After gathering my spirit to discuss this situation, I am now ready. A message that I felt in my spirit but just didn’t want to let it out. It needs to be said, though.
If you’ve been following the story about the drama with Stahr Milan and the young gay black men he was supposed to be mentoring you will understand where I’m coming from.
Almost 6 months ago, word got out around YouTube of a couple young gay men were allegedly raped and mistreated from someone who they trusted. It got real out of hand and I let my feelings get me into it and I discussed it in a couple of videos. I’ve been out since I was 16 and have had some experiences and lost a couple of friends to things that could have been prevented.
The gay houses (basically gay family) was something I heard about during my Myspace days. There were supposed to help and teach young gays what to look out for in the community. There was also a dark side to some of the houses. Some of the fathers and mothers who started their houses were having sex with the youth they were supposed to be mentoring.
Now some of you may be wondering what is the purpose of a gay house and a gay mother or father. Most of us are shunned out of our families when we decide to stop lying about our sexuality and just be ourselves. Thankfully I didn’t have to deal with that. There was one time where Ms. James did tell me to leave lol. She wasn’t serious she just didn’t understand my life and thought it was a phase. It wasn’t and she knows that now. A lot of other gay teens don’t have it like that. This was the purpose of the houses but some older gay men knew this and preyed on the young.
When I think of some of the gay houses it reminded me of “Pleasure Island” a fictional island that all the bad boys were sent to. At first glance, it looked like fun until they realized everything you see ain’t always good.
Now there were several alleged claims of sexual abuse that were told but never verified. At first, Stahr said he never had sex with any of them. Did several videos, tweets & posts to prove he didn’t. He later admitted to having sex with them but made it seem like it was consensual.
In Georgia, the age of consent to engage in sex is 16. However, there can be no conviction for statutory rape in Georgia based only on the unsupported testimony of the victim. There must be some additional evidence. This might include physical evidence, the testimony of another witness, or the admission of the offender. –LegalMatch.com
To my young gay brothers and parents of young gay black men. Be careful. Everything you see ain’t what you get. Unfortunately, there are people who are out to get to you and use you until you have nothing left. They may offer your clothes and a place to lay your head. It may at first look like love but don’t be fooled so easily. No one should be asking you to do anything in return like sex or help with
selling Phoenix tears and bacon drippings any fraudulent activities.
Tahj has recently met up with Stahr and has forgiven him for whatever may have happened.
Stockholm syndrome. : the psychological tendency of a hostage to bond with, identify with, or sympathize with his or her captor.-Merriam-Webster Dictionary
I hope everything works out for the best for them I just don’t want any more young gay teens to fall into this trap. Do not be impressed by what you see on Instagram and Facebook or social media period. Some of these people are suffering from real life issues and barely getting by. Do you and be safe out here. Trust but verify any of these people who come into your life.
Parents or whoever, I hope this makes you want to reach out to any of your young gay family members no matter if they’re your son, nephew, cousin, etc. Don’t let the streets and scammers raise your child when you can.
If you are a young gay man of color and have any questions, need advice or anything please reach out to someone including me. [email protected]
‘Ru Paul’s Drag Race’ Star Chi Chi DeVayne Passes Away at 34-Years-Old
Zavion Davenport, better known as RuPaul’s Drag Race’s Chi Chi DeVayne has died at the young age of 34, fellow alum Trinity K. Bonet confirmed on Instagram today.
The Drag Race contestant had been diagnosed with scleroderma, also called crest syndrome, back in 2018.
Fans and other contestants of the show had been sharing the DeVayne’s payment information to assist with the overwhelming cost of hospital bills. Shea Coulee and Priyanka had been especially involved in raising funds for their fellow alum.
‘Real Housewives of Potomac’ star Candiace Dillard Makes Fatphobic Comment Towards Blogger and Suggest That He “Drop Dead”
*deep negro spiritual sigh* There are very few things that truly anger me. Somehow, Candiace, a woman whose mouth seems to get her beat up often, has found one of those few buttons with her latest statement.
So, here I am, minding my fat ass business when I see this:
Rumor has it that she was talking about Kyle from The Black Socialites. It really doesn’t matter who she was talking about, but I guess we’ll never know because she didn’t have the courage to say a name. She did have the courage, however, to talk about her involvement with “plots” against other cast members. She was able to talk for two hours, under the glow of her pale husband’s flickering TV screen, about absolutely nothing of substance.
There are uprisings happening, a pandemic happening, but she’s worried about “plotting” in the DMV. We just passed the 6th anniversary of Michael Brown’s death. That’s in her backyard. That’s a pain that she should be deconstructing. Instead she chooses to attack a fat Black man who is working hard to bring her show press.
I’ll end with the victim’s words, and we can all go back to not knowing Candiace exists:
Trump Administration Cuts Protections for Transgender Americans
On Friday, the Trump administration announced it would be rolling back an Obama-era rule protecting transgender Americans from discrimination in health care.
Under the Obama administration, Section 1557 of the Affordable Care Act expanded the definition of sex discrimination to include discrimination based on one’s gender identity. Under a revised version of the rule, the Department of Health and Human Services will enforce Section 1557 “by returning to the government’s interpretation of sex discrimination according to the plain meaning of the word ‘sex’ as male or female and as determined by biology” beginning in mid-August. In other words, doctors and insurance companies receiving funding from the Fed can legally refuse any patient needing transition-related medical care.
Of course, as quickly as the rule was finalized, many LGBTQ+ organizations including the ACLU,announced intentions to sue the Trump administration over this new language. “The Trump admin has issued a rule that will embolden health care discrimination against transgender people.. All while a global pandemic is occurring.” said the ACLU in a tweet.
Forget a global pandemic, ACLU. Friday’s announcement came on the fourth anniversary of the Pulse nightclub tragedy, a mass shooting at a popular Florida gay nightclub that left 49 people and the shooter dead.
President Trump has made it clear how he feels about the nearly 1.4 million transgender people in this country, his fellow Americans – he doesn’t feel anything.