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Are you single and confused and you don’t know why? Chile I feel your pain and I have been feeling like that for some years now but why? Why are some of us single? Well, I’m not going to spill all my tea in a blog with relationship issues I have. However, I will describe some of the f*ck boys of which I’ve encountered. These men don’t necessarily have to be gay, straight or bisexual they are all the same trust me.

There are several types but let’s start with these recent ones that irk my nerves.

1.” I’m not sure what I want I mean we’ve been talking and I like all the attention but not imagea relationship.” Have you ever heard or felt this from someone you’ve dated? They want all the things that come with commitment but not the actual title. Scared of commitment or just don’t wanna be tied down you name it. The mention of a future of anything is quickly turned into “We’re moving too fast.” Even if you’ve been dating for 6 months lol

They’re good with you spending time, money and energy poochin’ around town with them for months. They can’t make up their mind if they want a relationship or even one in the future. Well, let me tell you something. I don’t like wasting my damn money and time on someone who doesn’t know what the hell they want. If you don’t want a relationship just say that so I can save my Red Lobster gift card for somebody who deserves it!


2. The first date went well! You even sent him a special picture or two and the communication is A1! You’ve been dating for a couple of months and you don’t like getting off the phone with him. They’ve spent the night and you probably fooled around but nothing serious. We wanna hold out for the good until the time is right. Then BOOM! They get ghost on your ass! You specifically didn’t imagefollow them on social media because we’ve made that mistake with guy #1 so we’re trying to learn from our mistakes. You finally go to his Instagram and there you have it he’s in a relationship or exclusively with somebody else.

Ain’t you mad as hell? Oh, it gets worse when you go through the tweets and Facebook statuses to find out that the friend he was hanging with was the main boo all along. It kills you because you don’t know if you’re not attractive enough or entertaining. You wanna go like one of the pics of him with him and the bae to be petty. Don’t. Let them be. More than likely they let him move in within a month on some tricking off ish. Something we are not willing to do.


3.”Wyd? Nothing. Chillin. At home.Wyd? Wyd?” GO AWAY FROM ME WITH THIS! Sexy as hell. No dates yet just sleep overs. Netflix and chill type teas. You’re imagecool with that cause he’s cute and you let him slide with more than others get away with. He’s not asked you out on a date and you haven’t either. You’re scared you might scare him away. The fact that he’s extremely attractive has trumped your logical thinking. He’s not that bad of a guy but you don’t see yourself in a relationship with him. The chemistry is just not  there and his communication is shit.

That’s why he justs comes over to chill. Both of  you have iPhones but you’ve never Facetimed him because you know the conversation will last 3 minutes max. The conversation is good only when you’re in the bed together. You’re not completely sure what you’ve gotten yourself into and not sure if you want it to end. What do you do? Chile I don’t know but I’m about to call him now since it’s raining. Bye Girl!!


More to come in the future. Stay tuned…





  1. Kierra

    March 14, 2016 at 9:33 am

    I’ve had experience with fuck boy #1… Chile I was such a fool I thought he just needed some time

  2. Dia

    March 15, 2016 at 11:48 am

    Bruh!!!!! Are you kidding Me ….did you peek into my life justin….that number three tho….NUMBER FUCKING THREE LOL

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      Justin J

      March 15, 2016 at 1:16 pm

      lol baby i’ve been dealing with men way too long

  3. Dazajnae

    March 15, 2016 at 4:55 pm

    I’m currently dealing with fuck boy #3 and baby when I tell you he is killing me softly with his words , I literally have no idea what to do . He’s Really attractive but the communication is just simply not there.

  4. Asia

    March 16, 2016 at 3:35 pm

    lol too funny and on point

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Bey Ain’t Slick




The opinions expressed in this publication are those of Rafael Roden.


For far too long we’ve been giving her passes and today I say enough is enough. People are literally afraid to write about this shit because of the inevitable blowback from people who worship Beyoncé like white Brits worship their actual Queen monarch. So here goes…

Beyoncé is not above criticism. That’s the first thing. I understand the stance many Black people take when another Black person casts an unflattering light on your favorite Artist or celebrity, but not all of it is hating. A lot of it is warranted. And every charge I make in this article is coming from a major fan and someone who used to wanna collaborate with the woman. Understand that I have bias, but that’s not making me not wanna hold Beyoncé accountable for her trash ass actions as of late and the precedent it sets for aspiring “bosses”. And just know she ain’t the only member of the upper echelon guilty of this shit. I’mma take shots at a few other entertainment giants, just you wait.

What set this think piece I didn’t wanna find myself writing into motion was the information stirring around that Mrs. “of course sometimes shit go down when it’s a billion dollars on an elevator” is only paying her dancers and other various performance staff $250 a day without benefits when they are performing at the highest level in the world. I’m even flattering her in my critique so please uncock your pistols. I have caught up on all the tea and these claims are supported by many of the lead performers and solidarity exists within that community. It’s hard to substantiate every last bit of wrong in this whole ordeal, but that’s the crux of the situation. Take me at my word cause there are receipts for days.

Added this because apparently I can’t be trusted with my word.

Moving back retroactively to the Shawn Carter Foundation Gala (which is where that tacky ass clutch in the picture is from) we find our favorite vocal angel arm & arm with her sell out husband Jay Z (NFL partnership, nuff said) who gave out Rolex and bottles of champagne as invitations to a room full of people worth billions of dollars who only raised $6 million. That’s just stingy. But that’s been written about enough. I just think it’s crazy who get’s in these rooms in the name of seeming to authenticly coming from nothing. Like Fabolous. You know the dude that head butt his then girlfriend and knocked her teeth out? Not Beyoncé’s fault, hell no, but why are abusers around a self proclaimed Feminist? Why are you letting your man invite him? Why did Rihanna try and normalize him at her last few events (which I find quite disgusting considering her history)? The answer is money and optics. The message comes off as “rich black men who are seen as legendary can make the mistake of domestic violence and still deserve A Seat At The Table” (see also Nas who beat Kelis). I just can’t square these conflicts of interest. I need somebody to make it make sense. Because remember, birds of a feather flock together. Beyonce blink twice if you need help. I’m fucking serious. He cheated, who knows if there’s a domestic violence story in there. I don’t put shit past no man at this point. It’s also part of the reason why I stopped identifying as such.

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Welcome to Uncle Tom’s Haus of Koonery




So in light of the great news of President Trump getting impeached. I was sent an article from a few twitter mutuals of an interview done by Mikelle Street interviewing everyone’s favorite problematic porn star Max Konner. I knew at that moment I would not receive any peace this week. The article at hand denoted that Konner was beginning his own talent agency for people of color. I did a double-take, but I been on this earth long enough to know a stunt when I see one. In the article, Konnor mentioned the need for porn actors of color needing proper tutelage and education before entering the pornography industry. Which I do agree with, but we also know that seeing the phrasing “people of color” does not mean black people and why would Konner exclusively help his own people? He wouldn’t, but that’s been made very clear that he has no intention of helping the Black LGBTQIA+ community after his behavior during the PR nightmare which and is still

Noir Male

I have to be honest that I found the interview to be amazing and at minimal a cross-examination of Konner’s work history, work ethics, and very sorted and messy racially insensitive history. Konner acknowledges that there will be criteria for all those that apply to join the slaveshi-, sorry the Haus of Konner. 

He says in the article:

“Right now we have three exclusives: Derek ClineJabari Clutch, and Asher Lee. I have a bunch of other submissions but I’m taking my time to go through everything because it is a boutique talent management company. I am not just accepting everybody that applies. I’m trying to pick models who I feel like have what it takes to make it.”

Now, what this statement could subversively say so many things. Firstly, Jabari is the only black presenting model. Derek is racially ambiguous and Asher is Asian. Even in the first stride of selection, there is only one Black person in the mix (pun intended). Secondly, “boutique talent management company” is reading as “no fats, no fem” because knowing the shortness of sight that Konner has he may only present body boys and cis actors that are racially palatable.

Mr. Street follows up with the question:

“The release says that you all are prioritizing “models of color.” Are you referencing all models of color, specifically Black models, or will it be all models with an emphasis on models of color?”

Konner responds with:

“As of right now we are looking at all models of color. I’m trying to decide if I want to have one or two models that don’t necessarily fit that because in doing this I don’t want to become the problem that I’m trying to fight. There are so many avenues and so many arenas where we as models of color are shut down or shut out because of the color of our skin, and I don’t want this to be a thing where we say: OK it’s all models of color and anyone who is not that, get out. So I’m still toying around that, but right now we are exclusively models of color.”

My thoughts are that this is basically saying that “I’m gonna have some good ole boys in the club because I don’t want massa upset with me none.” I’m just saying. Rather than doing the right and altruistic thing and doing an all-black agency. Konner is going to appease the comfort of his white fan base in spite of the fact his black fan base was there for him when he was the porn actor Isaiah Foxx. Which if anything he owes that little boy the world because Konner is fully aware and present on the issues that BLACK porn actors face and what Isaiah a black bottom porn actor felt.

The thing that is further disturbing in the article is when Konnor says this:

“I do plan to send models from Haus of Konnor over to Noir Male but one of my big things is: if I send a model to a studio there’s agreement between me and that studio that nothing that has to do with that model’s race or nothing pertaining to the “BBC experience” is what that model is participating in. I’ve been on jobs where I’ve had no clue what I’ve been working on and then the movies come out and it’s like ‘Oh god!’”

This sounds very historically familiar. So during the slave trade, the Caribbean Islands was used as a large space for sex farms for slaves and “buck breaking”. 

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“These male slaves were purchase based entirely on the prerequisite of them possessing a large penis. Black men were routinely raped by their gay slave owners. The process was known as “breaking the buck.”

It involves a strapping Negro slave, who was defiant, was beaten with a whip till bloody in front of his entire slave congregation. The slave owner would cut down a tree and, with the help of the overseer, would then pummel the deviant “buck” into submission. Once the slave was worn down, the master had the other Negro slaves force him over the tree stump where his britches would be removed and he laid fully exposed buttocks, he would remove his own clothing and proceeded to savagely sodomize the buck in front his wife, family, friends, and children.”

Konnor is basically handing these gentlemen over to a problematic porn company ran by the also very racially problematic DJ Chi Chi LaRue. After the debacle with PrEP/U=U advocate, #TakedownTina activist, and now amateur porn actor Jacen Zhu. He stepped away from the company for their purposeful mishandling of race in the studio. We can not trust that Konner will have good intentions.

So let’s be clear. Is there a race issue in gay porn? Absolutely.

Should there be a space cultivated for porn actors of color to get jobs and to be treated fairly? Yes ma’am.

Should there be a space cultivated for black porn actors of color to get jobs and to be treated fairly? Yes sir!

Should Konner be the one doing it? No, not at this juncture and especially around his limited education on race.

Konnor has clearly acknowledged that there is a problem, which is good for him I guess. I just understand that there needs to be more work done to supplant footing for black LGBTQIA+ porn actors of all genders and body types and this attempt is half-cocked, lazy, and wildly remedial. He participating in the same foolish stunting that Noir Male did as well at their inception.



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