequisite of them possessing a large penis. Black men were routinely raped by their gay slave owners. The process was known as “breaking the buck.”

It involves a strapping Negro slave, who was defiant, was beaten with a whip till bloody in front of his entire slave congregation. The slave owner would cut down a tree and, with the help of the overseer, would then pummel the deviant “buck” into submission. Once the slave was worn down, the master had the other Negro slaves force him over the tree stump where his britches would be removed and he laid fully exposed buttocks, he would remove his own clothing and proceeded to savagely sodomize the buck in front his wife, family, friends, and children.”

Konnor is basically handing these gentlemen over to a problematic porn company ran by the also very racially problematic DJ Chi Chi LaRue. After the debacle with PrEP/U=U advocate, #TakedownTina activist, and now amateur porn actor Jacen Zhu. He stepped away from the company for their purposeful mishandling of race in the studio. We can not trust that Konner will have good intentions.

So let’s be clear. Is there a race issue in gay porn? Absolutely.

Should there be a space cultivated for porn actors of color to get jobs and to be treated fairly? Yes ma’am.

Should there be a space cultivated for black porn actors of color to get jobs and to be treated fairly? Yes sir!

Should Konner be the one doing it? No, not at this juncture and especially around his limited education on race.

Konnor has clearly acknowledged that there is a problem, which is good for him I guess. I just understand that there needs to be more work done to supplant footing for black LGBTQIA+ porn actors of all genders and body types and this attempt is half-cocked, lazy, and wildly remedial. He participating in the same foolish stunting that Noir Male did as well at their inception.



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