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Black Girls Aren’t Fast You’ve Just Been Taught to Sexualize Them

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     Last week, Traci Young-Byron, owner of the Young Contemporary Dance Theatre in Florida, posted a video of her amazingly talented dancers in action.  The video has since gone viral, and many comments have been posted in response to the video.

     But, the comments have not been supportive and many of them have been focused on the girls’ attire, rather than their talent. Attire that is standard in the dance world, mind you.

      Look at those fast ass girls

     “If these were my daughters, there’s no way in hell they’d come out looking like these little hoes!”

     “They’ll be strippers by the time they’re 19!”

     “Fast ass?” “Hoes?” Is this what we truly think of our girls?

 

??? #MNWGGIRLS #SupaBlackGirl #Melanin #MiamiNorthwesternSeniorHigh #MMB #DesignedByGodTouchedBySupa

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Unfortunately, this attitude towards Black girls runs rampant within our community. Click around social media and you will see dozens of disparaging comments about Black girls’ bodies and attire.  Our girls are not allowed to be free and to openly express themselves without being policed, sexualized, and criticized.  This greatly contributes to poor body image among Black girls

     As I have written previously for “Feminist Wednesday”:

“The harsh and constant policing of Black Girls’ bodies has led us to become ashamed of ourselves- ashamed of our bodies and our sexualities. Our larger hips, ample asses, and breasts are hypersexualized, and as a defense mechanism, we hide our sexual desires in order to repel this hypersexualization and judge others who choose not to. We label other women as “hos” and steer clear of them, still suffering from the fear of being labeled a “fast-tailed girl.” We quickly dismiss victims’ statements about their sexual assaults and instead run to the perpetrator’s defense. (Prime example: R.Kelly. Black women, men, and others STILL support him and his music.) The social acceptance of body-shaming, slut-shaming, and victim-blaming within Black culture has shown that our girls are not valued, with the statistics to prove it.”

     Our girls are suffering. Their creativity is being stifled and they are growing up with low self-esteem and sex-negative outlooks. But, we are ALL to blame.

Through our demonizing of our girls and coddling of abusers, we perpetuate rape culture regularly.

     If you’ve ever called a girl “fast” or “hot”, you’ve perpetuated rape culture.

     If you’ve ever called a girl a “hoe”, a “thot”, or a “hoe in training”, you’ve perpetuated rape culture.

     If you’ve ever forced your daughter to change clothes because her outfits “revealed too much”, you’ve perpetuated rape culture.

     If you’ve ever told your daughter to change clothes because a “certain” male family member was coming over, “you’ve perpetuated rape culture.

     If you’ve ever second-guessed an assault victim’s story or asked them “what they were wearing” when they were assaulted”, you’ve perpetuated rape culture. 

     If you’ve ever told a young woman to “leave something to the imagination”, you’ve perpetuated rape culture. (This is also a weak excuse because seriously- in most cases, you know basic human anatomy and you KNOW what’s under people’s clothes. How much more is there to imagine?)

     I implore you to check out my piece, “Fast-Tailed Girls, originally posted on Feminist Wednesday:

Fast Tailed Girls    

 

Let’s begin to educate ourselves and do better by our girls and our culture.

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The Diversity JUMPED out: Savage x Fenty Fashion Show Gave us all the Inclusion we Needed

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Last night Savage x Fenty by Rihanna ended New York Fashion Week with a bang! The lingerie brand had an array of women from different skin tones to body types. Rih wanted to show the world that ANYONE can wear Savage x Fenty and feel sexy. There were even pregnant models featured in the show. Yes, pregnant. Get into the models and event down below:

 

Rihanna is taking the fashion industry by storm. Let’s hope other fashion brands can follow suit.

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Lawrence Makes His Way Back to Insecure and Leaves Us SHOOK

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Lawrence must’ve had a seasonal positional at Best Buy because he is back but will he be in a full-time employee in Issa’s life?

Insecure delivered one of the most sickening episodes with “High-Like” episode 4, and not because they brought back breaking couch potato, Lawrence. It was the conversation about friendships and how things change. Dealing with real situations and how friends can all have something going on but also come to support one another. But for some of us seeing Lawrence made us wet and how us wondering why since we didn’t want to see him anymore.

The last 2 minutes as Issa walks in 7-Eleven after trying to assure Tiffany that things will be the same after she has her baby. Tiffany seems to be reluctant that it will be. Issa walks into the store to get some water and runs into Chad the Bluetooth wearing real estate agent. As she looked over to her left (in my Tweet voice) their goes Lawrence looking so good without a mustache OH MY! Issa’s looks as if she is excited and Chad’s mood is all of us!

Take a look at some of the reactions from Twitter as some said: “To hell with Lawrence!”

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Black People Stay Winning! Tiffany Haddish & Katt Williams Win Emmys!

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Tiffany Haddish made history last year for the being the first black female comedienne to host “Saturday Night Live.” Her performance garnered her a Creative Emmy for “best guest actress in a comedy.” During her SNL episode, Haddish addressed the hot button issue of sexual assault in Hollywood. It’s great that Haddish was able to bridge the gap between comedy and current events and get an Emmy for it! Haddish beat out Maya Rudolph, Jane Lynch, Tina Fey, and Wanda Sykes.

Another Emmy award winner we’re excited about is Katt Williams. The comedian won “best guest actor in a comedy” for his appearance on FX’s “Atlanta.” Katt Williams played Earn’s Uncle Willy and stole the show. This is great news because Williams career has gone through its ups and downs along with his personal life. With the Netflix special and this Emmy hopefully, this indicates that the “It’s Pimpin’ Pimpin'” comedian’s career is on an incline and we get to see him in more TV and film projects. Williams beat out Bryan Cranston, Donald Glover, Sterling K. Brown, Lin-Manuel Miranda, and Bill Hader for the award.

It’s great to see black talent that would be classified as “ghetto” or “ratchet” win Emmy awards. This goes to show that that respectability politics isn’t ruling anything over here. Black people are being their authentic selves and getting awards for it.

Are y’all here for the Emmy’s now that we’re getting awards or are they still late like always? Let us know in the comments.

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