written by Elizabeth Walker
I am a black, heterosexual, married woman with kids.
I am not sexist because I have a male friend.
I am not racist because I have a black friend, or a white friend, or a Latino friend, or an Asian friend.
I am not homophobic because I have a gay friend.
All of these sentences sound ridiculous. Utterly ridiculous, as having one friend does not shift your internal belief about a particular gender, race, or sexuality.
I will admit that I have and will probably keep saying something that is offensive, whether it is intentional or not. It is never my intent to hurt people even when I am hurt. Yet, I watched along with you Nene on The Real Housewives of Atlanta and cringed when she threw a party titled, “Girls and Gays” or “Girls and Bring A Gay.” It appears there wasn’t a consensus on the title of the party, and Nene even said that her intent was not to be offensive. Yet, I don’t care about her intent. Any person with any common sense would know that this is bottom line offensive.
It was gross.
“A gay male is not a handbag.”
A gay male is not a necklace that goes with my fabulous Tiffany’s earrings.
A gay male is a male. A person.
This party reaffirms how gay males, throughout the years have been exploited for their quick retorts. NeNe, has made a career off taking the language of her “gay accessories” while giving them no credit.
The fact she threw a party for the girls and the gays is just so offensive on so many levels and how dare people attend!
How can people show up to a party that degraded the very being of a group of people? I will admit that Derek J confronted her about the name of the party, but Nene just showed you how she felt about gay men – she means you no harm as she uses them to make more money off of their talent.
Nene may not be homophobic, but she is a parasite of black gay men.