Last week news broke of Coach John of Infamous Dancerettes was charged with criminal exposure to HIV, soliciting sexual exploitation of a minor and statutory rape by an authority figure.
Rumors were that of one of the possible victims may have been one of his male dancers of his team. The allegations were serious and some of the information being put out wasn’t adding up.
One of the victims who is not on the team and is not a minor spoke with me about his relationship with Coach John. Our conversation carried on for more than 30 minutes. The victim discussed his disappointment with John and how his life has changed since testing positive for HIV earlier this year. He also says he was the first person to press charges on John Conner III and almost didn’t.
He wanted to share his story to educate queer black men and others so situations like these don’t happen as often. He only asks that his name and personal information is not shared. I agreed.
How did you and John first meet?
“We met on Facebook. I reached out to him towards the end of last year (2015) him it was nothing serious it was just talking online. At the end of February, I told him that ‘I got to come visit you one day’ and he was like ‘that’s ok that’s cool’. I ended up taking a day off work and went out there and got a hotel room.”
Before you all had sex, did you ask John about his HIV status or did the conversation of STDs or HIV come up?
“No, I didn’t because in my mind at the time I didn’t think it would get to that. I didn’t think we were going to have sex. I thought we were just going to hang out. He woke me up around 4am and we had sex.”
What made you get tested for HIV after having sex with John?
“It was a big blow up on Facebook and I found out that he was trying to talk back to his ex. His ex contacted me through Facebook and told me to call him. He was telling me how John was trying to get back with him. I told him I was just out there last week and we had been having sex unprotected. He was like he told me last year that he was HIV positive. So after everything he told me that I didn’t want to talk to him anymore. So I asked him what was this all about him being HIV positive and he just took a deep breath and kind of avoided the question.”
The victim said he had been feeling sick before having a conversation with the ex about John being HIV positive but wasn’t sure if it was just because of the weather change. However, after the conversation with the ex, he decided to get tested. He googled some of the symptoms and was having most of them.
A trip to the Dr. showed a positive test result for HIV. The victim tells me he tested positive in May (2016) and filed charges later that month. Before making the appointment the victim said he made several attempts to ask John was there something that he needed to tell him before he got tested. He also provided screenshots of that conversation.
Screenshots of the story of about him visiting Coach John were also provided from his messages through Facebook.
One of the main reasons for the victim being hesitant about going forward to press charges was that he didn’t think people were going to believe him. Throughout Facebook and other social media, you could hear “LIES” and “Somebody lying on him” throughout the comment sections. Many would blame the victim before hearing their side of the story.
I could hear responsibility in his voice when we talked. He knows that he should have protected himself while he was having sex with John. This is a lesson we all can take. Never put your life in the hands of someone else. It is both sexual partners job to have a conversation about sex before having it. Talk about HIV, STDs and previous sexual partners with him or her. No one should feel ashamed for wanting to know or if someone asks them. The more we get comfortable talking about sex & HIV the faster we can end the stigma. And by ending the stigma we can truly begin to end HIV.
John posted on his Facebook that he was undetectable which some were questioning.
What was his response when you told him that you were HIV positive?
“When I was at the doctor. I found out instantly. I called him crying and he told me to stop crying. He said he was crying ’cause he was at work at the time. He was like ‘call me when you leave’. So when I left, he went ahead and told me everything. He said he knew he had HIV at the time and he thought he was undetectable and ‘I didn’t think you could catch it’. I told him ‘why didn’t you just tell me we could have both made sure we used condoms’. I knew it was partially my fault but [he] knew you had it.”
Do you think John was undetectable?
(Essentially, ‘undetectable’ refers to when an HIV-positive person has a negative result on a blood test. This can only happen when they consistently take their prescribed antiretroviral medication. When someone is undetectable–only a doctor can provide this information–they are much less likely to pass on HIV to another partner.)
“When we used to hang out all day, not once did I see him take medication or sneak off to take medication. There was no indication that he was on medication.”
What made you file charges?
“[…]He didn’t want me to tell my mother. My mother is like my best friend. I ended up telling her. My family and stuff that knew said that he needed to pay for this. It could’ve been more than just me. And it’s a total of 4 people that I was told by my detective.”
Are you on medication?
“Yes, I started taking medication in August and I’m now undetectable. I have family and friends who are supporting me through this time.”
John is still in jail and his charges have now jumped from 2 criminal exposure HIV charges to now three. His court day was today. No word yet on how the trial went but I will be sure to update as the story develops.
The victim discussed with me that he was the first one to file charges and that after he did, the 17-year-old victim filed in the month of August. The case is still developing.
A video interview is in the works with the victim. As he said he would like to talk more in detail. What are some of the questions you would ask him? Let me know in the comment section below.
Rolling Ray Undergoes Surgery After Wig Catches On Fire
Social media star Rolling Ray underwent surgery Tuesday morning to treat serious burns on his body after his terrible wig accident last week.
In a series of IG stories, he let his audience follow along as he prepped for surgery.
Last week Rolling Ray announced he was hospitalized after his wig caught on fire! During a January 13 Instagram Live session hosted straight from his hospital bedside, he showed his severely burnt and damaged face telling viewers his “whole skin, legs, arms, feet, and everything” were burned.
In a more recent Live, Ray explained the incident that led to his whole wig catching on fire: an unfortunate smoking accident. “It just, like, lit on fire when I tried to light the cigarette,” he recounted. “So I get to trying to snatch the wig off. B***h, the fire goes to my f*****g shirt, to my feet, to my legs, to my back. It’s a fire everywhere, it’s a fire in the whole room.”
Of course the internet trolled him in a disgusting display of ableism and heartlessness. Comments like “Rolling Ray should have stopped, dropped, and rolled” and “karma’s a b***h” had social media conflicted in its feelings about his accident. His sensation comes from his harsh and, often, below-the-belt reads (just last month he told Yung Miami to “dig (sic) up” her dead baby father. However, the criticism didn’t stop him from responding on Twitter.
Rolling Ray might be problematic as all get-out, but we do not tolerate ableism here. We wish him well as he heals.
Fantasia Reveals Gender of Baby On the Way!
On Tuesday singer-songwriter and “American Idol” winner Fantasia Barrino took to social media to reveal that she is having a baby girl, her first child with husband Kendall Taylor.
In a series of Instagram stories, Fantasia showed pink fireworks being shot off during a gender reveal party, to her and her hubby’s excitement! She continued by sharing what her daughter-to-be’s name will be: Keziah London Taylor.
The news comes after the couple revealed they had struggled to conceive since their 2015 marriage. During a November episode of her IG Live show “Taylor Talks,” she described continuously praying for a child with her husband. Fantasia, a deeply devout Christian, was obviously elated when she shared the news.
“God I Want To Thank You!” she said in an Instagram caption. “You Gave Us A Seed even when the Doctor said that one of my Tubes [was] Closed you said Different. @salute1st I Love You King and I can’t wait to see who He or She acts Like.”
We can see Fantasia and family are all super excited to be welcoming a baby girl into their lives. All congratulations to her.
Kim Kardashian and Kanye West Are Getting Divorced, Report Says
In a story published Tuesday evening, Page Six is reporting that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are getting divorced, with the two already in settlement talks. The news comes after the couple spent the holiday season separately – Kanye at his ranch outside Cody, Wyoming, Kim and the kids with her famous family in southern California.
A source close to Kardashian was quoted saying, “Kim got Kanye to go up there so they could live separate lives and quietly get things sorted out to separate and divorce. She’s done.” Kardashian, 40, and West, 43, are said to be splitting because of marital problems directly related to Kanye’s very public mental health struggles.
For several years the rapper’s various antics have caused fans to worry. After coming out as a Trump supporter, West then announced his own 2020 presidential bid under a new political party: the Birthday Party. At a campaign rally in South Carolina, he was seen rambling, debating individual audience members, and at times, crying. In various interviews, he has rambled on almost incoherently, and his tweetstorms are now infamous.
For her part, Kim has always supported her husband and has openly discussed the difficulties of their marriage. Back in June, she shared on social media, “Anyone who has [bipolar disorder] or has a loved one in their life who does, knows how incredibly complicated and painful it is to understand… People who are unaware or far removed from this experience can be judgmental and not understand that the individual (has) to engage in the process of getting help no matter how hard family and friends try.”
It appears she has finally reached her limit in the union with the unnamed source saying, “She is serious about taking the bar exam and becoming a lawyer, she is serious about her prison reform campaign. Meanwhile Kanye is talking about running for president and saying other crazy s**t, and she’s just had enough of it.”
Separately, a source close to Kanye alleges the rapper is sick of his wife and her family, which might have some truth to it since he has tweeted some pretty nasty things about them in the past. “I been trying to get divorced since Kim met with Meek at the Warldolf [sic] for ‘prison reform,’” he said in a now-deleted July tweet. Recently, he hasn’t been featured on his wife’s Instagram and has largely remained out of the public eye.
With the news yet to be confirmed, the “divorce is imminent” reports are just rumors for now. We’ll be following the news as more information comes out.