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Canceling Cancel Culture

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I can no longer keep track of who I should not be supporting. Nearly every week, we are canceling someone for some transgression, and frankly, I am officially over it. And, I’m over it because nobody ever really gets canceled. Robert Kelly is still out here prospering; Lil Duval is still…lil duval-ing; Linnethia Leakes is on my television every week; and, Azalea Banks makes it to the homepage of your favorite blogs at least once a month.

By now, I feel like we, collectively, know that canceling people doesn’t change their problematic views, so why do we still participate in it?

It’s entertaining. I’ll admit, I have spent many a glorious afternoon reading Twitter thread after Twitter thread aimed at dragging someone (who usually absolutely deserves it) by their flimsy edges. After all, how could they be so stupid to say all their real thoughts and feelings aloud? Don’t they know how social media works by now?

The problem with canceling people is that we don’t leave room for them to grow. Yes, we are super-woke right now, and we have all these new, super-woke terms in our everyday lexicon. Yet, despite what Beyoncé says, we, in fact, did not wake up like this. If I were a betting woman, I would bet that a good number of us grew up in conservative, religious-based households where the notion of respectability was bred into our being because our parents thought it would save us from the injustices they endured. And you know what this actually bred in us — sexism, colorism, classism, misogyny, homophobia, transphobia and all those other bigotries. It takes years and years and years of living and reading and listening and interacting with other people to start dismantling some of this.

And, when we cancel people, most people don’t respond with head down and tail tucked; instead, they double-down in their bigotry which only prolongs the awakening. So, what really comes from all this canceling? Does any policy change? Does it make women and transwomen safer? Does it make sure poor Black and Brown children aren’t bundled up in classrooms with no heat during dangerously cold weather?

And that’s not to say that sometimes this internet fury doesn’t work. I fully believe @ReignofApril’s #OscarsSoWhite hashtag pushed representation in the film in the right direction. Plus, the consistent dragging of Lena Dunham by Black women just makes my heart soar every time, so I definitely don’t want that to change. However, I recognize that beyond some entertainment value, cancel culture is more performative and harmful than anything else. For a community that is constantly pushing against the stereotype of monolithism, canceling people sure feels a lot like…monolithism.

Yes, some people do need to be canceled – William Henry Cosby is at the top of the list. But then I think about Gabby Douglas, whose comments about her teammate’s sexual assault were unequivocally wrong, however, the calls for her cancellation felt premature and well…wrong too. The girl is 22 years old and as it would happen, a victim herself (allegedly). Doesn’t she deserve just a little grace?

Let’s call cancel culture what it really is: it is our way — the marginalized, the invisible, the silenced, the powerless — to exert some control over a world that is increasingly becoming more dangerous and less tolerant. It is a performance of a power that really doesn’t exist.

So, I implore you, before you reach for your device and join in on canceling the next problematic fave, think about who you used to be and remember the next person to be canceled could be you.

 

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Nicki’s Barbs versus Bardi Gang: Motorsport Receipts

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There’s a trail of failed mainstream rap careers and they all end with some level of disrespect that tarnished an up-and-comer’s reputation, resulting in an industry blackball. That could have easily been Cardi if Nicki was really *that* girl. Everyone thought Nicki was bluffing when she spoke out about being forced to rewrite her verse for Motorsport, but it has now been proven to be true.

The importance of being earnest in the entertainment industry is imperative for newcomers, especially for someone whose career has skyrocketed as quickly as Cardi B’s. While many gather to celebrate her success, there are some who believe that she has not given credit where it is due, something many once believed Nicki was notorious for. In an almost karmic twist, now it is Nicki who has been snubbed in favor of a new flavor, adding prudence to the proverb “The same people you see going up, you’ll see coming down.”

Feeling Attacked

Allegations of jealousy and relationship tension surrounding the collaboration and release of Motorsport in October 2017 have resurfaced, but now with receipts. Just as Nicki Minaj has returned from her social media hiatus with two new singles on #NickiDay, Cardi B’s phone has suffered a data breach and screenshots of texts between Offset and Cardi have corroborated Nicki’s claim that it was Cardi that forced her to change her verse. Knowing there isn’t a complete sentence between the two of them, those text messages were a messy read! Here’s a play by play of what was *allegedly* said between Cardi and Offset. In light of recent social media account deletions, I will not be posting screenshots. However, you can view them on Twitter and Insta.

He Said, She Said

Stating not so eloquently that she felt targeted by Nicki’s original lyrics, Cardi confided in her now fiancé that she spoke with her label, Atlantic, and they convinced her The Migos set her up for failure by adding Nicki to the track, setting her up to be the weaker female lyrically on the song. She didn’t understand why the verse was not immediately sent back for a rewrite, implying Offset thought there was no offense. Cardi was offended enough to ask for a rewrite but her management didn’t fully see eye to eye on the matter. They probably insisted she was taking things too personally.

To be perfectly honest, this entire situation wreaks of insecurity and is a whole hot mess, but I digress. Cardi went on to say her management understood she felt disrespected but complimented how well her verse was performed. Unamused, Cardi felt no one would care how good she sounded if she was being insulted on the track and hinted this was the type of instance that could end relationships. It was unclear if she was referring to Offset or her label. She even went so far as to say she didn’t want anyone to think her man was a traitor. Fearing she would really leave him over the issue, Offset asked Cardi to go back to her label and demand they “make that hoe take your name out of her mouth and clean that bitch up or it’s a dub”. Cardi expected financial restitution for the offense as well as a rewrite. I’m not sure if they cut an additional check, but we all know Nicki did end up changing her verse.

Do you all think it was fair of Cardi to demand Nicki rewrite her verse now that the original cut has made its way to YouTube?

 

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Mariah Carey Opens Up About Mental Health Struggle

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In the Black community there are several things that we refuse to discuss, one of which is mental health. The stigma surrounding mental concerns as being a “White problem” frequently keeps people within the Black community from coming forward and when they do, their concerns are met with criticism. We say things like “You’re just having a bad day,” or “Man up” while simultaneously encouraging one another to check on our strong friend. So which is it? We owe it to ourselves to talk about the dark cloud of depression, anxiety, PTSD, and more or we’re doing our community and ourselves disservice.

I lived in denial

Mental health can encompass many things and for Mariah Carey, it’s tackling her Bipolar II disorder. For those of us old enough to have witnessed the unedited moment firsthand on MTV’s TRL, Mariah Carey had a breakdown in front of adolescents in July of 2001. She entered the set dressed in an oversized T-shirt and pushing an ice cream cart, only to shed her clothes and pass out treats while eating a popsicle seductively. Carson Daly stood in awe, uncertain why she arrived as she rambled “You’re my therapy session right now, Carson. Every now and then somebody needs a little therapy, and today is that moment for me.” She would soon be treated for “exhaustion” shortly after the ordeal, all while being ridiculed during her absence. I empathized.

I thought it was a severe sleep disorder

In an interview with People magazine, Mariah laments, “I didn’t want to believe it.” She believed her mental disorder was career-ending and lived in fear of someone exposing her. Speaking from experience, it can be an unmanageable burden to suffer in silence with a mental disorder, diagnosed or not. It can ruin job opportunities, relationships, friendships, and cause irreparable rifts in families. I mean, no offense, but look at Azealia Banks. The girl is fully capable of writing a bop but her outbursts and history of controversy keep her career in the shadows instead of the spotlight. Even in the midst of recognizing she needs help, her fan base and detractors alike withhold empathy because of her mouth. While this article isn’t intended to critique the shift of empathy based on one’s status as legendary, I will say this. It is *mighty* strange how Azealia has been open about the need for discussion and acceptance of those struggling with mental health issues for a while, but people are collectively deciding that empathy ends where problematic begins and I think that’s counterproductive.

It can be incredibly isolating

Like many Black artists who have struggled publicly and privately with depression, Mariah Carey hopes we can reach a point where the stigma surrounding mental health issues in America is lifted. She’s reached a point of comfort allowing herself a moment of clarity to express she’s in a good place and encourages others to seek treatment. “It does not have to define you and I refuse to allow it to define me or control me.” I wholeheartedly agree.
For anyone who is suffering in silence and needs help, you can reach out to the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance at dbsalliance.org. If you would like support via text message, you can text HOME to 741741 and a Crisis Counselor will respond. If you need to talk, call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Hotlin

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Tristan “Third-Trimester” Thompson & Khloé Kardashian Cheating Timeline

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Tristan Thompson & Khloé Kardashian are having the most interesting week ever. News broke earlier this week of Tristan allegedly cheating on Khloé weeks before her due date. The first video of Tristan kissing up on a woman at an NYC nightclub leaked and now TMZ obtained video of him and the unidentified woman making their way into the Four Seasons.

 

TSR STAFF: Myeisha E.! @myeisha.essex ________________________________________ #Roommates, there’s more!!!! ________________________________________ So earlier today, video of Tristan at a NYC club leaked and you can see a girl all up in his grill. Well, #Roomies THE TEA RUNNETH OVER!!! We have exclusive footage of the two of them leaving the DAY party (where you saw her all up in his face) together and arriving back to his team HOTEL around 8:30pm on April 7th. He got there wearing a black Supreme jacket, and FOUR hours later, the pair reemerge from the hotel with Tristan changing his outfit for the next event. _______________________________________ Then they hopped into the same SUV and headed to Soho House (for the night party) in the Meatpacking district, which is a member’s only club with strict cellphone policy. Then at 5am, they returned to his hotel together AGAIN and he even held the door open for her like a gentleman. _______________________________________ The next day (April 8th), she was seen again leaving the hotel (while Tristan stayed behind in the hotel) around 8pm still wearing her exact same outfit as the night before. Sis even had an overnight bag in hand! 📷: Splash News #TSRExclusive

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Now reported surveillance video also obtained by TMZ shows Tristan kissing two women from back in October.

TMZ obtained this surveillance video recorded October 7, 2017 at a hookah lounge outside Washington D.C. You see Tristan with 3 women, 2 of whom are fully engaged with Khloe’s baby daddy.

Tristan makes out with one of the women, tongue and all. The other grabs his head, brings it to her chest and he motorboats her. And the same woman grabs his junk.

The video was recorded the night before the Cleveland Cavaliers played the Washington Wizards. via TMZ

The video doesn’t make it any better.

Amongst all of the mess, the mystery woman who accompanied Tristan to his hotel has allegedly been found. A screenshot of her on SnapChat throwing some massive shade has surfaced. Chile, this is too much.

NOT IMAN SIS!!!!

She wasn’t the only throwing subliminal shots. It seems Khloé’s bestie found a way to throw a jab at Tristan.

 

Page Six is reporting that Khloé went ballistic after finding out. The streets are saying you lose them how you found them. Apparently, Tristan Thompson has a thing for cheating on women during their third-trimester.

Should we believe all of the hype? Tristan had to be either bold or stupid or a mixture of the two. Where is Kris Jenner? Is this one of her schemes to come to us with a new spinoff show? I have questions when it comes to the Kardashian’s.

Khloé seems to have a thing for black basketball players and Tristan seems to have a thing for cheating on pregnant women. YIKES.

What do you think, is this a little Kardashian Karma? Are you caught up?

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