Ambition. Driven. Educated. Self-sufficient. Goal oriented.
These are all strong attributes that people desire in a mate. Female. Wait a second. A woman who has ambition, driven, educated, self-sufficient, and goal oriented does not all come to mind as a great mate. A woman needs to be pretty and not knowledgeable. She needs to be domestic and not ambitious. She needs to be exciting and not driven. She needs to be dependent and not goal oriented and self-sufficient.
“If a woman is not pretty, domestic, dependent, or exciting, then how can she ever marry and stay married?”
As a woman who is ambitious, driven, educated, and self-sufficient, it was hard to date and it was hard for a man to stay with me. I have been cheated on and I have put my career before my family. Yet, my career was important to my family and myself.
We have seen so many men on these reality television shows cheat on their wives and girlfriends with little regard for their commitment. We have witnessed them cheating on camera and off camera without understanding that behind the cameras are real people. I am sure that you, and I have done it as well, tweeted and updated your Facebook status about how wrong these men are. I have never thought it was okay to talk about how stupid or dumb the women are for staying, but in the midst of another cheating scandal being just another Sunday on whatever TV network, it was stunning to see Dr. Jackie experience her husband cheating.
Dr. Jackie from Married to Medicine is an extremely ambitious woman. She is ambitious in so many facets of her career that it is stunning how much she does work. In many cases, her cast mates needed to go to her office for lunch just to see her. She said that since the show, there has been a surge in her business, so why walk away since she is finally reaching where she wants to be? Excellent question.
We all watched how her husband was making large decisions to not be around. He decided to not go on the couple’s trip during the last season, which left Jackie all alone on a couple’s trip. He cared less if he embarrassed her or hurt her feelings then, so why are we surprised that he would openly take trips and cheat on his high school coaching salary? I shouldn’t be surprised, but boy am I hurt her.
Dr. Jackie represents women who are ambitious, driven, educated, and self-sufficient. It is clear that she does not need her husband Curtis. She just loved him. The question is now, why does she, or us, women have to give up our ambition in order to have a healthy, faithful marriage? My feminist hat says that you don’t have to give it up. But my reality is that you must temper your ambition and drive to be married. It isn’t fair that women have to make such a large sacrifice in marriage. Curtis is wrong, but Mrs. Jackie would have stayed faithful. Yet, Curtis, as many men do, they justify their cheating with the lack of attention and commitment women have to them in their careers.
“Marriage is not a solo project. But, at times, it feels like a solo project.”
Chrissy Teigen and John Legend Share News of the Loss of Their Unborn Child
Early Thursday morning Chrissy Teigen and John Legend let the world know of the loss of their unborn child. In a heartfelt and heartbreaking post to social media, Teigen described her and husband John Legend’s “deep pain you only hear about.” She went on to talk about how the couple does not typically name their children “until the last possible moment after they’re born, just before (they) leave the hospital,” but somehow they fell on the name “Jack.”
The heartbreaking news comes just days after first being admitted to the hospital for what she described as heavy bleeding. However, two days ago, she assured fans that both her and baby were healthy and doing well. Teigen, no stranger to social media, continued to engage her following, giving brief updates along the way, when shortly after midnight she shared photos of her and John in the hospital cradling their newborn in the immediate aftermath.
While her husband has remained largely unproblematic and scandal-free, Teigen has been the frequent target of scathing criticism – much of which is completely valid. From her ridiculing Black hair, to her seemingly mocking intimate partner violence when she referenced Megan Thee Stallion and Tory Lanez’s incident, Chrissy Teigen has been the focus of such harsh vitriol that she has threatened to quit social media altogether on multiple occasions. Sharing such personal news with the world may come as a surprise to many.
Overwhelmingly, however, the internet’s response has been positive and embracing. Celebrities and non-celebs alike have offered words of support to the couple as they go through this difficult time. See both the model’s post and the heartwarming responses to it below.
Chadwick Boseman Passes Away At 43
Actor Chadwick Boseman, best known for his role as King T’Challa in the box office smash “Black Panther” passed away from colon cancer Friday.
The actor was first diagnosed with stage 3 cancer in 2016, but remained active in his career with much of his work being released post-diagnosis. A statement from his family confirmed that he continued to work despite his cancer progressing, befitting a man who brought America’s first Black superhero to the silver screen.
As the news of the actor’s death spread, many took to social media to share their condolences.
The tributes continue to flood in as news of his passing continues to ripple through. Read the official statement from his family below.
“It is with immeasurable grief that we confirm the passing of Chadwick Boseman.
Chadwick was diagnosed with stage III colon cancer in 2016, and battled with it these last 4 years as it progressed to stage IV.
A true fighter, Chadwick persevered through it all, and brought you many of the films you have come to love so much. From Marshall to Da 5 Bloods, August Wilson’s Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom and several more, all were filmed during and between countless surgeries and chemotherapy.
It was the honor of his career to bring King T’Challa to life in Black Panther.
He died in his home, with his wife and family by his side.
The family thanks you for your love and prayers, and asks that you continue to respect their privacy during this difficult time.”
When White Privilege Isn’t Enough to Get Into USC: Lori Loughlin Sentenced to 2 Months in Prison
Actress Lori Loughlin was sentenced to two months in prison today for her role in the college admissions scandal. If you haven’t followed the 10-month-long saga, Loughlin and her husband Mossimo Giannulli, a fashion designer, plead not guilty to a bribery charge in a college admission scam back in 2019… Because white privilege just isn’t what it used to be.
The two later plead guilty to paying William Rick Singer, the mastermind, $500,000 to guarantee their two daughters a spot at the University of South Carolina.
Loughlin’s sentence came several hours after her husband’s five-month sentence. According to the US Attorney for the District of Massachusetts, Giannulli’s five-month sentence also came with a whopping fine of $250,000 and 250 hours of community service.
“[Giannulli] engaged more frequently with Singer, directed the bribe payments to USC and Singer, and personally confronted his daughter’s high school counselor to prevent the scheme from being discovered, brazenly lying about his daughter’s athletic abilities,” US Attorney Andrew Lelling of Massachusetts said in the memo released on Tuesday. “Loughlin took a less active role, but was nonetheless fully complicit, eagerly enlisting Singer for a second time for her younger daughter, and coaching her daughter not to ‘say too much’ to her high school’s legitimate college counselor, lest he caught on to their [fradulent activity].